Monetary Weddding Gift

Wow, 200 guests for a THIRD wedding?! $100 is more than enough. Maybe make it a gift card for a marriage counselor? ;-)

I think $100 is too much, especially for the second wedding of someone who is not a really close friend or family member.

If you can afford it, then $100 is nice but in my opinion more than enough. Considering this isn't a relative and not even real close friend - but she obviously thought close enough to invite you, then I'd be putting more like $50.

(In my experience, I'm sorry to say, sometimes people have invited a lot of "friends" just to get the gifts! I'm not saying your friend is doing this, but it sounds odd if it's a "budget-conscious" wedding to be inviting not-so-close friends; especially since it's a second and third wedding!)

To answer your question, yes, you're overthinking this!! lol!!

Have fun!!!

p.s. Thank you "Queen of the Castle" - I needed that laugh today!!

HOLY CATS!!! $100-200 ?!?!? We didn't get that from anyone except CLOSE family for our FIRST wedding!!! Most we got from a CLOSE friend (standing up in wedding) was $75...I guess we are a little more conservative...most we have given is $75 and that is for a CLOSE friend, again, one where we have been IN the wedding.

I am sure $100 is plenty...Especially if you attended/gave gifts for her first two weddings.

I still can't believe $100-200 though...cripes...

If it were someone I am not that close to, I would give $100.

If it is family, or a very close friend... I'd give $200+

Plus, this is the 2nd and 3rd marriage for each so they should be set. Hopefully this one will work out.

ETA: @ Queen.. you said it well!

I have to admit that I cannot fathom giving that kind of monetary gift for a third marriage. I really can't.

Sorry - that's probably not helpful, but it's not your "job" to pay for the wedding and supper. If she can't afford her third wedding "celebration", she shouldn't be having one.

I'll just bet they have a registry (eye roll), so I would get them something from there that doesn't cost more than $75, including the tax...

for a friend you aren't that close to, I'd say 50-100 is plenty, especially for a 3rd marriage. I've never given more than a hundred to anyone who wasn't close family.

$100. is plenty..

Money? For a 2nd and 3rd wedding?
Nope. Not happening.

What poor taste!
Gift card. Or gift. ( I sure hope they didn't register ! Lol)

Wow!! I should have invited you to my 2nd wedding!!

$200 for people you really aren't close with? WWWAAAYY too much in my book. $100 is fine.

If they were family - someone you kept in touch with daily/weekly - yeah - $200 - but you are "not too close but close enough..." nope WAY too much.

Sorry - Had to repeat myself there.

Finding what you are comfortable with is most important. I believe second and third marriages to anyone who is not close family or friends is a token gift. Gifts were started to get the couple started in life. With multiple marriages later in life I see it as the couple celebrating and not looking for gifts. If it's not the case in this situation this probably doesn't offer much. Good luck.

wow a 100 is more than enough,. tecchnically you're supposed to try and cover your cost (thats what we do around here) so if you're invited to an elaborate wedding you would give more, but then again thats for a 1st....if someone throws and insanely expensive 3rd wedding that cost is on them.

I'm getting married a second and final=) time in august it will be my fiancees first we are having between 50-75 people including kids and i dont expect anything...anything we get will be more than appreciated and loved=)

Since they are both older and this is not either of their first marriage, I think $100 is fine. Or you could do a $100 to their favorite restaurant.

I think $200 is too much if you haven't kept in touch and met him. Do you moved did you have to spend money to travel?

If you get together socially on a regular basis $100 is appropriate. If you are much closer or would like to help out financially than $200. If you only see them rarely like on holidays or special occasions then $50 will do.

I would split the difference and give $150 if you can afford it.
My husband and I can easily spend over $100 on a date night. At a wedding you have an open bar, appetizers, meal, dessert and dancing for typically 5 hours. I live in The Phila area so may be that makes a difference.

If I attend the wedding, I typically try to give a gift of at least $50 per person. So if my husband and I both went, I would give at least $100. That's pretty much the bare minimum that they paid per guest. Of course there are situational exceptions. If you go anywhere in between $100 and $200, you won't go wrong. Maybe $100 in cash and a $50 gift card to Home Depot or somewhere else that they may like?

I say split the difference and compromise...$150.

$100 is plenty.
khairete
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Yes you are, if you have $100 or $200 extra dollars to give as a gift I'd agree with your husband. When you mentioned "budget conscious" and the number of marriages between the couple, I was thinking just get them a nice picture frame from a place like Bed, Bath and Beyond or Target. One can get the same pretty things there as you would at Nordstrom's or other upscale stores.

Have fun at the wedding, it sounds like fun....hope the food is good and the champaign flows!