A recent study shows that parents are less happy than non-parents. For all the rewards of being a mom, and they are so precious, the demands are many times greater.
Women who realize before the birth that amazing heroism will be required for a very long stretch of time, and are willing and able to accept that baby will their number one priority for however long it takes, are generally happier with the whole experience of parenthood. And while there are always exceptions in both directions, their kids appear to be the ones who are best adjusted, calmest, and most delighted with being in the world.
I wish there were a gentler way to tell you this, but your son will be able to sleep when his little body and nervous systems allow it. Fiddling with feedings, schedules, etc, might help a bit, but his pattern is his pattern until it changes. That could be next month or in two years.
You'll be tired, a lot. So get whatever support you can, maybe hire a sitter once in awhile if you are able, so you can take the occasional catch-up nap. It will make your next year or so easier and more rewarding. But you'll do better overall, and so will your son, if you just accept the fact that most babies do not sleep well for their first two years. Even after they do for awhile, they go through stages where they simply do not.
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