Need Help Getting Me Back!

I know how you feel, I am the same age, married for almost ten years, and the last few months I feel like I've beed on the verge of rage at all times. It is stress, for me. I need to take some time off -- I have a weekend away scheduled this month.

I want to note that the med the doc put you on is typically not healthy for anything. It is like taking a shot of liquor throughout the day, and eventually, you will need more and more of it to gain any benifits. It upsets me when doctors prescribe it, because it only treats a symptom, not a cause.

I hope that you find something truly helpful -- Good luck!

I completely understand and recognize those feelings and symptoms.

Sounds like hormonal imbalance.

If you aren't already, taking a very natural multi-vitamin / mineral supplement, also supplementing with Natural Progesterone cream could prove very very helpful.

Shop at a health food store for these items (not Target / Wal-mart / or a drug store) as they typically have the most natural alternatives.

If you know an Arbonne consultant you can find these items through her. If you do not know a consultant, I will be happy to help you.

annemarie.myarbonne.com

In the meantime, when you feel cranky and like you're about to snap at your family, exhale exale and then take a DEEP cleansing breath. Go for a little walk away from them and BREATH, PRAY, and love yourself. You are a good mama, J..

Praying for you,

A.

Hi

You sound like me!! I was the same way!! Just anything and I'd snap. I hated being like that.

I'd try Lexapro. It is for depression/anxiety. It helps SO SO much!! It takes 3-6 weeks to really tell a difference or work, but I can tell it helps.

Good Luck! (=

Have you tried talking to a counselor? I have resisted this in the past but find it very helpful and revealing. It may help you to sort out why you are feeling the way you are. God bless!

Sounds like you need some alone time. Take a day for yourself at the spa. Get the works. Pedicure, manicure, facial, massage. Talk about relieving some stress. I highly, highly recommend! I also take Zoloft. It is doing an amazing job for me! I can tell if I miss a dose. It does however decrease sex drive drasticly. I think you should talk to your doctor that put you on the Klonopin. Let him know that it is not working. The dosage may need to be adjusted, or you may need to be taking a different medication. Good Luck, J.. I know it doesn't help, but I have felt the same way you do before!

i feel like that sometimes. now that im working 2 days a week i feel so much better. you need to plan some time away, (dinner with the girls, long walk or run alone at night, or date nights with hubby and no kids) to have something to look forward to. The daily challenges are enough and get old, plus adding the stress of building isn't helping (we've done that before too), so i suggest some time away. It will make you a better mommy and wife. I'd take turns with your hubby and plan a girls night for you and a guys night for him about 1x/month plus a date night every 2-3 weeks or so. good luck.

None of us know your medical history and we aren't doctors, but I agree that Klonopin is probably not the right drug. Zoloft or Lexapro or Welbutrin are all mood stabilizing drugs, and you might need one of those.

Counseling is a great idea. Doesn't have to be a psychiatrist or psychologist,just a licensed counselor. My insurance categorizes them by their focus... like anxiety, or depression, or marriage problems.

A part-time job might be a good idea, just to get you out of the house. Like working at Starbucks or someplace you think is fun. Or volunteer. There is always a huge lack of volunteers and you get so much out of it, too. PTA's would be one choice, and you have kids, so you'd really get into it. But just think of any interest you have... if you like animals... volunteer for the SPCA or local animal shelter. If you are concerned about fighting breast cancer, join a local Susan G Komen chapter and volunteer there.

Good luck and you're not alone.

It sounds like you need to get out of the house with some friends on a regular basis. Try doing things like "window" shopping trips or join a local book club that meets every couple of weeks for discussion. Even getting out to excersise like to a Curves facility is a great way to have some alone time. Curves is actually pretty inexpensive and it's only a 30 minute workout 3 days a week. Some women enjoy working from home. I personally love Discovery Toys because I don't feel like I'm taking time away from my daughter. I'm only gone 1 or 2 days a week and we get to play with the toys that I later use as demos in my parties. There are several other businesses out there to look at, if you like that idea. The important thing is to talk to your husband and let him know that you love him, but need to find something to help you not be so moody.
J.

I've struggled for years and what helps me the most is talking to someone. There are lots of programs available where you can see a counselor on a regular basis that will help you deal with your emotions and mood swings without drugs. HTH!

Try to get with other moms in your area. Also pick up a hobby if you do not have one. I love to quilt. It is never to late to start something new. If you and hubby are not going out together at least twice a month you need to. Even if you do not spend any or very little money. You need the time alone together. Pray and God will help you and your family I know. We built our house together and with kids helping us, but still have things that need to be finished. Just seem to not have time to finish with us all working now. But one day I hope. But your family is the ones you should be more concern with every thing else will work out in time. If med you are on is not working then go to dr. again. Take care and God Bless. B. A.

Several things: talk to a spirital leader or a therapist (or both!) Find a close friend and share how you're feeling - though keep private marital things private. Sometimes we women place our girlfriend relationships above our spousal relationships and that weakens our marriage. You may need an antidepressant, so talk with your PCP or your therapist/psychiatrist. It may be you have a chemical imbalance, and medication will get you on an even keel while you deal with the cognitive issues, which in turn will change your brain chemistry..... Or you may have another form of health problem, like hypothyroidism, or a vitamin D or magnesium deficiency. I recently have been getting many headaches and migraines and feeling depressed, so I researched magnesium deficiency and began taking 200 mg magnesium citrate at bedtime, and I've been having fewer headaches and a much better disposition. But that's just one option.

And get some time for you, and for your marriage!! Weekly date night with hubby, even if it's a walk around the neighborhood or sitting on the back porch undisturbed, to talk about things other than children. Also, make arrangements for you to get out of the house, to go to museums or concerts or to take classes at the local university or community college. Explore new sections of your public library and give yourself permission to tell your kids, "Go entertain yourself," so they can see you doing "J." things instead of "Mom" things. That will help them know you are an individual and not a role. :) And take each day one at a time. Do the best you can, remembering that your best on one day will not be the same as your best on other days, and that's okay. And pray. Prayer opens you to spiritual strength and guidance.

Oh I have really been focusing on that. I am also 29 and have a 9 month old. I have been dealing with the culture shock of having my life very different than it was. I am about to turn 30 and am sure I'm going through a phase right now where I'm all of a sudden nervous about feeling like I have lost myself. My life has become all about our son, it has been the only thing I read about (parenting) and has been all of my interests. This may sound silly but for those who have read it they would completely agree... About a month ago, I started reading Twilight, the series. I have never read anything that I got so involved in and I'm telling you, it takes you away. I have found myself thinking young and relaxing more. I plan fun things and we are about to take our son to my in-law's next weekend and have a weekend for ourselves and get our house organized and go out at night. I started doing cardio at the gym after our son goes to bed (never wanted to do that before). I'm going through a change and I love it. It is strange but that book has affected many of my friends the same way and we are all the same age. Such a good book, now I'm on the 3rd of the 4 book series. It is nice to enjoy something when you have time to yourself and not just chores. I started doing chores while he is awake and talking to him while I'm doing them. He loves it. Happy Mommy equals happy baby.

Hey J., sounds to me like you need to find yourself. As Mom's and wives and caregivers and all the other things that we are to others we tend to lose track of who we are as ourselves. In addition, we change, as everyone does, over time and who we once were isn't true any longer. I see women around me that are so devoted to their family or job or both that when the kids are grown and have left home they have no idea who the man they are living with is or who they are or want to be. J., you and your husband need to start having date nights..if even just once a month to find out who each other is now...he's changed too, it's just a fact of life. In addition, you should schedule 1 or 2 days a month where you just get away and have that alone time if only to think and be quiet and be whoever you are at this point in your life. Even if it's just for a few hours. Go get a facial or a pedicure...walk the mall even if you don't buy anything...have lunch with a girlfiend...if you don't have a girlfriend to have lunch with put yourself into situations where you would find one. J., remember that you have to be J. first and if you don't know who J. is at some point that's going to become an issue for you. I promise, if you start taking some time for yourself and for you and your hunny you will be a better wife and mother because of it and you will be much more settled with J. because of it. I hope this is of some help to you...it's a mind set change...but it's a good thing...Good Luck...

Anne is right on the money. This reads to be classic hormone imbalance. Take a look at what type of birth control you have been using, the types of foods you have been eating, the cleaners and chemicals you have been around. All of that plays a role in hormone balance because they all have some type of hormone blocker or enhancer. I recommend www.women4balance.com as a site to start reading on. It is extremely helpful to gain a better undersanding of what hormone imblalance is, why it happens, and how to fix it. Hormone balance products are offered there, and although I did use those myself, I am not saying you need that brand. Any brand will be fine.