We've been in Plano/Allen Texas area for 20+ yrs. We love it now.
At first it was a shock moving from NC with all the beautiful trees etc but within a year or so, we grew to loving the big sky and we love it.
We ended up with the best of both worlds, we are within 30 minutes of downtown Dallas, inside an hour from DFW airport and Love Field (my hubby travels a lot). High end shopping is 15 minutes from me, we're withing 30 minutes of 4 large malls (great shops), and 3 high end shopping centers with high end grocery stores.
Weve lived in the same 5 mile radious the entire time. 10 yrs ago, we found the lot we built this home on and we back up to an 85 acre heavily wooded park with lots of wildlife and treed yard. Perfect! Our trees, big city and all kinds of shopping close by. Schools are great in Plano.
Our property taxes are higher (ours runs about $12-15,000/yr), no state income tax but sales tax is 8.25%.
This area has not seen the economy woes like a lot of the country. Our housing values never plummented. My neighborhood is very friendly and transient.......I'd say there are very few native Texans in my neighborhood.
We are very social and there is a lot to do. The Dallas area is great because DFW is a good airport and you can catch a plane and be on the East or West coast in reasonable time. This makes for great vacation planning. We like the climate, we HATE cold weather and it is limited here with the exception of this past winter when we made history with the amount of snow we had. Summers are hot but we just deal with it because we HATE the cold.
Check places out online and read about different cities in TX and get a feel for how large of a city you would like be be in. ALL areas are not big box houses and chain stores and as far as accepting lifestyles, it is quite nice. We are in a high end area and we have all kinds of families in our neighborhood who are accepted for who they are not judged.
Good luck.