Hi C.,
My daughter always hated her crib. We never used it and finally put it in storage. She transitioned from co-sleeping with Mama to her own bed when she was 2 and a half and had not problems with it.
My son liked his crib and slept well in there pretty much from the time he was born. He was very attatched to his "Cozy Crib" so we didn't put him in a big boy bed when he started climbing out of his crib. We just let him climb out. Eventually I removed the side. That made things a little easier. Finally when he was 3 and a half he barely fit in it and we had to transition him. It took him a good week to relax into his own bed. He would cry for his crib!
As for your daughter, she might relate her crib to sleeping. Without the crib she might be a bit confused.
She might also be napping too long. I transitioned my son out of naps around 2 because he wouldn't go to sleep until late at night if he had one. This might very well be what's happening with your daughter.
I would also try to stop with the show right before bed. Both my kids tend to get wound up if they watch anything on TV before bed. We had a no TV after dinner rule.
Finally I would keep on laying down next to her in her big girl bed until she gets used to it. Eventually she will start sleeping again, and so will you.