National Guard Responsibilities

Updated on May 19, 2010
S.H. asks from Harvest, AL
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My husband is in the National Guard. His unit is actually based about 6 hours from where we live (thought we were going to move down in that area, but ended up not, and now he's stuck in that unit). Several times they have signed him up for classes and let us know just a few days notice. Then they expect us to pay for a hotel up front, and be reimbursed later. Well, they've done it again...

This is a week-long course in a city that is 3 hours away from his unit's city. My husband has explained that if he goes to this course & has to pay a week's hotel stay, we won't be able to pay our bills & it would create a hardship on our family, including our daughter. Their response? "We all have to make sacrifices." WHAT? We have to starve our family because you can't find another way to have somewhere for him to stay??

My husband has done WELL beyond the "one weekend a month, two weeks a year" duties. None of the other units he was in has ever been this bad. They pull this stuff ALL the time! My husband was close to finding a civilian job a few months ago, but the Guard sent him off to class/training somewhere. It's all getting ridiculous!!

Can they really force us to send him down there & pay for the hotel, while not paying our household bills??? I mean I can send them a copy of our bills & a copy of my pay stubs and say how the #$%* do you see us doing this???? :(

(Sorry if I seem angry... I am!!! lol)

PS. We don't have a credit card to use. I have a secured "credit card" but only has a $300 limit, won't pay for the hotel. Credit is a funny thing... you have to have credit to get credit.. unless you get it in college! My parents told me not to get a credit card while in college, so I got screwed when I tried to get one after college. :( (Wal-Mart wouldn't even give me a credit card!)

Hubby has been looking into Guard jobs. Anything. Has been searching for at least 9 months now. :( He's about to send off a few applications soon. Fingers crossed!

Also, I don't complain about the Guard stuff to my husband. He usually starts the complaining! haha

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M.W.

answers from Boise on

Hey,

My hubby is in the Guard. That's how they roll. Complaining about how they work is heavily frowned on. But they should also have a financial advisor to talk to. Can you put the expenses on a credit card and then when you get paid back, pay your credit card bill?

Also, if your husband doesn't have a civilian job, has he checked out working for the Guard? Those jobs are easier to get right now than civilian because of the economy. My husband works full time for the Guard. It is much nicer because after drill weekend, he gets Mondays off, and whenever he has to go away to classes and stuff, it is no problem.

Also, one weekend a month plus two weeks a year is such a joke! Hahahahahahaha! No one but Guard families understand that there is a ton more time that goes into. And the higher up in rank he gets, the more classes and training he will have to go to. My hubby had to leave for 7 months last year.

Try not to complain to your hubby. The guard is really stressful and he needs your support! Hoo-ah!

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V.J.

answers from Phoenix on

My dad was in the Nat'l Guard in Tucson, AZ for 25 yrs and I remember not only the drill weekends, but also the training classes he was required to go to (sometimes out of state) with very short notice. I recall a time when he was sent to a training course in Texas for a MONTH and they only gave him 2 days of notice! I emailed my mom after reading your post and she said that they did have to foot the bill and then wait to be reimbursed. She mentioned that depending on where my dad was sent, that he could often get lodging on the base which was much less costly so you may look into that. If he can't stay on base, a lot of motels/hotels offer a 10-15% discount for military.

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C.M.

answers from Austin on

Have you tried your local church? Many of them have programs to help out in the short term. Can you borrow from your bank?

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

No National Guard experience here. But that is pretty much how all business type travel is done, so I'm not surprised at all that he needs to pay, then get reimbursed.
Just wanted to let you know that you are wrong about credit. The reason you have only been able to obtain a secured credit card is most likely because of past credit issues (either with you or hubby). The idea of "credit" is largely an American myth. If you have decent credit you can get an unsecured credit card pretty easily! You can also get a mortgage with absolutely NO credit history other than rent paid on time or early for a period of time. You might want to check your credit report to see what exactly is stopping you from getting credit.

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A.S.

answers from Denver on

Paying up front and being re-imbursed after the receipts and travel vouchers are filed is pretty standard in the Service and in Civilian life. I used to travel all the time for business with three different companies, all operated the way you describe.

I'd suggest getting a credit card used only for the travel expenses. You can delay payment for 30 days...or AMEX which you can delay even longer. It's usually enough time to travel, file for reimbursement and receive the check.

GL!

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R.J.

answers from Seattle on

Take it from first hand experience... the only way to deal with the UCMJ is through a military lawyer... as in "Hello Jag-corps."

Be prepared however, for the consequences of doing so. The military has about 1000 ways of making life truly miserable, from someone who ended up stuck in one of "those" commands... the only way to effectively deal with a bad command is to get orders OUT of it. Of course, that too, has consequences in your next command... but they are usually worth it. This is assuming it's a "bad" command... and not just a time commitment thing.

I avoid military news by and large... but the few NGs I know are still out in the big sand trap. Have been for quite some time.

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