S.J.
Hi J.,
I have also heard a lot of good things about "A Strong Willed Child", but I haven't read it. My first is very strong willed. He also told me that he didn't want to be told what to do, etc, etc. I found some quick success with using his own strategy on him. He asked me for something and I told him told him no because I didn't want him to tell me what he wanted. It led to a great discussion about co-operation and doing what he was told. He is very smart and very logical. I told him that if he didn't co-operate with others, no one was going to co-operate with him. Life has been much easier since. If he starts to revert, I remind him that the only way to accomplish anything is with co-operation and it seems to work.
Good luck!!