Okay moms I am in need of big advice. My son attends home daycare, and at this daycare there is only another boy and my babysitters daughter and of course my son. Last wed. while my son was at home daycare somebody cut his ear with scissors. When my husband picked him up my provider told him it had just happened while the other parents were there picking up the little boy. And that the boy had done it, and the boys parents where very sorry. On friday it so happend that the boys dad was there to pick him up and didnt seem to know that his son had cut my sons ear. My babysitter got very nerves and then changed the story and said that it had happend a little before they had got there and that it wasnt a bog deal. Then I told her then why did you tell me that it happend when they were here? So she lied what I really think happend was that her daughter must have cut his ear and she blamed the other little boy instead. What i dont understand is why would she lie and why did the kids have access to scissors? So now my question is what should I do? My son will not be returning there. But I want her to tell me what happend to his ear. I am going to pick up his stuff today and I am not sure what I am going to tell her. I will however make it very clear that he not returing due to his ear, and her lies.
thank you mom all advice is very helpful.
let me add that she left my son on the highchair while she went to get the door, and they Where NOT doing art projects..This happend while she left my son alone with a 3yr and scissors. I am would have not been that upset if she would have just told me the truth. His ear probable would have needed stiches, but by the time I got home and found it was just to late. It is however healing and he is okay.
Is this day care licensed? You should try to talk with the day care 0perator so that this doesn't happen to another child. This is serious....he could have lost an eye or something else could have happened. Nevertheless, find a new day care.
I think your response is correct. Big or small, your day care provider should always be up front and honest with you regarding your child or the children she babysits. Accidents do happen and as a mom you know, that sometimes things get placed by others in places where they are not supposed to be(scissors). I think that she tried to blame it on another child is crazy so her integrity is more in question than anything else. My day care provider will call me right after any incident she feels I should know about. She always prefaces it with, "the children are okay, but I wanted you to know......" Last week, my little girl got a good scratch on her neck. She said that one of the little girls did it. My babysitter said she did not see it, my daughter did not cry and the other girl said she did it - but I know it was a total accident. Maybe it is a blessing, that it was only his ear and not something worse. This gives you a chance to find another provider and be assured you will ask more detailed questions in the interview based on your past situation. Good luck in your quest, you will find someone even better!!! Where are you located? I know a few people that offer daycare.
hi C.,
I am sorry to hear about your son's ear being cut, poor little guy!
Sometimes accidents do happen - but this daycare provider is negligent. If she had to leave the room to answer the door nobody should have been holding scissors (even children's scissors) anywhere near your son.
I trust you will make it very clear to this daycare provider why you are removing your son from her care - and perhaps she will learn a lesson. You might want to write her a note, in order to avoid any unpleasantness in front of the children. We can get pretty upset (and rightly so) when it comes to the safety of our children. Also, she is likely to be angry that you are removing him with no notice - so the note will document the reason (remember to date it).
If it was me, I would speak with the other parents to let them know this daycare provider is negligent and that is why you are removing your son - who knows what she is going to say to them about you! Also, I would do it out of concern for the safety of their child as well.
Good luck,
W.
I'm so sorry that this happened to you! What an ordeal!
Is this a licenced at-home daycare? I think, minor though your son's injury was, that you should report this to the proper authorities. I would not want to send my son somewhere where the provider is lying about the care the children are receiving. Accidents do happen, of course, but why are these children able to find scissors anywhere???
You also need to report her. Accidents happen but the fact that young children in her care have access to dangerous things such as scissors is not acceptable. And the fact that she did not take responsibility should be a warning. Make sure other parents are warned about her negliance. This is nothing to take lightly. When you see her, tell her you're taking your son out b/c you don't feel she is providing a safe environment for the children in her care. And that she cannot even accept responsibility for what did happen is another warning sign of her incompetence. You don't need to be nice to someone who put your son in danger. Imagine what else her daughter could have done with those scissors!
C.,
You did the right thing. The events that took place that day were beyond unacceptable. I run a home daycare and don't let the older kids use scissors or have access to them AT ALL, because you just never know. I wish I had an opening for you! :) I wish you luck in your new search. I can recommend someone if you need it, depending on your location.
Did you take him to his Ped to check it out??
Take care - and I hope your little guy is better.
Jen
As a home daycare provider myself I have to say that accidents happen. I do a preschool program at my daycare and the children do use scissors- which is recommended for fine motor skills. I have learned over the years even children's scissors are sharp. How bad was your sons ear - a minor cut or did it require stitches? If they were in the midst of a craft project- children are quick- sometimes before you can react to something it's already over. I can completely understand how something like that can happen when they are all sitting around a table.
At 16mths,though,your son is too young to be included in craft projects. If that was what they were doing. When we do crafts the children under 2.5 sit in a highchair with crayons and paper. I don't want them trying to use the glue,scissors,or anything else they are too young for.
I've had more than one parent angry at me for pointing out that their child hit, bit, or hurt another, instead of discipling their child.I can see the desire to not want to upset the other parents if the injury was minor, but it's not something I would do. Personally, I always make sure to tell both parties when a child is hurt.
Anyway, if you aren't comfortable with this sitter by all means take your child out. Never leave your child with someone you don't trust or feel comfortable with. But please realize that the majority of us who do home daycare go to great lengths to ensure the safety of every child in our care, but accidents and injuries are bound to happen.
How old is your son? If your provider left him sitting in the high chair while she went to answer the door that's probably not a big concern - as long as she didn't leave him there for any length of time. I can see into my kitchen from my front and back doors, so maybe that's why I feel that way.
On the next subject, I have 5 children at my home daycare and DO NOT let my kids have access to scissors, glue or any other crafty stuff without my supervision at all times. Also, lying to the parents about anything that happens during the day is a big no-no. Good luck with finding a new childcare provider -there are plenty out there who will give your son a protected and loving experience!
You are doing the right thing-take him out. I just started watching a little boy along with my two kids and the fact that they had access to scissors is crazy. I would tell her that the way she handled the situation was unprofessional and that accidents handle with kids but to lie about it is WAY OVER THE TOP.
You're doing the right thing by taking your son out of this daycare.
Good luck today.
I think it's good you're pulling him out from there. I would tell her you are going to report her to DCFS, or whoever you report these incidents to for at-home daycares. That should scare her into telling you the truth. Trust w/ babysitters or daycares is #1 priority, & if she is a liar, she is a liar, period & cannot be trusted.
I would do the same thing, but I also would report it. Yes accidents do happen, but this is alittle extreme to me.
