I have a toddler who wont stay in his toddler bed. If I put him to bed he wont leave the room but wont stay in bed either. he tries to get comfy in the floor or goes to our bed to lay down even when we are not in there. We can be in the front room and him in bed byhimself and he will go lay in our bed. I am thinking he may not like his mattress which by the way was new when we got it? any other opinions. he will not get up and play he just has to be in our bed.
ps I cant ask him if his bed is uncomfortable he is speech delayed. I wish it was that easy but good idea under diffrent circumstances.his bed is in our room due to lack of space.
we got him a bed rail so he wont fall out of bed. so far it is working. we have to put him back in his bed about 5 times before he gives up. he still gets up and winds up in bed with us which I am fine with because it is about 2 am when he does it. hopefully these suggestions with the bed rail work. we also put him a bed in the floor. now I think its just being stubborn and wanting to do what he wants to do.
My son did the same thing, mainly we would 9 times out of 10 find him on the floor with his blankets and teddy bears. We would then just pick him up and put him into bed after he fell asleep. He eventually stopped.
I'll be in the minority.
I think it's sweet. He may like the smell of your bed and that it reminds him of mommy and daddy and is comforting. I would put his toddler bed in a corner of your room or along an edge of your bed even.
In America, co-sleeping is a new thing, but it is standard practice in many countries and in a world-view, we are the odd ones insisting kids sleep alone.
Toddlers are young, I'd enjoy his wanting to be near you while it lasts. Sooner than you know it, he'll be older and you'll be "weird". LOL
My son did this, I would find him asleep on the floor, on his stuffed toys, even under the bed. It happened for the first 2 weeks or so, and than he got used to his new bed and we did not have any further issues. I would just put him in the bed when I would find him asleep elsewhere so he would wake up in it .
Hey there... my kids did that too.
I did that too, when I was a little kid.
My parents/their room, was just comfier.
Or, put a place for him on the floor of your room.
That is what we do.
Or, let him sleep on the floor in his room. My kids did that too.. it being a phase they had and they just wanted to sleep on the floor... even if next to their bed. They like their beds... but just had a phase of wanting to be on the floor.
Oh well. I let them. They got sleep that way. Better than being over-tired fussy and grumpy kids the next day.
It was a phase... and no harm came of it.
Or just ask him... if HIS bed is just uncomfortable. Kinda like the 3 Bears.
all the best,
Susan
My son hated his toddler bed. How old is your son? We ended up putting a gate at his door and he slept on the floor with tons of blankets and pillows "like a dog" as my mother used to say! LOL
It was like a big crib. Truth was, we should have left him in the crib.
Maybe try some music on repeat CD or a CD story. It might entice him to stay put long enough to fall asleep.
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Have you tried one of those side things that pevent the child from falling off (for the life of me I cant remember the name lol) I have done this since day one with my toddler and she stays put... I think she feels like its more of a crib the way we have it set up and she seems super happy!
My son is like that. I don't think it is about the mattress because we went through this with the crib, toddler bed, and twin bed.
We are still going through this. My son, now 4 has always refused to sleep in a bed and we tried everything, even getting him a different bed and he has refused to sleep in it. The only time he has slept in the bed is when someone else is in there sleeping with him. He is also sleep delayed, so it took me years to understand him say it was scary. I don't know what is scary, but something is. He chooses to sleep on the floor by the door. It really bugs me, but the pediatrician told me to pick my battles, as long as he stayed in his room, to let him sleep where he wants to. he won't go to college still sleeping on the floor. I would tell your son that he can sleep wherever he wants as long as he sleeps in this room. We also have a light on in the room, which is another battle that we choose not to fight right now. The first few nights we needed to lock him in (or you could baby gate him) and redo cry it out. But after 2 nights, he happily curls up on his space on the floor. I would break the habit of sharing your bed real fast. That becomes habit very quickly and no one will be comfortable.
Might want to make a big deal about getting a sheet set he would like...Sesame Street, Spiderman, etc. Let him choose. That might help if you have the money for it. If not, try some thrift stores in the area and see what you can find there. You could also try aromatherapy stuff on the bed to help with calmness like lavendar and chamomille.
My daughter isn't to this point yet, thank goodness, but we have this roll on stuff that I have used in emergencies on her blankets to help her fall asleep at times. It has the calming herbs in it. No ill effects at all.
Here is a thought I just thought of...you might try laying the fitted sheet and sheet for his bed on your bed for a night. It might be that he just wants to be comforted by your smells like infants do sometimes. Just a thought.
Hope this helps and good luck! Let us know how it goes! I may be facing this soon enough with my little one. :-)
Can you move him after he is asleep? Will he stay if he falls asleep in your bed and then moves to his own?
We had one who slept in our room for a long time. For a while, she slept in the middle of the king, and then, we got her a futon matress that was on the floor by the side of the bed. She just needed to be close(she had a developmental delay-speech too! Small world again D.!) Maybe if his bed were closer?
She got better, but it took a while. Now she sleeps in her room most of the time, but often would rather sleep on the couch which is closer to our room.
I would move his mattress closer if you can, and see if that helps, at least then you could assume that it was not his mattress!
M.
PS: GO POKES! (Sooners too...did I say that?)
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