I had a 'missed abortion' about 8 months ago. It was devastating, but after a few months my husband and I decided to try again. We actually have to do fertility treatments, as I have PCOS and do not ovulate normally. We are pregnant again, but I have not been able to relax at all. I feel better about things when I am nauseous and such, but for the past week and a half or so all of my symptoms have been completely gone. My breasts are not tender in the slightest, no nausea, no frequent urination....I am in the process of switching from my OB to a midwife with another hospital, so I feel as if I cannot really call anyone. I have an appointment with the midwife in 5 days. I know that I need to hold out and hope that she can hear a heartbeat with the doppler. But I just cannot stop worrying! I really want to be blissfully happy that I am pregnant again, but the prior miscarriage has left me a bit traumatized. I think It was the fact that I saw my little one on that screen not moving at all, after I had just seen the heartbeat the week before. Any words of advice for me? I know it is no good at all to worry, but how do you avoid it when you have lost a baby after having tried so hard to conceive?
Enjoy it, I have had 4 preg. I lost my 1st t 18 weeks and all of them were horrible on me. I was very sick, exhausted and in pain.
You are working yourself up. You have ups and down weeks in pregnancy. Consider this your up week. I know you had just had a miscarriage but you cannot stress more and think the same thing is always going to happen. Stay on the positive side and everytime is different. Every pregnancy is different. You will know when you know, take it easy and dont let stress harm your body.
you are getting yourself into a frenzy for no reason. Some women, so I've read, have a baby and never had a pregnancy symptom the entire time.... hard to believe... but happens I suppose.
Since you don't have a doppler in reach you just have to be patient to hear that little heartbeat at your next visit :)
You are anxious.... that is awesome :) Sounds like you will enjoy every minute of this pregnancy!
I didn't have any pregnancy symptoms with my first and he is just fine. Your body is just adjusting to the hormones, and the symptoms you mention actually get much better towards the end of the first trimester. Try not to worry too much. I know it's hard. I had a miscarriage between my son and my daughter, who is now 14 weeks old. Best of luck to you and congratulations!
I suggest that you look at the lack of symptoms as a good thing. Some women, and you are apparently one of them, have a space of time with no or few symptoms. And pregnancies, even for the same woman, can be different each time. Assume the best and you're more likely to get the best. By assuming the worst you are putting stress on your body as well as your mind.
For the next five days, every time you're feeling worried, remind yourself that you're OK. Fake the feeling until you feel it. When you start feeling tense and worried get involved in an activity that will help you take your mind off the subject. I can space out reading and so I read a lot when something is bothering me. That way I don't think about it.
My pregnant daughter has a midwife who texts. Even before her first exam she asked some questions by texting her. I suggest that you either call, text, or e-mail your concerns to the new mid-wife. She may be able to get you in sooner or she may be able to give you information that will help to calm you.
I had a whole 2 DAYS of symptoms with our first and that was it. She was born way LATE (long story, not getting into it now) but at a healthy 8.12 lbs, 20". We, too, have had our share of miscarriages, I also suffer from PCOS, and yet we have 3 beautiful and healthy children, including a set of natural twins. You're supposed to calm down toward the end of the 1st trimester anyway. Take a deep breath, maybe draw a warm bath, and try to relax. I'll say an extra prayer for you :)
It sounds like your past experiences were pretty traumatic, understandably so! As a mama who had a MISERABLE pregnancy from week 3 throughout, I say enjoy the gift of not feeling miserable!!!! I know many many many women who didn't have any symptoms at all and skipped morning sickness (while happy for them, I lovingly hated them too!!!).
So relax, enjoy feeling good, and know that you might be one of the lucky ones! Maybe a gift from the cosmos for all the suffering you have endured to get to this point.
Congratulations!!!!
Hi M.! Keep your chin up. :) The 2nd trimester is typically the favorite because all the uncomfortable symptoms go away from the 1st trimester but you're not too uncomfortable yet. If you are genuinley concerned, call the doctor (the one you're leaving) because he/she has been seeing you all along. They are already familiar with you. Then meet with your new midwife in 5 days. Good luck & try to stay positive. Everything happens for a reason, even if we don't know the reason.
I am so sorry for your loss! Try to stay positive! Each pregnancy is different and you may have gotten lucky with this one and wont have the symptoms.
