Need a Product for My 4 Year Old Curly Curly Curly Hair...

Wen Conditioning Cleanser by Chaz Dean.. You can check out his web site but I buy it on Ebsy and QVC... It's soap free... great for curly hair and tangles

Have you tried the Devacurl line of products? My daughter is half-Black and it works great on her super curly hair. Also, do you ever check out naturallycurly.com? I like to look at that website for tips & resources for my curly-haired daughter. Hope this helps!

My 2 1/2 year old daughter also has very curly hair (she's biracial), and after trying many products, I really love Bumble & Bumble's Leave In (rinse out) conditioner. I use it as a leave in for her (and me). First I wet her hair with a spritzer, put the conditioner in, and comb through. I find it helps to distract her with a toy or video while it do it!

There are some products that work great for some and not for others. I would recommend combing with a wide tooth comb while her hair is wet with conditioner still in it. This seems to be lightest on my head and I still practice this technique. I have gone thru so many products and have girlfriends that constantly switch since after a while nothing seems to work. We're just blessed with volume and body in the hair! Tangles will always come.

If you're looking for specific products-- Mixed Chicks is a good one- not sure if there is a children's line. I assume you've tried the Johnson & Johnson detangler... There's a leave-in conditioner by L'anza-- doesn't prevent detangling, but leaves the curls more in tact & placed from my experience-- also not a kids' line specifically.

Braiding the hair keeps it from getting wild, but doesn't help if you're going for the more wild & natural look.

Good luck.

I used regular conditioner and didn't rinse it out for my daughter;s curly hair.. that was 24 years ago, before leave in conditioners were available... it worked for her, and then the longer we grew her hair, the more it straightened it, the weight of it drew the curls down. She has gorgeous thick hair and is now 27 years old. She's never cut her hair too short, too afraid her curly mop would be back. She once got a piece of bubble gum stuck in the back of her neck, and we were camping and never discovered it for a week! That is how curly her hair was, total camo for the gum! We still laugh about that one.

Hi,
One of my daughters has ultra-curly hair. I gave up on the products that were supposed to detangle -- half of them didn't work well and the other half left it sticky or crunchy (making the tangling worse as the day wore on).

What I did (and still do) was make sure that she 'washed' her hair daily -- not really using shampoo daily, but a good water-rinse and a conditioner. Plain old Pantene conditioner worked best for us. I work it through her hair and comb out all the tangles before rinsing. This was the only real scalp-to-tips combing her hair got each day. The conditioner made the hair just slip across itself and the tangles gave way. Even the toughest rat's nests would come out with my fingertips. The results were always lovely.

(Side note that you'll hopefully never need: this is also a great way to check for lice when the nasty nits crop up in the school newsletter -- conditioner paralyzes them for up to 20 minutes, so if one climbed aboard you're sure to find it before it does much damage.)

My big sister has seriously curly hair, too -- she taught me a few tricks about maintaining it. Dab it dry, don't rub it or fluff it. Scrunch it up into nice little handfuls as it dries to encourage organized curling (as opposed to frizz). Never brush curly hair with a bristle brush like you would straight hair. A pick helps detangle while preserving shape. Otherwise a wide tooth comb or 'vent' brush is good. As soon as her hair is long enough, braid it for sleeping! French braids along both sides of the head are pretty comfortable for sleeping on and they keep all the stray bits tucked in (at least for a while). In the morning, undo the braids and gently do her hair however you like. (If you don't like the look of the 'braid wave' a spritz with water will release her natural ringlets.) Makes the morning SO much easier.

Best of luck! And congratulations on your beautiful curly-top! Aren't curly haired girls just the cutest? :-)

I too have very curly hair and agree with those who posted before me. Put in a conditioner while the hair is wet and comb the hair. Then you are done, no need to ever brush her hair and certainly not throughout the day when it's dry, just let it be till the next time it's wet and filled with conditioner. When you dry it just scrunch it and be done, don't mess with it too much or it'll frizz and tangle more. Brushing just hurts and is entirely unnecessary. Use a wide comb pick, you will get out all the tangles without all the pain. Just throw those brushes away, they are like torture devices to us curled haired people. Hope that helps :)

I have 2 daughters with exceptionally long thick hair, and we find that the joico leave in oil conditioner helps, as well as the pantene leave in conditoner. Frankly, most of the adult oil leave in's help. You might also try brushing her hair out in the shower and braiding it while it's wet. For what it's worth, we found that swimming in braids or ponytails is a disaster, better if it's left long. Also, look at your brush. If it's old, and the teeth are cracking the hair will get stuck in there and pull.

I use Circle of friends detangler spray and a detangle hair brush. The brush was the best find. Just google it.

Good Luck! I feel your pain.

I found a great product called It's a 10! It is a leave in conditioner spray that works very well! I also use Curls Rock by Bed Head and it seems to keep the tangles away. Good luck!!!!

Oh, I feel your pain. Both of my daughters have super curly hair, my younger one with very tight curls. She basically has a white girl's afro. We've tried a whole host of products, from leave-in conditioners to detanglers and products meant only for curly hair. We prefer Kiss My Face's Knot! detangler (you can get it at Whole Foods or on-line) in combination with any leave-in conditioner. But more important than products is technique. There is no magic bullet for curly hair. First of all, don't wash your daughter's hair more than once a week. We go from 7-10 days between washing. My eldest would have us go a whole year, but that's another issue. Washing dries out curly hair, making it even more painful. Second, brush or comb it when it's WET. If you're brushing before school, or at bedtime, spray it with detangler or water (we found each works as well as the other) and then brush. Third, try a comb made specifically for detangling. You can get them at beauty supply stores. And lastly, which is the most important of all, don't just start at the top and brush down. Hold a little bit of hair between your thumb and forefinger near the scalp (so your daughter can't feel you pulling) and brush, starting from the bottom and working your way up. It takes a LOT of time, but it will make it less painful for both of you. Good luck!

I'm bi-racial and have very curly hair. I use Johnson's "No-More Tangles" to de-tangle after I wash and condition my hair (Pantene has good conditioner). Then I use MOP (Modern Organics Products) Leave-in conditioner.

my daughter is bi-racial (black/white) with curly hair that tangles really bad. I've discovered that using Suave 2 in 1 Smoothers shampoo and then Johnson's No more tangles (or the Target equivalent) works really nicely. In between shampooing I will use the "no more tangles" on dry hair and it works that way as well. Good luck.

P., I would only brush her hair with conditioner in it while she's taking a bath. Once she's out, put in a little mouse (suave is good believe it or not- the pink bottle), and scrunch her hair with your fingers. Don't brush it at all once she's out of the shower. Just let it dry naturally. Good luck, K.

There's a really good book that I found called "Curly Girl" - it really helped me deal with my curly hair.

One of the things it talks about is that you should think of hair like the fibers of an expensive sweater - and be really gentle with it, like not brushing it. And it says that shampoos are too harsh for curly hair because of detergents, etc... and that you should just use a cleansing conditioner,etc...

It's a fun and easy little book. I hope it helps. I wish I had it years ago when I was a girl and struggling with my curls!!

Good luck!

I kow two that may work: Paul Mitchell's detangler cream, and ABBA's detangler spray-- They both orked for us...
Curly curly monm and 4 year old baby

Hi P.,

The secret to curly curly hair, is making sure you buy a large tooth comb at the hair store like a Sally's or something. The only time you comb her hair is when its wet(the wetter, the easier)after it's got some conditioner in it or some leave in. Never use a fine tooth brush. Comb from the ends, then after you've gotten the knots out, you can move towards the scalp. Once you've combed her hair out, you can use a little product if you'd like. they have kid's hair gel, or a little bit of mousse. Even if you don't use product, once you comb her hair when its wet and let it dry naturally, you won't get as much frizz because you're not using a brush.
try that and see if it works. I was an only child, being the only one in my family with my type of curly hair, and it took a long time to finally learn what to do. Now years later, I get a lot of compliments on my hair.
D.