Pee-trained but Not Poop-trained -- Will He Regress If I Keep Him in Pull-Ups?

Updated on January 03, 2012
S.S. asks from Los Angeles, CA
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My 2.5 year old son was potty-trained over winter break and has been wearing underwear all week. He's pretty much fully pee-trained but he can't go poop in the potty. He tells me he wants to poop in potty but when I sit him there, its like the urge to go disappears. I got so scared he would hold it in and cause medical issues that I actually convinced him to put on a diaper just to go poop yesterday even though he said he'd rather poop in potty than diaper (keep in mind i took him to the potty nearly a dozen times at his request but no poop came out). So now I'm wondering if I should keep him in underwear or pull-ups. If he's in underwear, he holds in the poop b/c he doesn't want to soil it but when he sits on the potty, he doesn't push the poop out. If he's in a pull-up, though, I'm worried he'll regress with the peeing. What to do??

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M.

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What I did was let my kids poop in the pull up and then take them into the bathroom and dump the poop from the pull up into the potty. I would then cheer and say "Yay! There's poop in the potty where it belongs!" I would then have my kids flush the potty and we would say good-bye and wave to the poop. Both my kids got a kick out of this. After a couple of times I would ask if they wanted to just go on the potty and put the poop where it belongs. It worked!

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B.P.

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Holding in poop is going to "make the poop mad" as we call it and will cause constipation. I would give him probiotics and some prunes so the urge is strong and he poops easily. He seems to be asking, so maybe you should ask him what he wants to do. It can't hurt to put on the pullups just for now and talk about what is expected of him in terms of peeing and pooping.

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A.G.

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The best way to potty train is to take away the pull ups completely (except during sleep)

You will have a few "crappy" days and then all will be well.:)

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K.W.

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I would try underwear for a couple days to see what happens. Can you get him to sit on the potty for awhile? My youngest wanted to hop up right away, but it helped to read him a story, give him a special toy, sing, whatever just to keep him there long enough to go. Also, if he does go in underwear I'd just not be mad but act grossed out- say, "yuck, let's clean this, yucky poop" and show him how you dump it in potty. It's worth having a couple accidents to give him the chance to learn, in my opinion. Of course be ready when you're out and about.

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C.P.

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My son did this too and I kept him in pull ups because I had to work and he went to the sitter's house. He did just fine. I just got him a special book to help him relax and he could read it on the toilet. Chewable probiotics will help and also increasing his fruit will help. Good luck on it!! My sitter got him to go on the toilet so she told me that she asked him to push.

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S.A.

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My son is 3 yrs old and we just went through this same problem. About 6 months ago he was fully pee trained, but he had one "messy" accident on the potty, and I think it traumatized him! He refused to poop on the potty- only in a diaper. In the beginning I said "no, if you have to poop you need to go on the potty", but after 3 days he still hadnt gone. I got very concerned and caved, so i put a diaper on him. He went fine, but from then on alwasy requested a diaper. I continued to put them on him, but we also kept sitting on the potty (to get comfortable with it for a long period of time). When he goes pee he can go quickly, but never has to sit and "relax" for longer than a minute. so we began to train him. I did EVERYTHING i could think of to get him comfortable, we read books, talked, made faces to laugh, even painted his toenails! Finally he could sit there for 5 mintues. I began to leave for 1 of those minutes and told him i was "getting a book" but realy i was giving him privacy. When the urge came and he told me he needed a diaper, i said "lets go sit on the potty and read"- we did- and in that one minute i was gone POOP!! He has been pooping ever since :) hope that helps! Good luck! and relax- bc he wont go to college in diapers :)!! just encourage and love him :)

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S.H.

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No, it won't.

Some kids, will just NOT poop at all, if only made to poop in the toilet when they are not quite ready yet.
My daughter was that way.
We didn't force her. But just the "idea" of pooping in a toilet gave her stress and anxiety. She then held in her poop. It then causes constipation and pain and internal problems. We then had to take her to a Pediatric Gastroenterologist. He said EVERYDAY he sees kids like this. Once they start to hold in their poop, it is not good. Just let them poop in a diaper, they will when ready, poop in a toilet. That is better than having internal problems because of constipation and the child withholding their poop and not pooping.

Don't make it a battle.
Your son is young.
When he is ready... he will poop in a toilet like other kids.
Pooping is often the last "stage" in potty mastery.
This is common.
Don't worry.
Let him poop, even if in a diaper for now.
It took my daughter THREE months+, to overcome her stress/anxiety with pooping. And we had to give her Doctor prescribed treatment.

The Doctor, said, that pooping in a toilet is a 2 pronged thing. Emotion based and biological. When ready and able, a child will naturally move to that next level in pottying.

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R.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

If your son is truly pee-trained the pullups shouldn't confuse him, you can tell him since he can't go poop in the potty he needs to still use them but can still pull them down to pee.

I was wondering, though, if you sit with him when he tries to poop, what if you were to leave him to his privacy? Some kids will not poop with an audience, my little guy doesn't like to. Since your son WANTS to poop in the potty as opposed to a diaper this might work.

Once he feels the pressure is off to poop in the potty have him sit down on the potty in the pullup to do his business, and once he is comfortable doing that cut a hole in the pullup (unknown to him) for the poop to fall out of it and into the potty. Once he realizes he's "pooping in the potty" his fear may then disappear.

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L.O.

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my son did this.. but he would poop in his undies.. if I gave him an opportunity (eh would hide)

do not go back to pull ups.. he is trained.. add fiber to his diet.. encourage water raisins fruit.. so he will have an easy time going poop.

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