My Boy Friend

I'm sorry! I can imagine how much you're hurting, it is a TON to take in and a lot of pressure! First off, he's not really talking with you at school? I would call that a "red flag" for sure! You're his GIRLFRIEND! If he wants to keep you as his girlfriend, I would say that he needs to treat you more like it. That being said: being boyfriend/girlfriend NEVER, I repeat NEVER, makes sex mandatory! If he is pressuring you in ANY way, that's not right... You deserve SO much better! Even if he starts treating you better at school, that still doesn't mean that you need to or should have sex with him. High school was only a few years ago for me, and I stayed a virgin until I got married. There are a number of us out there that stay virgins. And honestly, if you're feeling pressured from any of your friends; a) they're not that great of friends, and b) chances are that way more than half of them are lying to try to appear cool. It is okay and COMPLETELY socially acceptable to remain a virgin through high school if you choose to do so. Feel free to message me if I can help you anymore.
J.

First i think your way to young for a boyfriend but I am glad to hear your not having sex. Second the best thing to do is tell him you heard he was cheating and see how he reacts. If he gets mad he probably is cheating, Also ask him why he doesnt talk to you in schoool, and tell him that needs to change or else you need to break up. Good luck hope this helped

Hi, I am not going to tell you, that you are to young, but what I will tell you is if you give yourself away now you can never have that moment back. When you get older and find the one you really want to spend the rest of your life with, do you really want this guy to have the part of you or do you want the real love to have it, If he bearly talks to you he isnt showing you alot of respect, respect is when he wants to be with you for you not what he can get from you. Either way please be safe, and always protect yourself. good luck and remember there is always an adult you can trust, talk to them they will help.

I agree with the other ladies on here. He doesn't respect you or care about you. I'm glad you're still a virgin. Don't be afraid to stay that way for a while. Sex is a wonderful thing...when it is with someone who loves you. (I, too, waited for my husband.) If you are not emotionally ready for it, though, it'll mess you up for a long time. You can't ever get back your virginity; once it's gone, it's gone. I read "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants" books this summer-it was 3 or 4 books. All the girls couldn't wait to have boyfriends and lose their virginity, but then once they did, they were emotionally hurt and damaged. I'd recommend the books!
Also, something to think about: sex often leads to pregnancy (no method of birth control is 100% effective. Condoms fail 7% of the time!). Are you ready to have a baby? I know that's not something I could have (or would have wanted to!) handled at 13.
Good luck to you. Stand up for yourself! You alone are responsible for the choices you make. Make good decisions so that you can look forward to a good future.

You are to young to have a boyfriend and you shouldn't have to be dealing with these questions at this time of your life. I am glad that you have not given in to the pressure to have sex. If he truly respected you he would not be asking you to have sex. If you don't feel that he is being faithful to you I would break up and tell him that you can't trust him. If he is ignoring you then you need to move on.
Stand up for yourself and for what you want in life. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything until you are physically and emotionally ready to deal with it.

Hi,
I know the age you are is rough. But do NOT give in to him, specially if you feel he is cheating on you. He just wants to add you to his score card (how many girls he can have sex with).

I can tell you to wait until your married, but in the real world, that is not always how it turns out. If a boy really & truly LOVES & cares about you, he will wait until you are ready. Plus, he won't go have sex with someone else, while he waits for you.

I would advise highly to break it off with him, he will in the future (no matter how far away) come to respect you for not giving in to him & you will keep your reputation as PURE.

My daughter is 23 yrs old & still a virgin. She had a couple of boy friends in high school & they wanted her to have sex with them, but she told them not until she was ready. Both of them went behind her back & messed with another girl that would have sex with them. However, today they have both told her, they were sorry for pressuring her & wish they hadn't messed up their relationship by sleeping with another while they were together. They now respect her decision & have become better men because of it.

There are plenty of guys out there & the right one will come into your life. When he does, you will know it & know when the time is right for you 2 to be intimate. But, please make sure that you both truly love one another before you commit. Making love is a beautiful thing & you should cherish it.

Best of luck to you,
C.

If you think he is cheating on you, then he probably is. He is not showing you any respect by not talking to you at school and if he did respect you he would not be asking you to have sex with him.
If he has a different girl every week then you don't know if he has gotten any diseases, he may have a goal to get as many girls as he can through school, and then oops one of them has a disease and now you have it.
I would save yourself for someone who truly loves and cares for you. Someone you can trust and who will honor you by not asking you to have sex, but waiting until you are ready and caring for you all the time.
I waited until I was married. I am so thankful I did, my husband loves me so much and treats me so well. That is what you need. Someone who cares for you.