A.L.
I don't have similar experiences, however perhaps my response to what you posted can be useful to you. First, you are describing a pretty unpleasant living situation, as well as a deteriorating interaction between you (his nasty comments are creating a cycle where you react nastily). Let me ask you to consider this question: Did you in the past or do you now have enough good interactions and working-together to make up for this chronic negativity? If the ADHD takes off the filter, that means that the nastiness you are hearing is his typical inner dialogue. I know I probably wouldn't do well living long-term with someone who has that attitude, and I certainly wouldn't want to raise kids with them. Second, when you say 'tough it out' and ask 'is it worth it?', it seems like you already know the answer--probably not. I'd suggest you re-read J.B.'s response and consider her advice seriously because she's walked through similar experiences. Good luck with it.