PMS Is Not an Excuse?

Oh Sweetie,

PMS is nothing to blow off. I can tell when I'm going to start my period because I want to eat everything not nailed down, everyone in the house starts breathing too loud, and I cry at shows on the Food Network. Then there's the first two days of my period. More of the same plus a little bit extra.

And when I got pregnant with my fifth child? My oldest offered to start a prayer group. Not for me, but for those that had to deal with me.

Probably what would help your husband the most is for him to hear it from someone other than you. Perhaps if he went to the OB/GYN with you and heard it from a physician. Then there's his mom or a sister or a cousin. Maybe just to make a light little joking way to do it you could have all the men you know (brothers, friends husbands, whoever) write up their worst PMS, pregnancy experience and make it into a little booklet for him. Kind of the man's version of "What to Expect When She's Expecting...and When She's Not." That way he could see it's not just you and it's not just him and maybe other people could help give him ideas of what HE could do to help you.

Whatever the answer, he can get glad in the same pants he got mad in.

L.

next time he is cranky because he is tired tell him tired isnt an excuse :) or tell him i am bloated cramping tired and want chocolate what is your excuse. if he cant deal with you pmsing he wont understand the pregnant mood swings and tell him if hes that uncaring to pms you dont want to have his baby cause he wont understand pregnancy hormones either.

What is his excuse for poo-pooing a medical explanation that he does not like for an issue you have not control over? Sounds like an ingorance and arrogance problem to me (his) and that needs some very kind, and direct education about hormones, brain function, and mood. He lives with a woman, afterall, and maybe your OB is just the tutor for him. Have your husband make the copay at the front desk himself on his way out of the OB's office, and make the appointment under his name for his consulation.

M.

I totally PMS and to hell with what your husband and Doctor said.
I had a doctor like that once and I went and found another. When I begin to realize I am becoming more aggressive or more sensitive where I cannot stop myself, I know to watch out. I even warn my husband and coworkers..

I have a very good friend and she is a Criminal Defense Attorney. I have her home, number, cell number and office number in case I lose it sometime and end up in the Travis County lock up.. Whenever I am PMS'ing and my husband gets on my last nerve. I grab that cell phone and remind him, my friend has my defense all worked out..

I am now on medication and when that PMS starts raising its head, I add half of a pill to take the edge off.. BTW, many women that have PMS notice it gets worse and worse as we age. .

It is a real health condition.

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There are 5 hormones at work on us during our cycle, estrogen through the first 2-ish weeks, FSH through the 2nd week, LH through day 13-16ish, a big dose of progesterone and inhibin through week 3 and into week 4, and lastly every hormone drops to nearly nothing right before you menstrate. The drop in hormones is what causes most of the PMS symptoms. We have no control over our hormones, we need all of them to create eggs and ovulate - it is how women are made. Tell your husband to get over himself, if he had surges of multiple hormones taking over his body and then dropping to nothing he would go nuts. Maybe he needs a shot of estrogen to wake hime up.

It isn't something you can just get over, but likely your husband's response is his way of venting because he can't 'fix' it either. You sound like so many of us who don't want to pop more pills but who still want and need to find a balance and that balance begins with regulating our emotions which have a huge impact on our hormonal system. Let me know if you want more about this. It's a fun approach to gaining more balance physiologically while managing the undercurrents in our lives. It has helped me tremendously!!!! Best-

What you could do is take him to your OBGYN appts and have the dr explain that it normal and you just cant deal with it. PMS is not something that most men can even comprehend and im lucky that mine does and he is very understand but then again his mom was a nurse and so is his sister. But maybe if you have the Dr. explain what happens during that time of the month it would help him to understand what you are feeling and what is happening to your hormones. Get him involved with your health care and take him to all your dr apts.