Mother in law...need I Say More?

Hi Kimberly -
You absolutely did the right thing as far as saying no. You told her your wishes and GAVE her a chance to comply, and she did not. You cannot risk your daughter's safety and well being. Quite honestly, your MIL should not be driving herself, either - she could harm herself or someone else. Perhaps, to keep the peace and show that you do still want her to be part of your daughter's life, you could offer to go see her on a regular basis, taking your daughter with you, and drive her around to do errands, etc. while she visits with your daughter.
Good luck!
N.

Your first duty is to protect your daughter. If you feel like she's not safe with your MIL, then you're doing the right thing. But not being home when they come over is probably not going to help the situation. By the way, what does her doctor say about her driving? Should she be driving at all?

I would just like to say if she loves her granddaughter then she would not put her in harms way...She needs to get checked on the passing out part because she shouldnt be driving if she passes out(Due to putting others in harms way)Dont budge because this is your daughter and you have every right to protect her even if it means staying away until the point is set across!

MIL's!!!!!!! Don't get me started! Take her over there, wait for her to get in the car, then call the police!!!!!!

Your child's safety and well being comes first. Period. You've set boundaries and they were violated by your mother in law. You, therefore, are setting the boundaries more firmly. The family in law is not happy with you setting boundaries for your daughter's safety and wellbeing? Well, I say those are their unhappy feelings to contend with. I recommend you continue to keep your distance but reach out in ways like baking a cake and sending with your husband (or a casserole or something small)on a regular basis. It will mean more in terms of creating harmony in the long run even if they don't acknowledge it. Try not to allow yourself to get sucked in to the "insanity" of family members making you feel like an alien for making decisions you feel are best for your child. Feel confident in your decisions and let them work through their anger/resentment/misplaced blame on their own. Unplug as much as possible from that and focus on your love for your husband and daughter. This is your family! : )

You go girl!! You are absolutely making the right decision. While I think mil should see her grandchild, that is only if she can follow the rules and I think it is your husband who needs to lay the law down, or I think mil will never respect the decision.I do think it is wise for dad to be there when your daughter is visiting grandma. Remember it s always about the well-being of the child and not about whether you've hurt her feelings. She is a big girl and will be okay!!!

u know what? be as nice as you can with your inlaws- AND I KNOW IT'S HARD- but compromising your daughter's life is not an option. Stay out of their way, if someone confronts you, just let them know how you don't want your mother--in-law to live the rest of her life in a depression and not forgiving herself for killing your child! They will get over you and your MIL not getting along, but you won't get over the death of your child. I'm on your side. Those complaning can let her be their chauffer.

Hi Kim,

I totally understand what your going through since this is also a problem at our house! I,too, have made decisions about my son's well being that involved putting restrictions on my mother in law. Needless to say, she FREAKED OUT to the point that she hasn't spoken to my husband for a few weeks (not that its a bad thing). That being said, I still feel quite strongly about the fact that you need to stick to your guns! Your child's safty is at stake and that is more important than you mother in laws pride!! Lastly, if anything did ever happen, you'd never forgive yourself. Well, good luck with the mother in law and have a great weekend!!

Your friend,
M.