Mother's Day Forgetfulness

It's happened. His mom was remembered, but not me... my child was young and couldn't do anything, buy anything, and since I'm not his mom he didn't think about it.

It truely is just a day on a calendar, why Mom's only get to be celebrated on the 2nd Sunday in May is sad.

M.

I am a single mom. My sons was 3 y/o. His dad was away with military. His parents and my parents helped me regularly and not a single person even helped him write his name on a piece of paper for me. I planned for us to eat dinner with each of his grandmas, we saw great grandparents but no one had a card for me from my child....It was the last year it was forgotten.

I think it's ridiculous to sit and hold your breath and wait and see if anyone remembers. For my birthday and for Mothers' Day, it's talked about well in advance. We discuss what we'll be doing for the day, and this year I even told my son and husband what I wanted as a gift (to take the stress off of them trying to figure out what to get me)---plus, we have set up brunch plans with my mother-in-law..... so in answer to your question, what I would do if my family "forgot" Mothers' Day is I would kick myself for being so quiet about it beforehand that they even had the opportunity to not realize it's on the calendar!! Duh! I seriously hope you aren't going to wake up in the morning and say nothing at all until someone else says something! Wake up and say, "Happy Mothers' Day to me!! Who is making my breakfast?!"

Last year was my first year as a stepmom, and while I totally understood that my stepdaughter would be spending the day with her mom, I did not receive a card, a gift, or ANY kind of acknowledgment around Mother's Day. My husband said he just didn't think of it.

So this year I declared the Friday before to be Stepmommy Day! I planned the day myself, letting my husband and stepdaughter know what I wanted. I got a pedicure with my SD and my husband made sure she had a gift for me (which she was very excited to pick out herself!)

I can't rely on them to remember because I remind them of everything else (birthdays, holidays, etc.) So I take it upon myself to celebrate!

every day is not mother's day.
if your family has forgotten mother's day, get dressed and announce you're taking the day for yourself. go to a coffee shop, bookstore, get your nails done...whatever.
just do it.
if you wait to be shown love and appreciation, and it doesn't come, then do it for yourself.

My husband doesn't forget Mother's Day....he just doesn't care. I'm not sure what is worse: forgetting or not caring. So, this Mother's Day I'm planning on leaving the kids with him while my mom and I celebrate together over a nice peaceful brunch.

Hope you have a good Mother's Day!!!!

I would forget it if my husband wouldn't remember it for me! To me, it's just not that big of a deal. Every day is mother's day in my opinion. I have a wonderful husband, who wouldn't dream of forgetting any important holiday or event. Maybe that's why it's not a big deal to me, because I know it will never be forgotten, and besides, he treats me with tons of respect everyday, so each day is an important day for us. I married good!! I do have to I agree with Ree Al U T though, why would anyone sit around basically on a pity party, just to see if your family would forget? Go plan something!! Happy mother's day!!

Well maybe you should forget the laundry, cooking, cleaning for today. Maybe forget tomorrow also. Take yourself and go get your nails done! Enjoy the day no matter what.

I will wish you a HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!

Are you talking about your husband or your kids? Your husband AND your kids?
I've been single a long time, but my kids have never forgotten Mother's Day. They always do something nice for me.
I have friends whose husbands forget or say, "You aren't my mother" which never made sense to me, especially when the women are the mothers of their children.
One friend's husband has flowers sent to her which she has been very vocal about not appreciating, but, she ends up taking them to the cemetery and having a visit with her mother and leaves the flowers there.
It's kind of hard to answer your question. I don't know what you mean by your "family" forgetting.
Personally, I don't know how it's possible to "forget" Mother's Day with all the commercials on TV and reminders in the stores.
If your family forgets, think of something you'd really like to do and do it. Or, do the opposite, which is, "Mommy's taking a day off".

I guess it all depends. If you want to start a tradition with your family, start one. If it seems they've forgotten, tell your husband to get the kids ready because he's taking you to breakfast. Or throw some snacks together and say "we're going to the park". Or, say, "You all have a good day, Mommy's going to the saloon. I mean, salon." (Hee hee).
I hope you get some great advice.

I always send Mother's Day cards to my women friends and family.

So....if someone forgets you, I won't.

I wish you a very lovely and happy Mother's Day!

I always remind my family it's coming up AND I make the plans for the day so nobody has a chance to forget. (I do the same for my birthday.) I don't wait around for people to remember stuff because if it doesn't revolve around them -- they don't!! I plan trips to the zoo or a favorite wildlife rehab place where we make a donation in honor of Mother's Day for the motherless animals being raised there. So, if your family forgot this year, make sure that next year you remind them, make the plans and be in charge! Happy Mother's Day!

Welll... my kids give me cards that they pick out. Some years I get more "stuff" than others. Really I just prefer to be appreciated. My husband will call his mother and we'll get her a present. My mother, I'll call her at the end of the day but I don't get her a present. I think it's ridiculous that we are forced to making our mom's feel special by buying them cards that they "expect". I'd rather spend time with them at random, just like I'd rather my husband buy me flowers at random not on Valentine's Day. But for your original question... if they forgot, I might have to "forget" Father's Day or a birthday or two. ;)

What's with everyone saying "everyday is mothers day"? no it's not, it's everything but mothers day!

There is no way to forget Mothers Day, it' everywhere. You cant turn around without it being thrown at you. If you want to celebrate it just walk out & go do something for yourself, you won't disappoint yourself! Happy Mothers Day to you!!!!!!

I'd make sure they didn't forget. =)

Tomorrow is Mother's Day, and I wish they would. My husband went for years saying "your not my mother". Now his mother is dead and he wants to do something for me. Too late.
Two of my three kids are mad at each other, so neither will be here unless something changes. I will be getting a necklace from my daughter, in the mail.
I hate Mother's Day. I wish they would just forget about it rather than talk big about it and then ruin it.

My husband will forget, no doubt. My kids are too young to care. I'll just go on with my day just the same. Isn't every day "Mother's Day"?

B.

I know this is a late response now but after reading everyone else's comments I had to post my own anyway.

I'm not a mother now but years ago I was a mother figure for my previous boyfriend's son. We lived together and while he did have some contact with his birth mother, she had minimal time for him. Anyway, it was the Friday before Mother's Day and I knew they would be making something in his 2nd grade class for their mothers, so I was kind of excited to see what I would get, as it would be my first ever mother's day gift. Well, Josh came home from school, all excited to show me something, but when he did, I confess my heart fell. Since he wasn't going to see his mom, he decided to make a present for his dad instead. It was a really cool booklet that he colored. He had to answer all kinds of questions that pertained to his dad, and also questions about himself. It was way cool and I admit I was a little heartbroken and jealous. But, I know Josh didn't mean to hurt my feelings (in fact, later he apologized for not thinking of me--I don't know if his dad told him to or not). I guess I just felt more like his mother than he felt I was!

So now I'm married and my husband and I both don't want kids this late in life. (We're content with our many nieces and nephews). But there's another raw chord...Valentine's Day. Before we started dating, I was single for several years, and I was excited to have a boyfriend when our first V-Day together rolled around. Then out of the blue, and kind of at the last minute, he informed that he doesn't celebrate V-Day--it's just a Hallmark Holiday and he doesn't need a special day to tell me he loves me. He called Mother's Day a Hallmark Holiday as well, yet he takes his mom out for lunch to celebrate it every year, but he won't budge on V-Day. We did compromise that first year and say we would celebrate without having to spend money on presents or dinners--just some quiet time together and maybe rent a movie--but it hasn't happened since that first year. I guess I've grown used to it, but I wouldn't mind if he suddenly decided to celebrate!

The reason I brought it up here is because after reading so many comments from mothers here who say they'll celebrate M-Day for themselves if their families don't celebrate it, I think that's what I'll start doing for V-Day. What a great idea!

Theres nothign worse than forgetting it but honestly I think being forced out of it has to be the ultimate worst. I have 10 loads of laundry, 2 toddlers to entertain, house to clean and boxes to move all day tomorrow so i can rent out my house soon. I have to do shopping and cater to everyone needs for food/drink. Its a normal day. Hubby has to do school sun up to sun down then is off to work extremely earlier, mind you he has worked already 2 weeks straight. Tomorrow is just another day, although it does irk me some it is just a silly holiday made up to force ppl to be nice to one another. and sell flowers and candy...marketing scam.

My husband got me a gift for mothers day even though I am not his mother nor do we have children (yet) but I do have a 6 yo from another marriage, so for him to get me anything is awesome and I love him even more each and every day!