My 2 Year Old Hates Me!

perfectly normal and they attach to who they are spending most of their time with mine is rotating between me and daddy and both bubbas. if he is in a bubba mood no one else can touch him mama mood the same thing daddy mood the same thing it is a phase it will pass and dont take it to heart you are a good M. this is just normal 2 yr old behavior

Making sure she's loved is NOT being a bad M.. It sounds like you have a terrific mom who loves her very much.

In this situation, I would have an honest talk with your mom about how you're feeling. Then, figure out a way to slowly transition to you take on the comforting role. It may start off with the three of you cuddling together and then your mom fades out of the role.

Your daughter does love you. Two-year-olds, though, aren't always great at showing it and often go periods when they bond with other adults.

P.S. Try to come up with something special that just you two do together. Maybe it's a weekly trip to the library storytime and then out for frozen yogurt or it's a trip to the park every Friday.

Oh, I am so sorry you feel this way.

Believe me, your daughter loves you...but she obviously loves her grandma, too, and there's nothing wrong with that.

But maybe is your M. spending more time with her than you are? Or, when you are spending time with your daughter, you are busy doing things that have to be done (cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc) where your mom just gets to hold, cuddle, and play?

Try to make every effort to spend the time with your daughter...and if you are busy (we all are) then just try to include her in your chores and make her feel very important.

If they are sleeping together, do you live together? Then it really makes a lot of sense that your M. is an important part of her life. You are, too! Just try to do your best!

I agree with some of the other posts, about trying to do something special with her once or more per week. My 2 year old son, can love me and want no one but me one minute, and the next want nothing to do with me. 2 year olds are fickle, however your situation is a little more extreme due to your circumstances. I would definitely slowly transition the sleeping arrangement to her own bed if that is an option, and then have you and your mom have a heart to heart about how you feel. I know my mom would be heartbroken if she knew that was the way I was feeling, and would do whatever was necessary to repair or strengthen your relationship with your daughter. You are her M., and need to take control of the situation if you want it to improve. good luck!

Hello, I would just make sure that you are the one doing as much as possible for your daughter. She should not sleep with your M. if you want her to be closer with you. You will need your M. to cooperate on this. I am a grandmother and have babysat all of my local grandchildren. It is hard for them to transition from one caregiver to another. I also did licensed family daycare and had the same problem with some of my toddlers and infants when moms would come to pick them up. I would tell them to be the one holding the child when they come in.
Good luck with your precious little girl.

Sounds like a tough situation. Once she's well, I'd work on getting Grandma her own room.

Hugs,

S.

My 11 year old says she hates me. I'm pregnant with my 4th child. I told my children I would be in the hospital for a few days (because I'm having a scheduled c-section). I told my oldest daughter she will probably enjoy my being away for a few days. She said she would not. I asked her why. She said, "Because I will miss you. I love you." With that said, your two year old daughter loves you. Without a doubt.

Does your M. watch her during the week? Can you spend more 1:1 time w her? How hard, just don't make her feel bad for her feelings.

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Does your M. watch her during the week? Can you spend more 1:1 time w her? How hard, just don't make her feel bad for her feelings.