Hi everyone!! This week I started my son who is 16 months in in home child care. The lady who is keeping him is awesome she and her family are so nice and frankley there is no reason for her to even keep kids she just loves to do it. My son is going on three days a week the first day he didn't cry when I left. Then an hour later he cried the rest of the day. Day two he cried off and on all day. Today my husband dropped him off to see if that would help it didn't. I have been a stay at home mom and am trying to finish school so I really need this to work. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do or has your child experienced this before. I need some suggestions or advice. Have a great weekend!!
S.
THe first couple of weeks will be difficult but it will get better. I operate a License In-home and I see it all the time. Its normal.
Good Luck
M.
Hi S., your son will adjust give it a week or two and he will be fine. He is just out of his "routine" right now and can't figure out what his going on. Before you know it, you will drop him off and he won't even tell you bye, he'll go off and play. That's heartbreaking but also a relief at the same time.
Don't give up!
Good Luck with everything and take care
B. W.
Brandy is so right. I experienced this with my own child as well as with other peoples' children as I worked in a daycare for 3 years. Some children do not cry at all the first week and then when they realize it is not temporary, they cry for the next week or two. Other children cry for the first couple of weeks as they don't understand why mommy isn't with them, but when they figure out that they have not been abandoned, they are OK.
I don't know what is worse for a mom though, your baby crying when you leave or your baby not even telling you bye. I was a mess when my son began to completly ignore me.
Anyway, it is perfectly normal and a good consistant routine is all that will make it better. I will add that is seems to take longer for children who are on every other day or less than all week schedules. Just wanted to prepare you.
Good luck to you.
I have a 7 year old daughter and a 2 year old son and they both went thru the same thing. In fact, my 2 year old seems to finally be getting over his separation anxiety after about 4 weeks of crying every time I would drop him off. He doesn't go every day so it's true what Janet said about it taking longer with kids who don't go every day. Usually, I would have to give him a job to do in order to get him to go in without a big fuss, like I would give him his diaper bag and tell him to go give it to the teacher or if I had breakfast for him, I would give it to him and tell him to go put it on the table. Then I could leave without there being a big meltdown. He loves helping so giving him a little chore would keep his mind off Mommy leaving for at least a couple of minutes. But this past week, he's been going in pretty much without a fuss. I think they really do wonder if you're leaving and never coming back so I think they just need you to keep coming back for them for a while before they realize you're not leaving for good. :-)
