D.B.
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hello ladies.I have a 7 month old boy whoes been a very happy baby until about 3 weeks ago that he sarted getting angry when he gets board. he wants to be held most of the time &when i dont he screams and fists his hand.ive tried evrything.nothing seems to work.his temper's getting worse. please help me
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It's not just boredom, it's also helplessness and a need for connectedness that your son is experiencing. Please avoid the temptation to label him as "bad-tempered" or dismiss his behavior as inappropriate. He is just trying to tell you he needs something different or more than what's happening. He has no other way to tell you beside yelling or crying. If you don't respond, he feels frustration and tries harder.
He will gradually learn to do more and more for himself, but for now he needs your help to stay engaged. And engagement is how he learns. Historically, people didn't live in isolated families, and so there would be lots of grandparents, cousins and extended family to help keep a baby occupied. Now it's up to you and Daddy. But it's what your son needs to develop up to his capacity.
Well, give him something to stimulate him! Is he getting a lot of tummy time on a play mat with toys around and room to move? Get him some soft stacking blocks and bright cars and things he can manipulate. He's 7 months old -he's an infant, so you're going to go through many stages with personality, temper, etc. And yes, babies do want to be held a lot. When you have to put him down, make sure there are things to play with around him.
When my son started this, we got him an Excersaucer, it allows him to jump and bounce but safetly. There are many colorful toys attached to it, and each one he pushes or touches makes sounds, and music. Very entertaining for them. My son loves his, and when he is a little bigger it converts to a table toy that he can walk around when he gets to that age. And another good thing about this is, it keeps him confined in a seat so you can get what you need to done while hes playing. I got mine off craigslist for $25 dollars, best money ever spent for my child.
My son is 18 months and when he gets angry he hits his head on anything...the floor, wall, etc. I asked his pediatrician and she said it's a stage, and give him something loud to use for his aggression, like a tambourine, or something that he can shake that will make loud noise.
We all need to learn how to deal with "boredom". Bored people are usually boring people.
Make sure he's on his blanket with lots of toys around him, if he fusses for you and you don't pick him up, he'll soon get curious about his surroundings and try to find something he likes ....maybe some stacking rings, or a busy box to fiddle with. They can be very happy laying on the floor holding and exploring new objects for quite some time.