My child has been staying with me longer than with his father since he was born. His father is very busy and has no enough time to take care of him. Now, it seems he doesn’t like his father as much as he likes me. I want to improve the relationship between him and his father, but I don’t know how to do?
how old is the child?
Depending on his age this thing is a normal phase thing.
You dont have to do anything but tell baby that daddy will always be there. However daddy needs to step up and spend more time. Nothing is more important than people and as long as he is willing to sacrifice sometime for his kid.
Brava to you for recognizing and wanting to address this. It is in your son's best interest to develop a healthy loving relationship with both parents. You don't give a lot of information, but for some reason I am guessing your son is no older than 7. Under the best of circumstances children at an early age will cling to mommy. It is natural for children to cling to the primary care giver-in this case you, the one who nurtures. You don't say much about the dad, but again, I am assuming, he is a good man. Have you talked to him about this? I am guessing he is not aware of the situation and it is quite possible he is just doing the same thing his father did. If he is unwilling to look at this with you there is not much you can do about his behavior. You can however take this opportunity to teach your son a valuable lesson about love and forgiveness. Explain to your son that his dad loves him, but does not know how to express it. Come up with a ceremony for the two of you. Perhaps the two of you can write a letter sending love and forgiveness for his shortcomings. Tie it to a tree outside and let it decompose on its own. Send prayers or meditate with the intent to open his dad up to love.
Best wishes to you all!
How old is the boy? Generaly they are attached to mom more than to dad.
To improve a relationship - father needs to work on it, not you.
That's not your job. It's his dad's job to foster a relationship. You have to WORK at relationships. Just because 2 people are alive does not mean that they have a relationship.
I think you are an amazing mom to make this a concern. Obviously your child is a priority to you, as it is sooo important for your son to see that you care about HIM in this aspect. Maybe you can suggest somethings to his father that you know he likes to do and dad can put his own twist on it. Or just encourage his dad when he does make an effort. Maybe have your son call him or reach out a little too (depending on his age). Or if your realtionship with his father is civil maybe you can all do something together. Even going to the park and you can help encourage dad to interact more. Good luck!
His father just needs to take some time with him and hang out with him. You just be the encourager to get him to do this. When they do spend time together, you go do something for yourself. My son loves being with me, but when it's time for him to be with daddy I leave.
He probably just is a momma's boy. lol
