My 10 Month Is Still Nursing...

If she is pinching you it is definitely time to stop. Tell her no when she pinches and take the breast away, give her a bottle and if she won't take it then she will just have to cry it out. Try holding her while she has the bottle, rock her and tell her a story but no breast.
Put some breast milk in the bottle at first then take it over to water. If you want to add formula to the water then start it out that way.
I know letting her cry it out is difficult and living in a double makes you uncomfortable for the neighbors but explain to them you are trying to get her to take a bottle and go to bed. If it is fairly early (before 9:00) when she starts this it should work out.

I don't have any advice on how to get her to stop, but only an opinion to offer. Is there a specific reason you want her to wean? She is obviously not ready. I have 3 girls, none of whom have ever taken a bottle. Not by my choice, they just flat out refuse them no matter what I put inside. By the time my kids are about 10 months old, they are only nursing about 3 times a day. Morning, afternoon and bedtime. Is it really all that inconvenient? Especially if she's only nursing at bedtime? I'm not trying to come down on you, just trying to give you a little perspective. She doesn't have to sleep in your bed. If that is how she nurses and falls a sleep, maybe try nursing her to sleep then moving her to her crib.

You say she won't take formula. Will she take a bottle at all? If not, and if the issue is being hungry, my nephew refused bottles and they tried a baby-geared sippy cup at about 6 months and it worked. You might try that.

However, I suspect it's more about comfort, or else she would take a feeding in some other form. You mentioned weaning and having her sleep on her own. I would not try to accomplish both at the same time - too much upheaval. Maybe try a staged process. Nurse her to sleep in her crib for a few weeks. Once she is used to her crib, start the bedtime weaning process. You could even feed her, and then if she's asleep, just talk gently to her for a few minutes as she sleeps, keeping her slightly connected with the "waking" world. Therefore, you're creating an "activity" AFTER the last nursing of the day. Over time, the activity could increase and then you're not nursing her to sleep anymore. By then, she might be ready to stop nursing.

Honestly, I didn't have the same problem, but I chose to wean at a little over a year because my son was very distractable (learning to walk, talk, etc. and there was so much to do) and not very interested in sitting down to nurse. If you don't mind continuing for a little while, you would wait for an opportunity to wean when she is in a stage like that. I chose to do it that way because it was a time when he didn't care. Therefore, he didn't cry for it. There was too much else to do!

Good luck!

Seems to me that she is not ready to quit nursing. Why do you want to quit? Every baby is ready at a different time. If you continue to nurse her until she is 1 then you can just switch to cow milk - which my daughter MUCH preferred to formula.

As far as I understand it, you are dealing with several issues: she pinches you while nursing, she needs to nurse to go to sleep, and you want her to start sleeping on her own (in her own crib).
You're gonna have to deal with one issue at a time. She is still so young and if you do too many changes at once, it will overwhelm her.
So, first of all, you need her to stop pinching you while nursing. When my son started to bite me while nursing, I removed him from the breast immediately and said 'no'. That worked a couple of times until he started biting me right away again when I offered the breast again, so I gave him a tap right next to his mouth when he bit which startled him enough to stop biting. The biting started up again when he was about 11 months old and one of my friends told me that he is probably done nursing b/c he is starting to "play". So, the trick was to find another method to get him to go to sleep without nursing. He always liked it when I walked around with him in my arms (his head on my shoulders) and that worked to get him to sleep. Then we transitioned to rocking him in the glider in my lap and we still do that. I still enjoy this time with him. You'll have to find out what will work for your daughter. A friend of mine started to put a really soft blanket on her shoulder before picking up her son to put him down for a nap or to sleep (I think he was about 8 months old). Eventually, she laid the blanket in the crib with him and now (he is 15 mnths old) when he gets tired, he goes and gets his blankie. That's how she knows he is ready for bed.
To get her to sleep on her own, try putting a Pack'n Play next to your bed and put her in it for her naps. That's how I transitioned my son from sleeping with me to his crib. First the Pack'n Play at naptime with me right next to him (for about a week). Then he was in the Pack'n Play at night (for about a week), then I started to put him in his crib for naps and then eventually in his crib at night. I was fortunate. He didn't make too much of a fuss during this time and got used to it pretty fast. You and your daughter will figure out what works for you. Just don't give up and be consistent. You can do it.

Congrats on keeping her nursing so long, she will benefit greatly health wise.Too many Moms give up after just a few months or even weeks.
Pinching is bad but she doesn't understand that. Keep her nails short and maybe even putt a mitten on her hand so she can't pinch you.
Pump your breast and put it in a bottle for babies transitioning from breast feeding, the nipples are different than regular bottles.Start by holding her as though you are breast feeding only give her the bottle instead at your body temp. which she is used too. Gradually get away from holding her so close and then slowly start putting her in a crib with the bottle.At 10 months she can hold a bottle herself easily.
Good luck

I know how you feel. It was the same with my daughter. Luckily for me, but not her, she developed an ear infection at 8 mos and could not nurse for several days due to pain. I did not let her go back to nursing.

Have you tried a bottle? When I stopped nursing, I gave her a bottle and she would take that to fall asleep. Maybe your baby would take it to fall asleep with. (with just water in it)
My daughter got just as addicted to the bottle as to nursing, so when she was 15 mos old, I had to cut that off cold turkey, (on the advice from her doctor) which was not easy, she did cry for more than an hour the first night, but it got better from there.

This is going to sound strange, but my son quit nursing at about 9 months quite abruptly. This was not what I'd planned and it was quite uncomfortable. Here's how it happened. We had been out working with some friends (about the age of our parents) all day one summer and our baby was with us. We were hot and our friend suggested that we stop at an ice cream stand that he said used to sell kiddie root beers in tiny mugs. He thought it would be fun to get one for our baby (he was eating anything by this time as well as nursing.) I was a bit aprehensive, but I decided to let him try it. He was surprised by the fizz, but loved it. He soon had the hang of that little mug and was having a great time. Unfortunately, his intrest in nursing ended that day. From then on he only would use a cup or a sippy cup. You might try something like some slightly diluted apple juice in a sippy cup and see if your baby will take it. Just be aware that if your baby stops nursing altogether at one time, it can become very uncomfortable.

My first boy (same child as mentioned above) began teething at 2 mo. He decided to bite down on my nipple with his tiny sharp teeth at about 3 mo. I very gently snapped his cheek with my finger. That ended that. Perhaps you could gently snap your baby's hand that is pinching your breast and say no while she is doing it. Not so hard you hurt her, but a gentle snap won't leave a mark or cause her harm, but it may give you some relief.

Good luck!

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start feeding her solid food.and please donttell me the dr said not to.he/she doesnt always know what they are talking about.try mashed potatoes and cereal.

First mistake is letting her sleep with you. My son nurses still and is 17 mo and he does the pinching also and I say NO Q that hurts and he will stop. I will get his hand and rub it while I nurse him. He JUST did get it in his head I will NOT go in his room when he wakes in the night time so he will cry for about 30 min or so and will go back to sleep. I have some SOFT music in his room as well with a fan to help with the noise in there. It will be hard for you to break her if she is in your room. I know when I go to my moms he sleeps in the room with me in his OWN bed when he wakes up he will see me and want me but I do not get up and he will lay down like he has been hurt so bad whimpering and will go back to sleep lol. He did cry for 1-2 hrs off and on when I was breaking him from getting up in the night time. I KNOW it sounds bad BUT they have to learn to sleep on their own. MOM needs sleep to ya know. lol. Good Luck.... GET her in HER ROOM it will be so much easier to break her.. Glad you admit she needs to stop being in your room.

my husband had to take over bedtime for it to work for us. he changed the routine and since he had no milk it wasn't an issue. he read stories, sang songs, etc.

You're right, making a baby scream itself to sleep rarely works. I'm not sure why you want to stop nursing her early, you've made it 10 months, you might as well go for the last 2 and then switch to cow's milk.
Hold her other hand so she can't pinch your nipple. Play games with her, use her hand to point to your eyes, nose, mouth, etc...and tell he what they are called.
Get "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" or "The Sleep Book" (Dr. Sears), or "The Baby Whisperer". They should help you teach her to sleep on her own without nursing to sleep, but it won't be a quick fix. It took her 10 months to develop her sleep habits, it will take some time to un-learn them.
Good Luck:)

I know exactly how you feel my son was 14 mnths before i finally weaned him and this is how i did it. I at first put him to sleep by rocking him or just holding him it takes time and patience. If she finally sleeps like that, do that for about a month then try layin her down in her bed while you stan beside and slowly move away each night or week. Now about the formula I'm not sure because my son was old enough to have milk. try offering the formula in a breast shaped bottle and hold him with it. I hope this helps you!

Hello A.,
I have a 11 month old daughter who is still nursing. I ahve been trying to ween her for a month. Her doctor said she could have vitamin D milk and she loves it, but at night she has to be nursed to sleep and she still gets up several times. I too want her to sleep on her own and stop nursing. I have a medication I am need to take and I can't while breastfeeding. So if you fing anything that works please forward it to me too. Good luck to you!
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Hi A.,

Congrats on still nursing at 10 months. I am a big supporter or extended breastfeeding, since I think the rewards almost always outweigh the inconveniences.

I had some similar trouble with my daughter, who for the longest time would only fall asleep while nursing. We had good luck with the recommendations from the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." It's written by a physician who has done extensive research on children's sleep habits, and it's got some general principles along with specific advice based on your child's age. There's a little bit of "crying it out", but if you do it right then that phase is very brief (only a couple of days).

As for pinching the other breast, this is a normal part of your daughter exploring her world and also becoming a bit more distractible at this age. It might help to give her something else to hold onto, perhaps a toy with an interesting texture.

And as for formula, many babies who breastfeed for an extended period will refuse to take formula. The iron in it tastes REALLY BAD--try it and you'll see. Check with your pediatrician, but at 10 months you could probably try out whole milk instead. My daughter started on whole milk at 11 months (in addition to breastfeeding 2x per day), although it took her a couple of months to accept the milk on a consistent basis. We also started giving her cheese and baby yogurt at that point to make sure she was getting her calcium.

Hopefully some of that info helps. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

It may seem like she will nurse forever, but she won't. 10 months is still really young, if she is not ready to wean, she still needs to nurse. Enjoy your special time together, it goes by so fast!