Need Advice on a Few things....regression W/potty Training, Private parts..etc..

Good day G., well I don't have much advise with the potty training...BUT the body part issue I know very well. My son now 6, found what he refers to as his willie winkie(I don't know where they come up with these names!)a couple of years ago and seemed to be obssed with it! It was uncomfortable for me but I just tried not to make a big deal out of it. I gave hom the speach about what and where it was appropriate and eventually he got used to his new found friend Willie and the foundling decreased(thank goodness).It is completely normal and a faze.

You have nothing to worry about he is just a boy, of course he is going to find it again in his teens,I would relax now and rest up for then.

Hi G.
I've dealt with the regression with potty training with my son. We stopped his drinking about an hour before bed, made sure he used the bathroom right before bed and for the first week or so if I was up I would take him to the bathroom during the nihgt. Just to give him a little extra help.
After we had several nights of sucess he was so excited and now he follows this routine himself without me telling him.
He has had a few accidents and when he does we just talk and tell each other we need to remember to watch the drinking and use the bathroom before bed. I don't know why it happens in some kids but some will just need a little extra help.

I think you've gotten some great advise on the playing with the private parts, they all do it and will grow out of it.

Good luck!!
C.
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hey G. my daughter did the same thing she was fully potty trained a pull up at night just in case but never used it and then puff she stopped and had a trillion accidents. i spoke to my pedi and they said ir was normal for kids to go backwards sometimes just start over(UGH I know).
question 2 my daughter discovered her privates soon on also, and i would freak if i saw her touching herself but i found like everything else they feed off of our reactions in a sense your in laws and parents are right(hard to admit i know) but the more you focus the more they want to do it. i would just barely make mention of it like "hey what ya doin over there?" or "I see you you know" and believe it or not she just stopped.

I would go with a puppet show. When the puppet reaches out to touch something improper, have the other puppet say something like "No, no, no, I must go," or hand him a cracker or a crayon instead.

My three year old regressed after the baby was born and started wetting the bed. The Doctor tested him for a UTI and he didn't find anything. So he told me to not make a big deal about it and put him in a pull over night and make him put his underwear on first thing in the morning. He also said don't give him anything to drink for at least a hour before bedtime and to make him use the bathroom right before he goes to bed. We have cut down the accidents now to about 3 nights a week. You have to remember though kids bladders are the size of a pea they have a hard time holding it especially through the night. They say the acccidents at night will usually go away around their 5th or 6th birthday. As for the touching, just ignore it the more you make a big deal about it the funnier they think it is and they do it more to get a reaction out of you. I told my 3yr old if he wants to touch himself he needs to do it in private it is something you don;t do in front of other people I 've only had to tell him once or twice and I haven't seen him do it since well at leat not in front of me. They say that you should stopping taking baths with the opposite sex around the age of 3. "Playing Doctor" Is a normal childhood thing it just is kind of weird when you catch them. I caught my 3yr old in his bedroom with his buddy who is also a boy checking eachother out. I just explained to them that their body is their body. That they both had the same parts.
Hoope this helps

Personally-I think you already have the right answer- but watch the irresistable giggles. Try to be a bit more serious. Just keep talking with them both! You have every right to be open with them and not bury your head in the sand! I have always been honest with my son and he grew up to be a wonderful respectable young man! They will out grow the play thing soon. Good luck and just keep being the wonderful mommy you sound like you are! God bless you all.
Kathy N.

Re your daughter and the potty it might be more than just regression, make sure it's not a medical issue................I know you don't want to clean up more accidents but the pull-ups is probably the worst thing you can do................You are confusing her and she won't go back to training on her own if she is wearing them..........

Re touching the body part thing, if you are bathing them together, that needs to stop but otherwise, honestly if you kinda ignore your son touching himself, he will get bored with it and stop.........my daughter, now trained touches herself sometimes almost unconsciously, but I just tell her to "stop" and I say things like she'll hurt herself and we'll have to go to the doctor...............and she listens.........I bet you don't remember that when they were babies and you were changing their diapers they touched themselves also, it really isn't a big deal unless it's being done in public places................I am not trying to belittle your concerns please believe me. But I strongly feel if you make a big deal about it the "habit" will stay around longer.................