Teen Need Some Advice

Hi, E.,

I know how you feel, I was in loveless marriage too. It took me a long time to finally leave. Maybe you should try all your options, since you work part time, maybe look into a full time job. Maybe you and your husband should try marriage counseling, just try all options and if the options doesn't work start preping yourself to self efficent. Full time job, maybe get some counseling for a divorce lawyer, don't be afraid to protect yourself and you older children from the abusive environment. Just remember you have people here who will listen when you need to talk. If you like you could email me just to vent from the situation...Sometimes it helps just talk with someone.

E.

You have a lot of wonderful years ahead of you! Get out of the relationship!
Get a restraining order! The law is that if he has been abusive verbally or physically abusive to you within 6 months. You can get a restraining order. State in the restraining order that you want him to move out.
You file for divorce! Most counties will grant a fee waiver if you show proof of your income.
Get ahold of your local battered womens center. They usually have support groups.
Since you and he don't have children, you may have to get a full time job. If you can't work full time then you may be able to get alimony. The law also is that if you've been married longer than 10 yrs, you get half of his retirement.
Working is a great way to meet people. If you have hobby or interest that gets you out of the house, is another way to meet people.
Remember You can do this! You have a lot going for you!
Good Luck
K.

I aggree. Throw his stuff out.

Contact a lawyer to make sure that you have the money to get away, and then just do it! (in California half of everything earned from the day you got married is yours, unless you signed a prenup) Don't keep yourself or your kids in an abusive relationship one second longer then absolutely necessary. Best of luck to you.

What I would do is get some helpfrom the government and they can help you untill you get a full time job. They can help you with homeless assance and all. Also file divorce papers and maybe you will get spousal support untill you can manage on your own. Just tell yopur self you cna do it and wont allow yourself to go through this anymore.Also if you guys own the house you can have him sell it and both of you split the money. Or go to court and have them give him a move out order.
Takecare....
N.