My Usaully Outgoing Child Has Become Shy All of the Sudden.

Talk to her teacher. Sometimes children will tell you something that may be a true experience for them, but it may have been for one day, or even one hour. They move on and forget about it while we are stuck in worry land.

I'd say give it time and if necessary check out the teachers perspective. It may just be beginning of the year finding her niche. In the meantime have her invite some new friends from 1st grade over to play. They may just do the trick.

My daughter is the same way, extremely outgoing, never a problem with friends etc. We are dealing with the same issues as you right now and my daughter just started 2nd grade. All I can tell you is to be supportive and remind her of all the things she is good at and that she Can do anything. Remind her of all the times that she did ask others to play with her and how much fun they had. It is okay if she spends recess playing on her own too, if she is okay with that. Things will improve, just give her time to get more acclimated. I am already beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel with my social butterfly and I hope that you will too.

Shyness is triggered by too much worry about self------do they like me?am I too fat, thin, young, old, ugly, whatever. Encourage her to say, "May I play with you?" instead of, "Will you play with me?" Try getting her to focus on joining them, instead of them joining her. It makes her more desirable as a playmate.

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Encourage her to make new friends, tell her she can invite someone over to your house on a Friday after school or maybe a Saturday and see what she says. Also, remind her that it is okay to have "boy" friends also, that she shouldn't limit her friendships to girls alone. Talk to her teacher and see if the lunch aid can help her out too. But most importantly is to reassure her that everything will be alright! and that she'll soon be making some new friends.
Blessings

This happened to my daughter in 4th grade. I spoke to teacher and popped up at the school yard at recess one day. I was that her 2 "friends" decided that they just wanted the 2 of them to be BFFs and that there's no third person in "BFF". I explained to her, it's really their problem, don't make it yours and be yourself. By the end of the week, she was playing with other girls & even boys in her class and one other class. When the other 2 girls saw she was making alot of friends, all of a sudden they wanted her back in their "loop". It happened again in 5th grade when she started winning awards, contests, and being picked for leads in plays and concerts. Then the jealousy talk had to be given LOL!

School just started. Don't assume this is a personality change. Maybe you can role play asking kids to play, with her.