Need Advice on Telling People I Am Pregnant

Boy, do I ever know where you are coming from. My in-laws were not very happy when we found we were preggo with our second and they actually told us not to have anymore after her. We don't know if we want anymore or not but if we do then that is our decision. They will get mad but then they will get over it. I'd say that the sooner you break the news the better. That gives everyone more time to get over it before the baby gets here. My in-laws were unhappy about it for a while but they did get over it and they love our daughter. I agree with the other answers, let one of your older ones spill the beans or find a cute way to tell them. But, do it as soon as possible. Just my opinion.

C.

Hi,

Congrats! You and your husband cannot live your lives to please other people! If you are happy about it, that's all that matters.

Don't tell anybody, even when you start showing! Make them ask instead. There is no law that says you are required to announce a pregnancy to family members.

Good luck

D.

how bout buy a t shirt that says you're pregnant?

Congratulations on your newest addition! I'm glad you asked this question because we're considering having a third and expect some of the some reactions from our family. I agree with Ami that you should let your children tell them. When I got pregnant with my second, I got a t-shirt for my first daughter that said, "Big Sister" and had her toddle out to my husband. When he realized what it ment he started to cry! We decided to do that same thing with my parents. We brought her over to their house and she said, "a baby's coming!" Then we took off her coat so that they could see her shirt and they were thrilled. It's hard to get mad when the big sister is so obviously proud!

Why would there be a problem if your family knows you are pregnant again? If you don't want negative feedback, I would not say anything until you begin to show because I would think that no matter what you said or how you said it, you will get negativity if they have a problem with it. But the main thing is that you and your spouse are happy with the decision and no one elses opinion should matter.

But if you are going to mention it to your family. I would say my spouse and I are very happy about this. We are expecting again. That way they know your feelings up front and will hopefully watch their mouths before they say something negative.

E., i had to laugh when i read that, cause 2 years ago, i found myself in the same position, i was pregnant with my 3rd and the other 2 were still toddlers, everyone siad omg, how are you gonna do it, are you nuts. Everyone had something to say, even my own husband. Here we are 2 years later, with Jacob turning 2 in 3 weeks. All i can say is this, whatever or however you choose to tell them its not gonna matter, cause your the one carrying the baby and your the one giving birth, not them. But if it helps you any to know, i went through the samething again a few months ago, found myself pregnant for the 4th time, OMG, i didnt even know how to tell my husband and my mom was here visting from another state, she kept telling me, hey, your gaining weight, i would just laugh. I didnt tell her, it ended up in a miscarriage, so i saved myself the trouble.
GOOD LUCK, if your happy, then they should all be happy too.
A.!

I can totally understand your dilemna. When we ever get pregnant again it will be very crazy news to break. A funny thing happened to us the other day. My daughter, who is 2, lifted up my shirt in front of my mom (who is totally against us having more kids) and said "BABY". I am NOT pregnant, but even if i was, my mom couldn't be mad at her wonderful grandchild. Might get one of your other 2 to spill the beans for you!

Oh my gosh. Why wouldn't they be happy? Whatever...
If they will be sour pusses about it dont tell them. Let them figure it out on their own. :)

Hi!

Send them a birth announcement!

My husband and I found ourselves in this position just 3 weeks ago. My side of the family is extremely happy but it was his mom and dad that we dreaded telling. We told our mail carrier before we told them, that's how bad it is. They are older and already have 3 great grandchildren (my husband is the youngest of five and became an uncle at a very young age because of the age range of his older siblings.) we dealt with it by setting out front that we are extremely happy and were trying for this pregnancy since we wanted to add one more kiddo to our bunch (this makes 3). His dad went off about how expensive kids are, how small our house will be with 3 kids and do we really want to do that again. Well, my response was, good thing it's not your money paying for the kid, and i have never known a kid to be disadvantaged just because they had to share a room (i shared one till i went away to college). That is the only conversation we have had with them and i dont expect to keep them updated until the day we call them to let them know our little bundle has arrived (Feb 29, 2008). :)
With all that said, i would just keep it short and too the point, letting them know that you want this and are extremely happy. And then dont let there negativity get to you, as the stress is not good on anyone, especially when pregnant. Best of luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!

Well, it sounds like all you can do is just tell them and hope that they will not be upset. I'm curious... Why would they not be happy for you?

Good luck.

B.

It must be stressful to have this problem for you and your husband. Why on earth would your families not be happy about it?
All that matters is your family and husband and children.If you are all happy, hooray for you.You don't need their 'approval'... you are all grown ups, right? Maybe in time they will lighten up when they finally see the baby. Try not to be concerned about what criticism they tell you...it's not fair anyway. Be strong and secure about it... and it will radiate from you. Then they will know they can't tear you down about it. Don't let emotional junk get in the way or 'argue' about it with them. Keep your head up! Tell them you and Hubby are happy and then go about your own business. And celebrate the good news with your children. It is a special time for you, your husband and children. You need to take care of yourself... you don't need stress from them.... tell them that. Tell them the 'doctor' says stress is NOT good for pregnant women. If they can't be happy for you & Hubby, and can't help the situation... then that's their inadequacy. Congratulations!