H.D.
Hi E.,
Throwing my hat into the ring here: I don't think it's a question of whether a child needs preschool for their academic development, or only because a parent is working...I think it's about the vision we see for our child's life. Let me explain...
I've been working in various aspects of childcare for years. This winter I will be opening a nursery school for two reasons: I want to get back to work and this is my passion and second, I need a way to pay for my son to go to preschool. If this sounds crazy, just listen--my girlfriend runs a preschool I fell in love with years ago. There are chickens in the backyard. There is room to run and move, places to dig and make mudpies, spaces to paint, create and breathe in. The teachers are warm and loving. I am my son's mother and love him dearly, and I also know that these teachers, this school, can give him something that I just can't---a wonderful place to be himself without mom. A great opportunity to learn to rely on others, to trust that other people are safe and caring, and a chance to experience the world without always turning around to see mom. (Teachers who work with their child in their program have told me they have found it very difficult---the child/teacher dynamic is very different from the child/parent dynamic).
I believe in this vision I have for my son--to go be his own little guy for four hours a day. I am willing to pay for this because he will never have another childhood, and this place makes great memories as well as fosters community amongst the families who attend.
Making the decision to send a child to preschool isn't always easy, and it helps us to examine our reasons. But making the criteria purely based on "working moms only" is belittling to all of the parents that work exceptionally hard at home, and takes a narrow approach. We have our children because we love them, we want them...and we can love and want them while knowing that it's also very healthy to help them foster dependable relationships with others as well. It's a lot to ask of a parent to be everything to their child, and it shortchanges our children when we insist that they only rely on us for what they need. They need other trustworthy and empathetic adults in their lives. Many teachers have a great gift of being able to connect with our little ones.
And, from a teacher's point of view, we see a lot of growth and development in the children we work with. We enjoy our work, most of the time, and hope that the care and thought we put into our work will translate help the children we care for become more empowered to pursue their goal, to experiment, to try new things and to find a way to be satisfied within themselves.
In short, each parent's reasons to send their child to preschool are personal, but there are a lot of good reasons indeed!