K.G.
I would explain to her that not many moms are emotionally ready the first time they have a child...but once that child arrives...it all changes!
We were all very nervous the first time around... that's totally natural.
Ask her to go out shopping with you...don't by anything..... just look. Look at baby things. Maybe if she sees some of the stuff they have out, she'll get more excited about it.
I agree....tell her how you feel and let her know how difficult it will be and how emotionally scarred she'll be if she aborts this baby.It might not hit her right away...but in a few years....she'll start to realize.
She'll wonder what this child would have been like, She'll miss this child. She'll see other kids at the age this child should have been and see what they are doing and think "that's what my baby would have been doing now".
As for her career.... she can still have one! A lot of moms do t and they are doing just fine.
For example: My niece is a music teacher at school. That is what she always wanted to do and loves doing. She went to college for it, even went to Hong Kong with her husband and was a teacher there for 2 years. She has 2 kids and has been doing this since before they were born.
There are many women out there who still have careers, who can still go to school or whatever while having a baby at home. It makes it more challenging, but they do it.
My son and his girlfriend are expecting our first grand child this week. She is 18 and he is 16 1/2. Both are juniors in school and want to go to college. He wants to work on cars doing body work, she wants to be an art teacher and work with disabled kids.
They are both going to go to college..... it will be a challenge for them, but they will do it. They are both finishing high school too.
We are helping them, yes. But every family needs help sometimes.... theres no shame in that.
I hope you can encourage her and help her through the pregnancy and that she ends up with a healthy happy little baby.... who will enhance their family.