Miscarriage Question

HEY MY NAME IS C..AND I DID HAVE A SIMILAR EXPERICE.I WAS 6 MONTHS PREGNANT AND THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS FINE..THE DOCTORS HAD TOLD ME THAT I WAS ALRIGHT AND MY BABY WAS ALRIGHT.BUT A COUPLE WEEKS LATER I WENT BACK FOR A CHECKUP AND THEY COULDN'T FIND A HEARTBEAT.THEY TOLD ME IT WAS BECAUSE OF THE WAY MY BABY WAS LAYING..THE VERY MORNING OF MY NEXT APPOINTMENT I GOT UP AND WENT TO THE BATHROOM AND THERE IS WHERE MY BABY CAME OUT...I HAD LOST HER AT 6 MONTHS....I DIDN'T HAVE ANY PAINS OR BLEEDING EITHER..JUST TELL YOUR SISTER TO BE VERY CAREFULL IF SHE WANTS THIS CHILD OR SHE JUST MIGHT LOSE IT,AND THAT HURTS REALLY BAD....I DON'T THINK IT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER WEIGHT..IT MIGHT HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE ALCOHOL..JUST TELL HER THE FACTS..THAT SHE MIGHT LOSE THIS CHILD IF SHE DON'T STOP WITH THE ACOHOL.

First I want to say I am sorry about her lost.
I have had 2 miscarriages and it was very hard.
The 1st miscarriage I was only 6weeks so The baby actually passed while I was useing the bathroom. I had to flush and that took me over an hour. I had already been to er the night before and they told me I lost the baby and come back the next day. before I went well thats when I passsed it.
The 2nd time was even harder I did not bleed like i did the 1st time and I thought I was ok.
I made a call to the doctor and was told every thing was ok to just lay down and they would see me that week.
I didn't bleed anymore other than a spot or two the day I called. I went in and there was no heart beat. We were like 4 months along and thought we were in the clear.

I now have a 11 month old 6 years later. When I was seeing my new doctor this time with new insurance (I USE TO HAVE TN CARE)and was treated so much better.I was put on high risk and that 1st visit they checked my hormone level. I was very low and that was very harmful to the baby and I would lose him if they didn't put me on pills to bring it up. They did and after 12 weeks we were fine.
The first 2 babies I lost I still don't and won't know what happened, but I do have a wonderful OBGYN AT ST.MARYS NAMED DR.EDMUNDS who I feel saved this baby.
I wish her all the best and be there for her. I wanted my life to end after that 2nd lost and later like 2 months later when I had put this all behind me the lab sent me the wrong form telling me (instead of ut) that it was a girl,I had lost! I use to wear a size 10 before all this, then went to a size 3 without even trying. I threw up,up to 3 months after any time I ate. I hope your sister has all the love and support she needs. Maybe even someone she can talk to.
I hope she don't blame her self. In truth we all do but, tell her over and over it was not her fault no matter her weight or condtion with drinking.
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Hi B.,

I was pregnant last May - the same thing happened to me. I am not overweight at all, but our situation sounds so much alike. So if it is the same as what happened to me, it probably doesn't have to do with weight. I was 8 weeks pregnant, but they showed the baby being only the size of a 5 week old. The baby was there and they couldn't get a heartbeat, but they said it may be because it was too early to hear. I went for two more sonograms after that, and they said it wasn't growing - they explained to me, in other words, that the baby just didn't grow anymore and wouldn't. I had no cramps or bleeding. I had to get a D & C. Even so early in the pregnancy, it is such an emotional thing to go thru, so I really hope it is not the same thing. Good luck to her!

Hello... UMM I have had this problem. In Feb. 2005, I went in for my 9 week checkup and had a u/s to make sure baby was measuring 9 weeks, etc... well he said he didnt see its heart beating, well, he said it could be the way the baby is laying, so he said to come back in on Friday of that week.. (this was on a monday) Ok first off the baby was measuring 8 weeks, I even got a little picture of it. Anyways on friday I went back in and done a u/s and there wasnt anything there.He had to go back into my files to make sure there was a baby there in the first place and of course he had the pictures., what happened was the baby deterated in my body.. like my stomach acids pretty much took over. I didnt have any cramps or bleeding, I had to have a d & c that nite to get the remains out. Luckly, 5 mths later I got preg. again and she is 10 mths old now.

She could def. be having a miscarriage w/o bleeding. There should eventually be bleeding, but it doesn't always happen right away. I've had one ectopic pregnancy which required emergency surgery, and one miscarriage which was called a blighted ovum. My body didn't recognize that it really wasn't pregnant, and finally after a week without my body starting to cleanse itself, my doctor performed a D&C.

I miscarried at 12 1/2 weeks. I didn't know I had miscarried until I went in for an ultrasound at 12 weeks and the baby was only measuring at 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. The very next day I started bleeding. So it took over a month from the time the baby died for me to actually miscarry. I am thankful that I didn't know and that I didn't have to have a d&c. It is possible that she will go ahead and have her cycle (assuming the tech wasn't wrong).

I found that there is very little info available to help women with miscarriage and I am really happy to correspond with her or with you if she is needing support.

Blessings,
D.

A friend of my just miscarried a couple of weeks ago. She told me on Christmas day that she was pregnant, went to the doctor the first week of Jan for a blood test and yes she was pregnant. They told her to come back in two days for an ultrasound to make sure how far along she was since she had recently changed birthcontrol pills she was not sure. When they did the ultrasound she had lost the baby with no sign what so ever. The doctor told her she could wait for it to happen "naturally" or could schedule a D&C which is what she did. So, I guess you don't always have signs with a miscarriage. Hope this helps. I will be praying for your family. Let us know how it goes Forgot to mention that she was supposed to be 12 weeks and the baby had died at 9-10 weeks, she is not overweight and she still had sickness until the D&C was done.

Hi,
she may not be having a miscarriage at all...
when i was pregnant with my youngest ( now 14), i had alot of issues. Just to kinda tell you what i went threw, maybe it will help!
I went threw a very scary process.... when the baby got large enough to hear a heart beat, my dr's told me there wasn't one, and told me that they were going to do an ultrasound, and then prep me for a miscarriage. I was mortified.
I went threw the ultrasound.. and the tech kept asking me how far along i was etc... then he showed me what was going on... the baby was at 6 weeks of age, but my water sac was at 10 weeks of age. when i went to my dr. he explained to me that it was just a fluke of genetics, but it was going to make it difficult to moniter the baby's growth, etc. So, threwout my pregnancy with her, they never heard a heartbeat, and i didn't show until my 8th month, and i never felt her move. 2 months before she was due, i started having contractions 2 minutes apart, that never progressed into hard labor, as my dr. explained to me, it was false labor, due to the water sac being 4 weeks farther along then the baby and they put me on med's to stop the contractions. I stayed on bed rest and the med's til 2 weeks before she was due, and then my dr told me she was far enough along to deliver. In the delivery room when my sac was broken, it made the delivery very hard, because there was so much extra water to deal with and it made it hard to get ahold of her and make sure she was ok, and to make sure there wasn't a rupture or anything for me.
But now, 14 yrs. later she is a very healthy happy child, she has no disability's or learning problems, nothing of the sort. So, it may not be that she's having a miscarriage at all, it may just be a fluke of genetics. Now as far as the alcohol goes, that I can't say really anything about, as I don't drink, but it might be something to bring up to her dr. I hope that maybe this has helped with your situation. Good luck!
R.

Bandy,
Hi, I am not sure of what to tell you about your sister. I will pray for her.
But I did want to tell you that you will love Daphne. I have an uncle that lives there and I have been there lots of times and would love to move there myself. So good luck with the move and maybe getting back to work.

J.

Both times I miscarried, the sickness went away immediately, but I didn't realize that I had miscarried until days or maybe a week later when the cramping and bleeding started. I would say that if she is still sick, that may be a good sign.

I just read your follow up. I'm sorry that she miscarried. I have had two, but now have a beautiful five year old. Good luck to you both.

Hi B., My daughter was heavy when she got pregnant with my grandson. If your sister is still having morning sickness, or not able to hold down food it could explain the difference in the 3 weeks. They usually base the size of the baby to come up with a more accurate date. It could be possible that your sister still being sick could result in the baby not getting enough nourishment. Also, dates could be wrong. If alcohol is involved that could also explain the baby being smaller in size than the real amount of weeks she is pregnant. Alcohol and pregnancy don't mix. As far as the heartbeat, the baby could be in a place where it is just hard for them to detect the heartbeat. Also tell your sister to ask her doctor how her potassium level is. If your sister is vomiting alot that could cause her potassium to be to low and also not let the baby gain weight as it should. And also it will make her feel real bad. As far as a miscarriage, the doctor would be able to tell if your sister has had a miscarriage and if her blood work is fine than I wouldn't think anything would be wrong. Just a little insight for you, be sure to have your sister ask what her blood type is. I'm A-negative and that can cause a problem, especially if this is a secong, third, fourth, ect... pregnancy. Look up about the RH factor in pregnancy. Also with her being heavy, they will probably monitor her more closely because of toxemia poisioning, or gestinal diabetes associated with pregnancy, high blood pressure, ect... Hope this helps, and tell your sister good luck. Be sure to let us all know when she has the baby!!!!

about bleeding from a miscarriage, it don't always happen my sister has had 2 miscarriages and never bled with either one and she is not over weight i guess they are diffrent for diffrent people. my sister found out both times by going to the doctor also for just a normal visit or so she thought. i'm sorry your sister had a miscarriage but tell her not to loose hope my sister just had her 2nd baby in november!!