M.B.
I know you said you're not a mini-van person...But I have to say, I have a 2006 Mazda MPV that we LOOOOOVE! It has captain seats in the front, captain seats in the back (both back doors are sliding) and a third row bench. It doesn't feel too deep for me. I'm only 5'3" and the visibility is great!!! I don't feel lost in it - but I've had SUV's and big trucks for 10+ years now.
Anyway - Just thought I'd give you my opinion...Good luck!