Hi everyone,
My husband and I are contemplating moving. We would like to keep our boys in the same school with friends they already have. We found a house close by, but that subdivision goes to a different elementary school and middle school. We are feeling torn. My oldest son is somewhat socially awkward and only has a few friends but does have a best friend that he has been very close to for the last 3 years. I feel we could be hurting him by moving him to a different school for 4th grade and that it would be harder for him, than for most kids, to make new friends. My husband sees this as an opportunity to make new friends since he is not the biggest fan of my sons friends! Any advice?
Nickie
If you are going to move to another school then I would do it now while he is young. If he has a hard time making friends then he will have a harder time the older he gets.
Better now than in middle school...
I'd say move.
School will be out for summer soon.
You have the summer to meet new kids in the neighborhood, walk the new school to get familiar with it, and the time to talk to your son about reinventing himself since he's in a new place.
Way easier to move elementary kids than it is to move highschool kids that have much more emotionally stronger bonds with friends.
You said you are "contemplating moving..."
Do you have to?
Having him go to the new school in the 4th grade would be a good opportunity for him to make a few new friends and then when he moves on the Middle School next year he will know more kids. He probably is going to eventually have to attend in the new area. I am assuming the new house is located in a different District and so the Middle School wouldn't have his old friends going to it either, We have often had the same thoughts but we have not made a move yet even though my husbands job is located in a different city. I wish you lots of luck in your decision but kids can be a lot more adaptable than we realize.
I'm sure if you looked you would be able to find another house you like that is in his current school's jurisdiction. This is a buyer's market. It really should be easy to find another house.
I think you have to first decide whether or not you want him changing schools. If you weren't already contemplating a move, would your husband want him changing schools? I would answer that question (as a couple) first and the decide which house to buy.
I'd move n if things don't work out than just transfer him back to the old school only sucky part is I'll have to drive n pick him up.
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