Change pediatricians. We had an a-hole pediatrician were I live who was like the one you described. Immediately upon the opening of a new pediatric facility, I changed to them and could not ask for better doctors. They are quick to catch any problems and are even quicker to try something new if they even suspect a problem. They have no problems running tests if they suspect there are problems whether it be a problem directly with the child or a family history issue.
For example, I am Native American Indian and as such, my family is prone to autoimmune disorders. All the elders had some form of autoimmune disorder. I was diagnosed some 9-10 years ago with lupus (SLE) and Sjogren's disease. My husband, who is of pure European descent, has juvenile diabetes. Most of your adult doctors and even some peds will say that diabetes does not run in families but the evidence is showing that not to be true. It DOES tend to run in families.
Our pediatrician has checked our girls, and continues to check our youngest since our oldest is 23 now and could not remain with the peds' doctors after her 19th birthday but they tested each of them each year at their annual physical and if there was a problem that hinted at juvenile diabetes... They also ran a series of blood panels to find out if the girls' blood work were showing any early signs of autoimmune diseases in addition to having us keep a log of any symptoms that might show they could be experiencing a form of autoimmune disease. There is one 1st cousin older than I am who has had juvenile rheumatoid arthritis since he was a young boy. I was the 2nd diagnosed with autoimmune diseases and since then there is a 3rd diagnosed and a couple others who are symptomatic with a few going through the testing phase to find out which they have and to start treatment as soon as a diagnosis/diagnoses is made.
I absolutely abhorred our previous pediatrician but the ones we have been dealing with these last 16 years or so are the greatest. They call back immediately and even have a service over the weekends who take calls and if there are any questions they have a nurse practitioner and a doctor, if needed, on hand to answer them or if it's more serious, they send us to the nearest hospital where one of the doctors in the practice will meet us when we arrive to take care of our child.
As you can imagine, after this new service moved into town, the previous pediatrician lost well over 2/3rds of her business. The last I heard, she has hardly no patients; yet, our pediatrician has so many patients they have recently opened their 5th satellite office! Most of the peds docs rotate between offices although some stay with one office in particular. It mostly depends on who lives closer to which office. Thankfully, we usually get the two to three peds docs we deal with on a regular basis as well as our trusty nurse practitioner who is always there as well as the staff who work the desk. Over the years we have had so much fun getting to know each other and keeping up with the kids and their accomplishments.
It's been a little over 4 years since they saw my oldest daughter, yet they all are aware that she is in college, soon to graduate, and will be getting married soon. Although, our daughter spoke with her dad yesterday and the wedding may be put off until either October of this year or April of next year. We have our fingers crossed for April of next year. I think they've hit a financial snag plus with our daughter's college education and working full-time it can't be easy as well as our future SIL working out of town now for a month at a time. So much is changing. Best thing is that at least they don't want children or rather my daughter doesn't want children. I believe she may change her mind in time but for now, she isn't up for the idea. I think she's a lot like me in that respect. I can't tolerate a lot of children; I could barely tolerate my own. It doesn't mean I don't love them with every fiber of my being or that I wouldn't give my own life if it meant saving their lives but I was never meant to be a SAHM. I was a career mom who made it all work in this nice neat little package until I got sick - first the blindness then later the autoimmune diseases (lupus (SLE) and Sjogren's). I have little patience for children. I implemented the Mommy Time-Out in my house. The girls thought it was funny because they had time-outs and Mommy had them too. When Mommy had a time-out they knew that they had to be quiet so Mommy could do her "time" in time-out just like they had to do when they had their time-out times.
We haven't been to the pediatrician since learning this information because it came about yesterday on Father's Day. But, I know the ladies will all be rooting for her no matter what.
If they get married in April, they're anniversary will be in the same month as mine and my husband's anniversary. I think that would be nice in and of itself. I just hope they don't elope. That's what we did and at times, I sort of regret it because I truly wanted my surrogate mom there even if it did piss off Mother and my MIL has only witnessed one of her 3 boys get married because two of them eloped while only one was actually married in a traditional but small setting. I'm hoping we can renew our vows before his mother passes away so she can be there to witness our love for each other despite the fact that we have had a rocky road getting to where we are today. It has been a long hard road but it was worth it. My MIL is in her mid to late 70s and not in the best of health. It's one thing I want to give her before she's gone. I only wish my surrogate mom could be there too but she died 6+ years ago. Mother and I rarely speak and I have no contact with my birth father and haven't in more than a decade. He's dead to me. I only hear from Mother about once a year, sometimes twice and usually it's to ask for something... I never wanted my girls to have a mother or a father like that. I guess it's why I always let them know I love them even if it's just a quick email or a text on our oldest daughter's phone. I do these little things to let her know I'm thinking about her; but I digress....
There are excellent pediatricians out there. You just have to look harder to find them sometimes and when you do find them, hold onto them tight because they become more than your child's pediatrician. They become an extended part of your family.