Hi Carmela,
Sounds like you have alot going on in your life, blessings and work! Have you considered having a mommy & me day with just your daughter on the school day. If you can get someone to watch your son on Sat. afternoon for a few hours, then you could invite one or two of her friends for a beauty afternoon on Sat., doing the nails and hairstyles (beaded braids, sparkle gel, sparkly make-up, etc.) at home. Personally I've found that especially when they're little and you've got your hands full, keeping it simple is usually the best, and ends up being the best fun and memories for your child and you. You could order a girly cake from Publix, have her favorite snacks or "lady like" tea sandwiches, fancy paper plates, etc. I bet it would be fun for her to help you pick out a few colors of pretty new nail polish, a hair beading/braiding kit, a packet of sparkly girly-girl temporary tatoos... it will be lots of fun, and probably cost far less than a salon day out. Target has lots of mini kits and sampler-sized kits, along with tons of hair styling goodies. If your house isn't as neat as you'd like: don't even think about it, the kids DO NOT care, and will just be thrilled to enjoy themselves! Good luck however her birthday turns out, hope it is a wonderful day for you both!
C. N.