New Look New Attitude

Well my hubby told me he didn't like short hair then told me never to cut mine. That next day it went short. He never tells me what to do with myself now. He gives his blessings.
So I say go ahead!! Live and be happy.

My hubby doesn't like short hair either...he doesn't have to deal with long hair (style it, detangle it, etc). I love long hair but my hair is fine and doesn't not hold any "style" well and so I was contantly just pulling it back or it just hangs there. If I could have someone style it every day I have about 6 inches taken off in September and he didn't seem to notice until I mentioned it. EVERYONE else did but not him. It was on the long side of shoulder length at that point. I have had another inche or so taken off and he still didn't notice (this time I didn't even tell him).

He wears his hair the way he wants, you get to do the same!

Your hair/your decision!

My thoughts are if the decision effects only ME, or mostly me, then I should have the final say. I consider other opinions but only to the direct degree they impact that other person.

I love your energy on this! Do it! I get like that from time to time. Change is good, change is healthy. I usually let my hair grow out long for a couple of years (like down past my bra) and then chop it off to chin lenth! Hubby like long hair too, but he deals with cause he loves me!

Why don't cha just get a tatoo or extra ear pierce while your at it!

Yes, I've wanted to do things that my husband didn't like. I did them and always regretted it. Its my husband that I care about. I want him to think I look nice, I want him to see me as pretty. How can cut my hair, do my makeup, or dress in a way that I know he doesn't like and still expect him to find me attractive?
You can do what you want, but I would suggest telling him you want to cut it shorter and ask him to find a picture of a style he thinks he might like on you. Also if he's the kind of guy who would, ask him to go clothes shopping with you so you can get clothes you both like. It doesn't have to be an either/or kind of thing.

my dh was pretty horrified when i cut off my lovely long hair. but after he got over the shock, he admitted that the short cut suits me very well, even though he misses the mane (so do i sometimes.)
but oh, how much easier my life is!
it's only clothes and hair. if you don't like it, it's such an easy fix.
DO IT!
:) khairete
S.

WoW! I could have written this post a couple of weeks ago! I have really long hair and a few weeks ago I told my husband that I wanted to cut my hair so that it is shoulder length. I’m just needing a new look. He was SO adamant about me NOT cutting my hair and he said that my long hair is my best attribute.

Anyway I told my friend that I wasn’t going through with it and she just said that it was too bad because she knew I really wanted to and asked why I changed my mind. When I told her why she just looked at me and said “Are you kidding me? Does he realize it WILL grow back!” Do what YOU want for YOU. You’re always doing everything to please him!”

So I did it and I love it! Honestly my husband likes it too because the style is really cute and sexy. He was envisioning like a Carol Brady (The Brady Bunch) look! LOL! He actually said it makes me look younger but hopes I let me hair grow back =-)

I usually suggest going with what hubby wants but my hubby wants my hair short and I HATE my hair short so I keep it long. =) When it comes to hair, we have to like it. =) Hair grows back so you can grow it long for him, then cut it short for you, then do it all over again. He may like it better knowing you'll grow it back out. Good luck!!!

I'm so glad you are doing what you want to do! You never know, your husband might like the short hair and if he doesn't he will get used to it soon enough!

I love your post, and I'm cheering you on!

Go crazy girl!

:)

I'm not reading all of your responses. I understand you being hesitant to change your look if you've stuck with the same thing for some time. I have never understood women who won't change this or that (and it usually comes down to hair) because their men don't like it or are against it or tell them not to.

I'm sorry, the concept of not changing a physical part of your body because it may not be someone else's favorite way for you to look just doesn't compute for me.

I have heard the reasoning of 'he is the one who has to look at me', or 'I respect his wishes' or 'he won't be attracted to me if I cut my hair short'. To me they are all nothing but excuses because I've certainly never heard a woman say 'My husband told me not to cut my hair short & I did it anyway but then he found me so repulsive he would no longer have sex with me & we ended up getting divorced'. Have you??

In the end, YOU are the only one who has to feel great about how you look & if cutting your hair off will do that, then go for it!

Cut it as short as you'd like and buy a wig to wear to bed - problem solved.

I love change, especially changing my hair because it will always grow back or you can change the color if you please. You will never know if you like something or how it makes YOU feel unless you give it a try, so go for it!!

It is so liberating! Do it! I cut mine off to 2in long all over when I was 20. Before that it had always been long. I have curly hair and I always wanted to know what it would be like to cut it off. But I had the idea that "your hair is what defines you" in my mind for so long. I finally just got the scissors out and measured 2 inches all over and cut it all off:) And I loved it! It was an odd feeling not to have that part of me, but oh so refreshing! Now I grow it out just so I can cut it off again:) I have done it 4 times now. I like to donate it to Locks of Love, which is even more of an inspiration to grow it out and cut it off. But the liberating feeling that comes with change and doing something you have never done before, you just can't replace. Go for it and don't look back!
E.

Hair grows back! Do it!!!

Go for it! It's your hair and you never know, he may like how it looks on you!! Besides.....it will grow back.
I'd love to throw out (most) of my clothes and start a new wardrobe. I'm a little jealous. Have fun with it!

Yeah, I do it all the time. You've got to be happy the way you are. Sure other members of the family may not like or be happy with your new look, but you can' t let them get you down if you really like the look. MIL does it all the time to me, then I don't buy that really cute shirt/pants and regret it later when one of my coworkers is wearing it. MIL likes short hair. I got my hair cut short once...That was because my son was in the pulling hair stage that babies go through. I had to have it permed, so it would look more femine. It actually looked good with curls on the top and short in the back, until it started growing out in 2 weeks....I looked like Harpo Marks! I just don't look good in short hair, which is why you have to get your hair the way you feel good. I just wish I looked good in shorthair like some of those women with the cute little femine features. You know, the ones that can wear those really short straight pixie cuts. Those cuts are sooooooo cute, but not on me. Then there's the clothing MIL talked me into that I finally decided to throw out, because it's just not me. Bottom line is do what you need to do for yourself. You're not hurting anyone changing your own looks, but you do styfle yourself if you don't.

Just make sure you don't go to an extreme b/c it takes a long time to "grow out" a bad cut! My hair was really really long after my son was born (grew it out for the wedding and kept it long for two years). I liked it, hubs loved it.

After the baby, I needed a change and my girlfriend (hair dresser) suggested going to for a more "styled" and shorter look with highlights so that if I (or he) really didn't like it, I could color it back quickly and regrow it within a year.

Ended up loving it, but glad for the "reality check" before she started snipping!

When I met my hubby I had short hair. It was really cute and he liked it. Now I've grown it out, and hubby asks me often to cut it. I like it mid length, but I also like the short. The only problem is it's hard to grow out once you get tired of it. Please don't do what hubby wants. It's so important that you make yourself happy and do what you want. After all, it's only hair and it'll grow out again.

I say yes, but do think only certain people can carry off a good short cut. Be careful which cut you choose that's all! Have fun. I do think though that if you have any issues with your relationship intimately, cutting hair, from what I hear, sometimes is a big attractive factor deal for men. Not all men, but sadly it is. I don't think you should do things just because your man likes it, but I do see that small concessions that don't really matter to me sometimes go a long way. Don't tell him though, just maybe balance it with other things? Not sure if this all makes sense- it's 4am and I can't sleep! Good luck!