Potty Traing

I read the other responses and I just have to say: PLEASE don't PUNISH her for not going! That's terrible (yes, judgemental of me, but it is) and studies have shown how truly traumatizing it is for kids to be punished in this area.

How old is she? That may be a part of it. Kids need to be emotionally and developmentally ready, not just physically ready. This is one of the few areas in their young little lives that they can control, and they certainly push that!

Consistency is key. Kindly remind her and take her every 20 minutes or so until she has learned. But punishing her is not going to help her to learn. It's only going to associate potty time with punishment.

Hi G.. As others have said, age, readiness and consistency are key. Just because you are ready doesn't mean she is. My daughter was nearly 5 before she would do #2 consistently on the potty (3 years for peeing). We tried everything (rewards, taking toys away, sticker charts & spanking). None of it worked, it made the process take longer, it made all of us feel horrible (the spanking part) and I truly believe it prolonged the process. Since then I've had a son (3 1/2) and have read how punishment for this can cause issues down the line (bedwetting, etc). I didn't pressure my son at all and he is fully potty trained (except nights). All kids are different and you can't make them go if they really don't want to. Try not to make a big deal out of her not going but when she does fo have a party! (literally, hats, horns, a present, etc). It will happen, after all do you know any adults that still wear diapers? Goodluck!!

I used to work in a day care where we potty trained 2 year olds. We waited until the parents said they were working with them at home. We would have them try every 30 minutes to go. It just takes patience. Some were trained quickly others took a while. I know my friend let her daughters pick out their own "big girl" panties and that helped her to not want to pee in them. But I don't think that punishing is the way to go....just my opinion.

Set the stage. First tell her something fun, or better still, teach her something fun. Here is a poem I learned when I was very little. "There was a little girl who had a little curl right in the middle of her forehead. When she was good, she was very, very good and when she was bad she was horrid!" Then tell her the rules about going to the potty. Tell them in story form. "Every morning when we wake up, we go to the potty. Every day before we go out to play, we go to the potty. Every day before lunch, we go to the potty. And, anytime you need to use the potty, you can tell me and we will go to the potty. And, what is a very important thing to do after we have used the potty? We wash our hands. And, how do we wash our hands? We get our hands wet and then we put soap on them and then we rub our hands together and we rub and rub and rub them. We rinse our hand really good and we dry them really good and then, we have our lunch, go outside, go to the grocery store........... " Kids love stories. This may sound tedious but potty training is a tedious thing. Try to keep yourself and your child relaxed and the training will be done before you know it.

i don't mean to sound mean but she is training you. i went thru this with my now 4yo son. two weeks of blood curdling screams and me sitting on the step stool beside him waiting until he went. made it happen for us. not fun.... maybe traumatic but he was trained. now to save for his therapy he will need later in life!

You might try Kohl's. If there is one in your area. Im the exact same way. I dont wear strapless or straps..and NOTHING at the knee or above,however, I was able to find a few things at Kohl's..if you have one in your area. Its alot like a Dillards,k they carry the sname brands, a little less..but when they have sales, they have great sales. Another one..is Macy's or Dillards, which I out of my budgdet, however, when they have sales...girl...to they have sales. Great sales! So.I would suggest Kolhi's, or Dillards or Maby's when they have their weekend sales. Also..one more place..is..Cato. Great prices, accessories, and undergarmets...at great prices! If their is one in your area. You can always look onine for a store near you. Sometimes..you can find stuff at Marshalls or Ross..but.the only thing is..you have to looki...but you can get some great, cute, inexpensive things there as well. Just some fyi. Thanks. Jennifer

I bought my son a SMALL toy he wanted.... and he is not getting it until he spends one complete day without weting his pull up and going every time to the toilette.... it is in a place he can see it all the time but can not reach... It looks like it is working, today, for the first time (AT HOME he usually does very good outside home).... seems to me that he will get his toy tonight....

I hope that this is the start to complete his training... I will continue with the small gifts to get him motivated... but I may get him something a little bigger and that he really likes and wants for a longer period of time, maybe a full week since the little toy is working so good today.

I got the toy since Saturday night, needless to say he didn't get it yesterday but I did nothing but to mark that he hadn't earn his toy... it was his loss and I remained calm.

Maybe you may consider this?
Good luck
M.

My little girl was about 2 1/2 when we started potty training her. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but ours was the same way. She ended up doing AMAZING with a sticker chart.

I understand your frustration. Knowing that my son's refusal generally meant that I was going to end up cleaning a mess, I stated making him stand in the corner until he was ready to get on the potty. Standing in the corner is our "time out". That way he didn't get to continue with whatever he was doing, but he got to make the choice about when he went potty. He got to come out of the corner to potty when he was ready, which was generally only a few seconds. The corner may sound harsh, but I think his behavior changed more because he couldn't just say no. He knew that he had to stop what he was doing no matter what. Good luck!!

My son is 4 and it took me over a year to get him potty trained I had to finally listen to my grandmother and started punishing him for not going potty and he was trained in one week!! Night time I didn't give anything to drink an hour before bed and got up once a night and made him go no he either gets up or just doesn't pee

It is hard to do, but let her decide when she needs to go. The more you force her, the more of a battle it becomes. You can give her choices, do you want to potty now or after we put on your clothes? Or you can tell her, tell mommy when you need to potty. This puts her in control. She may have some accidents, but before long she will be telling you that she needs to pee/poop. You can also offer incentives for her to use the restroom. My son loved doing silly dances for pee, poop we had to make the stakes higher.

The only time I tell my son that he needs to use the restroom is if we are about to leave to run errands. I usually make it a game with him. I tell him that I am going to use the bathroom first and off he runs into the bathroom before I even take a step.

If you are using pull ups, use them only for night. Pull ups are like diapers. The minute I put my son in only underwear, he decided quickly that he wanted to use the restroom. I was a little timid to take him out in public in the beginning but I never once had a pee accident.

He was pee trained by 2.5 years and poo trained right around 3. He is also almost night trained at 3.5 years.

Good Luck to you and your son.

How old is she? Well first off dont waste your money on pull ups, big waste of time. Just keep her in underwear. and take her every 5 minutes until she goes. then wait every 10 minutes or so. it is a very time consuming process but if you were like me and sick and tired of buying diapers you have to do it. It will take a couple of days but by the third day with my son he was dry through the night. good luck and have patience. they can feel when you r frustrated and use it against you big time

Is it for #1 or #2 or both? My son had this problem with #2 - he knew how to go, just didn't want to. So our rule is he has to go #2 before watching TV, reading books (unless he sits on the potty), playing video games, going anyplace special, getting a special snack - all the things that he considered special. It got worse before it got better b/c he learned to live without all that stuff, but eventually he got tired of being bored and eating bread for snacks so he started getting motivated again.

HTH!

Hi!!

Be consistent, is the key. I started with every 20 minutes, and as I could see she was needing to go less, gradually increased the time.

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