We've all had rough times like you. You are definitely not alone. A few suggestions:
1. sleep as often and long as possible, you need to heal and your nerves need to rest. beg your hubby to get up with your son on the mornings he can so you can sleep in. sleep during his naps. It isn't worth it to lose your sanity and affection for your family to have a clean house or meet everyone else's expectations. If you're doing stuff outside the home, take a break from everyone's expectations for awhile. have hamburger helper for dinner and ignore the calories, fat, etc.
2. call in the calvary!! - grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, older neices & nephews, neighborhood or church teens looking for "work experience" for their resume or college application, home school kids wanting to get out of the house, community events where people watch your kids for free or small expense! Have them spend at least 2 hours at a time with your little one. You can even be home. They can play in the yard while you nap, you can do something fun for yourself - scapbook, read, watch TV, bathe, call your best friend and chat it up. If its family, try to get them to commit to an afternoon or morning once a week, every week. Be flexible with their schedule and they may be more available.
3. DATE NIGHTS - Let your parents/in-laws or family know how hard things are and how bad you need some time alone with your hubby. Ask them to watch your son every other week for one night so you can go out on a date with your hubby. Offer to trade if they have children at home or do some chore for them. Date nights can be free too - look for cheap or free things you can do with your hubby, especially stuff that gets you talking. When you talk things out with each other, you get the stress off your mind and out in the open and sometimes hearing the response from your spouse is super encouraging. Or just hearing that he's feeling the same gives you both a feeling of togetherness that binds you closer and helps you be easier on each other.
4. Walk - get out and walk. If its too terrible outside, go to the mall and walk there. Getting some fresh scenery for you both and a little exercise will really help clear your mind, give you energy and oddly enough, give you hope!
5. Be Thankful - focus on what you are thankful for and all the blessings you have. Its hard to feel overwhelmed when you have so much going for you.
6. When you feel overwhelmed and stressed out, give someone a hug...your son, the cat, your hubby, your girlfriend, the neighbor, cry if you need to and take some deep breaths. It just seems difficult right now, but it will pass before you know it and you won't even remember how hard it was a month after its over.
7. Reduce your "have to" list to 3 things a day or less. Do you have to get dressed to stay at home all day - NO. Do you have to make dinner from scratch every night - NO - PBJ's are just fine. Do you have to do every load of laundry or the sink full of dishes - NO - just what you need for the next day or next meal. Do you have to go grocery shopping - No - just have the hubby pick up the essentials on the way home.
8. Give your son some extra fun "toys" to play with in his crib or pack n play so you can take a break for 20 mins. plastic bowls and wooden spoons. several bowls with lids that stack inside. a bouncy ball. some fun music in the background. a fun show on tv. if you have a cat, introduce the two to the string. if you have a dog, show them how fetch works. the pets keep him entertained for a little while.
9. say to yourself "its ok. we'll make it through. its just a bump in the road. we're doing the best we can and that's enough. we have our health and we have each other."
I'll remember you in my prayers tonight. Post an update in a few days if you can.