Only Feed Water????

Updated on July 26, 2008
E.M. asks from Toa Alta, PR
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I have a one year old who refuses to eat. She was a picky and difficult eater from the start. Most of the time we had to sit her in the sink to play with water for her to eat. But at least she ate her meals. About two weeks ago she started becoming more difficult to eat and the sink trick stopped working. I took her to her pediatrician and he recommended that we only feed her water until she eats what we offer. The ped mentioned that within 3-4 hours she will be eating out of hunger. I tried his suggestion but she went 10 hours without food...just water!!! He recommends that I do this for a couple of days (3-4 days). If she refuses to eat to just give her water.

She was drinking pediasure (6-8 oz. a day) to complement her diet but now she doesn't like to drink much of it. We are lucky if she drinks 4 oz. She doesn't like to drink much milk or formula either. She drinks about 1-1 1/2 bottles of milk a day.

I am really concern about this method. I feel is a little inhumane to keep with out food for so long. Has anyone gone through this? Any advice is appreciated.

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A.J.

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As bad as it sounds, I think as long as she's drinking water and a little milk even, then for 3 to 4 days, she'd be fine. sounds like she's got a pretty strong will. trust me, it's better to handle that when they're young :) You don't want to completely break her spirit, but right now, she's in complete control...and knows it :) I'd try it this way but if things don't change after 4 days of it, I'd call the doc back and say something else might be up. Good luck!

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J.T.

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I don't always agree with western medicine advise. Maybe there is more to just she doesn't like food. Maybe she has another condition that needs to be researched. I would take her to a natural physician, ayuvedic physician or accupunture physician. I would exhaust all avenues before starving her.
Coconut water is an excellent food source. Thai water is very yummy and she may like it.
good luck!

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L.H.

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I would get another opinion. If you don't need a referral from the ped, I'd go ahead and make an appt. w/ a ped GI. maybe it's untreated reflux?
I would ALSO get to a SLP (Speech Language Pathologist) as soon as you can. It sounds 'odd' at this age, but this is who will help you w/ feeding. Make sure you find one that specializes w/ FEEDING...
please keep us updated...
in the meantime I would suggest doing whatever you CAN to get your child to eat- I wouldn't suggest this in 'mormal' circumstances, but this seems like a crisis! Use tv, stick food on toys and let her play at her highchair, eat in the bath tub, whatever it takes!! and get to see the SLP as soon as you are able. Please keep us posted so we all know how to help someone else should this topic come up again!

~L.

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S.S.

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Hi E.,
just a few questions,after the 10 hours ,did your little girl eat a decent amount of food for her? 10 hours seems LONG for us but for a one year old it is different. WE are TAUGHT to eat every 4 hours , but this is not nescesary and mostly we eat when we are not hungry.
I have a very finiky eater as well ,she is 2 and 1/2 , I do wait untilshe is HUNGRY,I can tell by the way she gets a little fussy,and than I try to have good food for her . She ALMOST ALWAYS eats most if not all that i make for her. It took me a long time to figure this method out.
Also sometimes she only eats little nibbles of this or that all day long. She would eat candy all day if it were up to her,and I give her an organic lollipop ocassionally after she has eaten well ( not as a reward)

I am still breastfeeding her at night and in the morn, but not during the day ( from 9am-10pm) so she gets these extra nutrients form me.

She also JUST started drinking milk ( organic cows or soy) MAYBE 2, 16 oz bottles in a day

but until she was over 2 and 2 months , she almost never would eat it seemed!!!

Other questions for health concerns, Does she seem fussy when she goes to pee or poop?
Does she poop regularly ( even every other day is good for a baby who does not eat much)
Does she seem to be in any distress after she eats ( while digesting the food)
As she is swallowing?
or as it comes out in waste?
If these are or become concerns than she would need to go for more in depth medical exam.

If she is basically happy ,than she will tell you when she is hungry!

Smoothies are a great way to get lots of nutrition into her as well.

good luck!

S.

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C.M.

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It's not inhumane, you do have the responsibility of training your children. Each of my kids went through a finiky eating phase. The difficulty is that you have been coaxing her from the beginning, not it's a habit she thinks she can control. My kids have each gone through time where they didn't want to eat what I made and I put the same meal back in the fridge and waited until the next meal time/snack time. That SAME meal came out of the fridge (NOT reheated) and they were given another opportunity to eat. If they refused to eat at that opportunity, the same thing happened until they ate what was presented to them. Each of them held out for almost a full day, but they are did NOT give me that problem again.

NOTE: MY CHILDREN WERE ALREADY about 2 YEARS OLD when I had to do this ... so it was clearly a power issue, not a medical issue

AND ... Before everyone goes nuts ... there is a difference between withholding food as a punishment and learning to live within the family's expectations which includes eating the family meal, not dinner a la carte. I am WELL aware of that. The food is not being withheld, it's offered and then taken away at the end of the prescribed time (say 1/2 hr to an hour, tops).

Yes ... check on any undiagnosed medical issues, see a GI specialist ... but STOP with the Pediasure because she won't be hungry and will learn she doesn't have to eat to be nourished. It will defeat what you are trying to get her to do in the first place.

Good luck and don't worry, you're doc isn't crazy.

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V.M.

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E., I read your message and all I hear is how you are concerned and reluctant about the Pediatrician's suggestion.
Honestly, I think you need to listen to your instincts. You don't seem to agree with the idea of only feeding your growing baby water and you are concerned. I know how hard it can be to follow your instincts especially when you have an "authority" figure disagreeing with you but you are the person that knows your child best!
Since you asked, in my opinion your Ped's suggestion is OUTRAGEOUS. You said your girl is a ONE year old???? And your Dr. wants you to go 3-4 days without feeding her anything but water to force her to eat??? If I were in your position I would be looking for a new Dr. immediately!
Yeah you can browbeat anyone into doing anything in life but is that a method you agree with for your child?? It is totally and completely normal for babies (and that's what she is) at her stage to be picky about foods. It's normal and many kids go thru it. My son had a streak where all he would eat for months was chicken and cheerios. That was it. He cared for no veggies, fruits, rice, or anything else. He is now a 4 year old who loves fruits, vegetables, chicken, fish, rice, you name it. In my opinion I would not be pushing the issue of eating at such an early age. It is not like she is 5 and refusing to eat what the family is eating. It is very unlikely that this is a control issue at 1. I would see another pediatrician for a different opinion and maybe rule out food sensitivies. How is she otherwise? Is she happy, does she play, interact, sleep well??? If all else is normal I would attribute it to normal pickyness at this stage in her life. If she has other concerning behaviors, food sensitivities or other issues could be in play. Just try even "googling" it, she's at an age where it is completely NORMAL to be picky about eating or even refuse to eat altogether. It is common for kids to be so enthralled with the world around them that eating is not a top priority.
In this day and age people have such unhealthy relationships when it comes to food I think the worst thing you can do it try to force an issue like this! You mentioned that she was eating when you had her distracted playing with the sink. I would try to encourage her to eat throughout the day "on the go". Don't make it a point to sit down and eat a meal instead offer very nutritious "snacks" throughout the day-- cheerios, diced chicken breast, slices of cheese, carrots, anything she might like in bite sizes and throughout the day.
Does she still drink formula or breastfeed? Is she drinking whole milk? Those are still important sources of nutrition at this stage.
Also, does she drink juice? Juice can decrease appetite at times so I would cut back a little on that.
I would also try to make any meal times special. She is still young but you can try buying her some fun spoons to feed herself or a "special" bib to wear when she eats. Overall I would make it fun and relaxed.
Hugs to you and kudos for trusting your instincts and questioning advice you don't feel is right for your child.

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M.E.

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The book Child of Mine by Ellyn Salter was a Godsend. It's a great book about kids and their eating habits, and when to worry about their eating and when to not worry. My guess is that she gets a lot of attention when she doesn't eat...I would just offer her the food, and when she doesn't eat it, clean it up, not offer more food until the next planned meal or snack time, offer again...and go from there.

K.N.

answers from Miami on

Dear E.,
First please tell us this doctors name! I want to make sure he never sees' my children! Not even in an emergency!!! As far as the bad eating habits, your daughter is only 1 I believe, so i think trying all kinds of various foods cut into shapes; colored to make them pretty, games ect. will soon loosen up her desire to try and eat new and old foods! My girls love to help me make them things! There is a seasoning called Sazon, with Anchoitte, that will turn anything from a yellow to a bright orange! It's great in mashed potatoes, rice, ect. Plus it is a great seasoning for anything especially meats. Food coloring into a soup will turn it cool looking and fun to eat! Let her add a little to her food. Her helping to create may encourage her to taste! Good luck! You are in our prayers!
Kathy N.
PS. also cutting bread ect into shapes. Let your imagination guide you!

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S.M.

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Wow, the pediatrician told you to just give her water until she eats what you want her to eat? I would get another pediatrician. For the most part, babies eat what they need to eat. There is almost NEVER any reason to stress out over what a baby eats, as long as you provide the baby with the right kinds of food (proteins, vegetables, fruits, starches) and don't get the child hooked on junk food. The baby will eat more of one kind of food than the other at different times, depending on what his or her body needs at that time.

One huge cause of babies and young children giving problems over eating is parents being stressed out and worried over their children's eating habits. If you are relaxed and don't place a lot of importance on your child eating everything you set in front of her, she is more likely to eat peacefully. But if the child picks up on your stress and your worries, she will become nervous, and when a child is nervous, she is less likely to eat. Also, when a child senses that what she eats and how she eats produces a reaction in Mom and Dad, she sees mealtimes as a huge power struggle, and so there will be battles because children like to feel powerful.

I think what you need to do is stop the power struggle. Do not react to what your child eats, as long as it's good food. Do not offer junk food just to get the child to eat something. Kids go through growth spurts where they're eating everything in sight, and then their bodies rest for a while, and they don't need as much food. As long as the child is healthy, she will manage to eat what she needs from the things you offer her. She will also manage to drink enough when she's thirsty, so you don't need to stress out about that, either.

You can also try combining foods if she's still on strained or mashed-up foods. If she likes mashed potatoes, for instance, you can try stirring in a little bit of strained vegetables so that she will not taste the stuff she might not eat by itself. Hamburgers can have all kinds of vegetables hidden in them, if you cook the veggies and put them in the blender first, then mix that up with the hamburger and make hamburgers or meatloaf.

There are all kinds of tricks to getting kids to eat good things, but the first thing I think you need to do is to get rid of the worries. And that weird pediatrician. Naturally, it works better if you try to feed her when she's hungry, but making her extra hungry by keeping food away from her altogether for a few hours -- that's just cruel.

Well, I hope this is helpful.

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C.V.

answers from Miami on

Are you feeding her the milk or pedisure before you try and get her to eat? Try not to. If my daughter drinks milk before a meal she's usually too full to eat. You can also try letting her graze through the day. Sometimes they just don't want to sit down to a meal.

Cathy

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C.P.

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Hello E.,

I read until you said pediasure... hmmm... My son went through a similar stage until I stopped the pediasure. trust me, she's not hungry. by the way, how are her bowel movments? is she constipated? does she take any allergy meds? allergy meds mess w/ kid's apetite. just keep trying different things. what are you trying to offer to her? could it be the texture of the food? I wish you luck and patience. keep trying! make sure she's well hydrated. do you think she would like to pick food from your plate.... ~C.~

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C.B.

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E., I would strongly encourage you to find another pediatrician. What your ped has recommended is something I have never heard of and I would not follow this so called water method at all. First of all, many babies are picky eaters. To not offer anything at all is ridiculous.

First things first: You need to keep offering food to your baby. Cut up pieces of fruit (strawberries, bananas, peaches, kiwi, etc.) You can offer cut up pieces of cheese, small pieces of lunch meat, jelly spread on a piece of bread or cracker. Grilled cheese sandwiches, pancakes, french toast, spaghettios...steamed veggies like carrots and sweet potato, oatmeal, flavored oatmel, Cream of Wheat, scrambled eggs.... The point is to keep trying.

Secondly, you need to offer your baby nourishment from milk. Babies don't need to be on formula past 12 months. You can switch her to whole milk and keep her on whole milk until she reaches age 2. The pediasure should NOT replace the nourishment that she needs from food and milk (look at the ingredients and the label carefully...you will see that it is not all that healthy. I wouldn't suggest juice unless you dilute and use juice sparingly anyway but you can offer her silk soy milk too but do not substitute soy milk for milk. She needs milk because of the fat content which is necessary for continued brain development.

You are a mother with the natural gift of "instincts." God has given this gift to mothers for a reason. You know in your heart that giving your baby only water is wrong. With that said, get another pediatrician and start giving your baby foods that she will like. I have a picky eater. Trust me when I say that I feel your frustration. You just need to keep trying different things and your baby may love something today and hate it tomorrow. It goes with the phase but it will pass. Do not give up and try not to worry about this. Many babies "stop eating" around this age. It's normal....but DO find another doctor so you can discuss your concerns with.

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P.B.

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My initial reaction is to flog the doctor!

Does she get fed by herself? I have observed that kids who eat at the table with their parents do better at eating regular meals, even if it is only one meal.

I agree, don't give any pediasure before meals, kills the appetite. Could be a power struggle but at 1 year I doubt she is aware of it. Still would not make eating or not eating a big deal.

Good luck!
I would get another opinion, too.

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