Hey MC;
You know sometimes I think we worry too much! I have 3 children and have learned to roll with the punches over the years. Each child is different and we just have to be flexible!
I think there is nothing wrong with your daughter only eating pureed items, especially if she is getting her vegetables, protein and fruit. They will move at their own pace.
Does she like cherrios or my one son loved to chew on pizza crust. Another of my kids loved to chew the cob after we had eaten the corn off. Texture is a tricky thing and some are slower to warm up to it then others. Banana was fun, messy but fun. Mash it around but eventually it would end up in the mouth.
I understand being a full time mom with a little one is hard sometimes, I use to not have the patience to play the what will you eat game either.
I have one daughter who is 10 and to this day does not eat normal kid food. No pizza, spaghetti, PB & J, soups, hamburgers, hot dogs. She loves fruits, tomatoes, carrots, chicken and pork deepfried or sauted and breads but no pastas. Go Figure!
Milk I introduced after breast and bottle feeding, in a sipper cup on the high chair. Once again more interested in times in fingerpainting with milk that dribbles out then drinking but that is part of the process.
Another suggestion about new foods/textures. Have the high chair right next to you or your husband so that the child can reach your plate. My one daughter was always very intrigued by what was on our plates and different than her food. Many a time she would reach over and pick up a little piece when she thought no one was paying any attention and try it. Sometimes she liked and other times not but she was trying new things, once again at her own pace.
Good Luck!
S. Chase