Need Help Im Worried

I have 3 kids and all 3 have slept with us. With the third I was afraid the other kids would lay on her so I got the co-sleeper bassinet that attaches to the bed. They also make the original co-sleeper that is bigger. He would have his own space, but be close enough for comfort. It worked good for us.
Here is the link to the site. The original co-sleeper can be made into a playpen.
http://www.armsreach.com/

Here is an idea, but its kinda strange. What if you take the bassenet apart so that you just have the top basket portion, and put that inside the crib. Then when he is asleep and you lay him down he feels the comfort of the bassenet but he is actually in the crib. Then you can slowly ween him from that to just the crib. What he probably likes is feeling snug and tight in the bassenet also, so maybe when you start putting him to sleep you can swaddle him real tight or something to that effect also. Who knows it's worth a shot!:)

Your son seems to want to be close to you. That's not a bad thing. He just feels safer and more comfortable with you nearby. My two month old sleeps with me; I put her between me and the wall. That way she can't roll off the bed, and can't be rolled over on (there's no way I'd ever roll over on her OR allow anyone to roll over me in order to do so). If your bed is firm, you don't have cushy bedcoverings or comforters, you do not go to bed drugged, and you can place the baby between yourself and the wall, co-sleeping is relatively safe. If you have a less ideal situation, they make a little crib-like thing (also called a co-sleeper) that attaches to the side of your bed. Either of these options would probably soothe your son.

Hey S.,
When we took our daughter out of the bassinet she was almost 11 months old. She was a small baby. She mostly slept besdie me and that is a bad habit to get into. MY mother n law told me that it was bout time for Abbygail to sleep in the crib. At first she cried and cried and then screamed. I am the one who can't stnad to hear a baby cry or scream so I would try to rock her to sleep at night. Have you tired lullabys. That helps my 2 yr old. Just put him in the crib and play him some music he should be okay. Now my 4 yrd and 2 yr old sleeps in toddler beds they did fine. With my 2 yr old she did fine in the crib.......
I hope that I helped you out....
K.

I'm an awful mommy too - lol - my husband works nights and, as often as not, at least one kid is in bed with me in the morning. I bought my first born a crib and used it to store laundry, he hated it so much... he didn't sleep by himself until he was in a "big boy bed"

You might try getting one of the mesh sides (like you put on a toddler's bed to keep them from rolling out) and just keeping your baby between you and the side, so that your husband rolling on him isn't as big an issue. To be honest, it sounds like he's already sleeping with you.

I remember my MIL and my pediatrician telling me that I was creating a "high needs child" and making him dependent. Good luck with your "high needs" child. LOL My older one is still one of the most loving kids I've ever seen, and the most independent in his class.

That's a toughie. He should definitely be sleeping in his own bed by now, and you are right, the bassinet is no longer safe for a child who can even pull up, crawl, etc.
I would suggest a modified CIO (cry it out) situation. It might take a few nights to actually work, but try this:
Offer a structured nighttime routine to ease him into his room.
Like, bath, bottle, book, and rocking if you do that.
And transition him into his crib each night. Yes, he will fuss, but it is because he knows nothing different than sleeping with you.
I would pop in about every 10 minutes or so, to reassure him. It literally might take an hour or so the first night. He is learning, and its part of a training process to get him used to sleeping in his crib alone.
Do you have a crib soother, such as an Ocean Wonders Aquarium or something attached to the crib to use? It might make him feel more secure.
Good luck!

I agree with the other moms. But one thing I would suggest is going to a toddler bed. If you have a two story home put a gate on the stairs if it's not there already. My two older children went from my bed to a regular bed( full and twin) my youngest is in a crib b/c she is so small (only weights 20 pounds and is 2y/o. Does the crib change into a day bed or something like that? I know mine does and that is what I will do when I think Ivy is able to sleep thru the night. YES she doesn't sleep thru the night and it drives me and my husband crazy. Hope this helps.
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Maybe try putting his crib right beside your bed and that make the transition easier. It doesnt matter what you do its going to be a hard transition for him and it will be a hard week or so before he gets used to something new but you just have to stick with whatever you choose to do. Good luck.

I have four children and I know how hard it is to transition from the child sleeping in your room to his/her own crib in his/her own room. However, you need to put the child in his bed and be consistent with bedtimes. If your son cries like he is hurt, needs a diaper change, or a bottle, then go get him, give him what he needs, and put him back in his crib.

I know it will be hard for you and your husband for the first few days, but it will subside. Eventually your child will learn that this is his bed, and this is where he needs to sleep. You are after all the parent and need to make sure you're the one running the show, not the other way around.

This may sound weird, but maybe you could try putting the crib in your room for a little while until he gets used to it. Babies rely a lot on their sense of smell and he is probably reacting to the lack of your bedroom scent when you put him in his room for the night. You could also try leaving your shirt that you wore that day in the crib with him. Why is he sleeping in a swing? That is not good for circulation. There is no reason to have a baby sleep upright like that unless he has some sort of reflux problem. Get rid of the bassinet and swing and rely heavily on the crib and he'll get used to it. Best of luck!

I hate to tell you this, honey, but you're probably gonna have to let him cry. I had to do this with my daughter, and I hated it. I had finally had enough of not getting enough sleep and went to her pediatrician for advice. He said that every time you go to your baby when they are crying and won't sleep, it reinforces their behavior and makes them cry louder and longer. So you just have to shut the door and go watch TV or something. I sat outside my daughter's room for an hour one night listening to her scream and it was so hard, but it only took a few days to work. She still wakes up sometimes, but goes back to sleep on her own because she knows we won't come get her til morning. The doctor said it's also normal for their sleep schedules to get messed up a little when they're on the verge of a developmental milestone, like walking, so that's why she still wakes up sometimes. Good luck!!

I'm sorry but this will be hard. I'm the mother of three (learning as I go with each). My advice is to be consistant with bedtime and nap time everyday. If you want him in his crib you need to let him know this is where he sleeps. He will not like this at all. Try to be strong and let him scream and cry until he falls asleep. Each time he will put up less of a struggle until it comes naturally to him. I had the same problem with my first (only she had to be rocked and held as she slept). I was heartbroken to hear her screams, but I had to remember it was for her own good. I understand how sensitive you are to your child's feelings. It took me longer to remedy this problem because I was weak and not consistant. I learned my lesson though, and with my other two I developed a much better bedtime routine from the beginning.
Good Luck and Be Strong (:

Try putting a toddler bed beside your bed. If he gets in bed with you, and he will, just keep putting him back in the toddler bed. It can make for some sleepless nights getting him used to another bed, but he won't feel trapped like in the playpen or cradle.

Don't worry we have all been there. Infact I am still there. My three year old won't fall asleep in his bed so we have to put him in his play pen until he falls asleep. Have you tried putting him to sleep in a play pen? You might want to try that and if it doesn't work the only thing left is put him in a room of his own in his crib and let him scream until he does fall alseep. It is easier to control at this age. I passed that mark and now this is what I am dealing with. If the crying upsets you( I know when my son cries it breaks my heart and it seems like forever and he won't stop.)you can step outside onto the proch for a few minutes, it may take a couple of days or even a couple of weeks but it will work. Be consistent in his schedule. Give him a bath a certain time everyday and then place him in bed at the same time everyday. Good luck.

Maybe its time for lil'one to sleep in crib? If he sleeps in his room, will cry but you will not go nuts. Sometimes babies need to cry. After awhile probaly will settle down or get tired and got to sleep. ( short term crying) We had the basnet too, but Morgan was 10lbs at birth, and after awhile he was just too heavy. If he likes the motion, maybe rock to sleep and give some milk once he falls asleep take bottle away. It is kind of hard sometimes with little ones trial and error....hope this was helpful

I agree with every1 - this is gonna be hard. I just went thru this. What I did was get the routine down, same thing every night at the same time. I turned his mobile on (it shines stars on the ceiling and walls) and we swayed. I layed him down and imediately started to cry. I let him go for 5 minutes then went back in and swayed with him. Each time I went a little longer when he cried and after 3 nights he only cries for 1 or 2 minutes and then sound asleep. I don't like him crying either but he now sleeps thru the night after 1 week!, and I get so much more rest not hearing every little sound he makes. It makes me feel better and more alert with the extra sleep. Hope this helps!!!!

try putting a toddler bed right next to yours, then as he get comfortable you can move the bed further away until he is in the next room.that is how i did it with my now 3yr old. that method worked for us like a charm, she now sleeps in her room without a problem.

I totally agree with Jeannie. Be strong, be consistent. Your son needs to know that he belongs in his crib when it's time to sleep. I went through that with my daughter. It's heartbreaking when they scream for you to get them out of the crib. I remember feeling drained emotionally and guilty. But I know you can do it! Best of luck to you and your family.