My 3 year old has been potty trained for about a year now, and does not hesitate to ask to go. For the past few months nowshe has episodes where she will pee on herself about 2-3 times in one day. She may have this problem maybe once a month. The strangest thing happened today when her dad picked her up from day care and was told that she peed on herself twice today and from daycare her dad took her to her speech therapy session and while in the middle of her session she pooped on herself. She cannot seem to tell me why this happened. I would like to know if she may have some mental issues that may cause this to happen.
Mental issues?? At three years old?? I doubt it! She can't tell you why this happened because she is three. Three year olds can't describe cause and effect.
She's still very young. She's regressing, which is common. Maybe you could try putting her back in diapers for a few more months.
I highly doubt there is anything wrong with her.
I agree with a couple of responses above that she could be undergoing some kind of stress.
Stress. Girls often have hidden bladder problems. Have you thought of taking her to a urologist?
There is on other thing. The school may have a teacher who berates and speaks harshly to the children. Even if she is not the victim the stress and fear could be unbearable.
My daughter who is a counter phobic personality told me of a teacher left alone in the afternoon with the children who shook a boy my daughter liked.
I went early Monday morning to talk to the head teacher. The violent woman was fired.
Have you tried talking with her about it?
Not in a way that will make her feel self-conscious... but in a light way that will perhaps coax her to say why?
Stress, can also affect kids and it can create 'regression' or accidents.
Then there are age related pee accidents. They at this age "think" they can hold it longer, but they cannot.
That happened to my daughter AT that age too.
But she did not have poop accidents.
But, my Daughter's Preschool Teacher and Kinder Teacher AND 1st Grade teachers, ALL said, that kids these ages do have accidents. Thus, the parent is asked to bring in extra clothing for their child to keep at school.
Is your daughter, stressed about anything?
Any changes in her life?
Any problems you don't know about?
How is Daycare for her?
Or, she could have a medical problem. For example: there is something called "Encopresis" (look it up online), in which a person has leaking of poop. It is INvoluntary.
Or, urinary infections, can cause incontinence too.
So, perhaps think about that too, or take her to the Doctor, to rule out infections.
But, talk with your daughter. Not scolding her or making her feel weird about it.
Per her age she may not be able to be articulate about it.
But just see what she says.
But also, NO kid is 100% perfect about toileting and they DO have accidents... no matter what age. Even older kids have accidents. Too.
And for night time... complete dryness at night is not something that is Biologically attained, until even 7 years old. And this is normal. Kids do still wear diapers at night, at this age. My daughter did until she was already 5 years old.
Something seems to be causing her stress. Children of all ages can start peeing or pooping themselves when under stress. My stepdaughter did that up until age 8. Is speech therapy new or has there been a change in teachers? Has anything else changed with daycare or at home?
She may not be able to tell you what is causing her stress, but I would keep a close watch on what is happening in her world, especially on the days that this happens.
Something is making her nervous. Usually when a child is potty trained and is starting to have accidents, its because something is going on with them or happening to them.... I would pay attention to when she is doing it (if its more often when she is around a certain person or doing an activity, ect...) Sit her down and try to talk to her, but u need to get to the bottom of this, for her sake... if all else fails take her to her doctor.....
I think I would make an appointment with her doctor and get things checked out. Whether it is a mental or a physical thing, something isn't right and her body is letting you know. It could just be a phase, but you will feel better (and hopefully so will she) if you get some advice from a trusted physician.
Good luck!
I agree wholeheartedly with some of the other responses. See if you can pinpoint the days this is happening and if there is a common denominator. Maybe someone is doing something negative in her environment...does it only happen when in someone else's care? Or only on a certain day of the week? Or after eating or drinking certain things? Something is behind it and I think you can find out if you analyze it. Good luck on this situation!
