Hi, hoping you ladies have some suggestions for me. My daughter has just turned 3. We have been trying to potty train her for about a year now. She is very good with peeing in the potty, but absolutely will not poop. When we first starting training and putting her in pull-ups, she just refused to poop. She held it in until she got sick, so we put it off. In, the last 6 months, I have put her in pull-ups, she pees in the potty, but poops in the pull-up, have tried to put her in panties, she has gone back to refusing to poop at all. I am afraid she will make herself sick again. I have to put a pull-up on her so she will go. As you can probably tell, my daughter is a strong-willed control freak. I have absolutely no idea what to do next.
P.S. I work full time, so she is in day care - so letting her go naked is not really an options. Help! Thanks Ladies!
I used a video for my son and it worked great. I also passed the video to a few other moms and they used it. All of them said it worked. It's called "It's Potty Time" and it's an old, silly video. You can find it on www.YouTube.com and on www.Amazon.com.
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HI M.,
This might sound really strange, but chiropractic can help with this problem. I am a chiropractor (and have been for 14 yrs) and have seen a variety of potty training, including bedwetting, clear up after a few adjustments. For more info, go to www.icpa4kids.com (this is the website for the international chiropractic pediatric association, of which I am a member).
Also, since I do a lot of work with nutrition, sometimes, the pooping in the potty thing is related to decreased digestion of fats, proteins or carbs. That can also be ruled out as well, or ruled in. While it might seem that there is a psychological reason for this, it actually might be structural.
I'm happy to discuss this with you over the phone if you'd like. My office number is 215-345-WELL. Or, if you'd like to talk before then, email me and we'll setup a time. ____@____.com luck. N.
If you have a longer break such as during Christmas time, use this time to concentrate on potty training. It is best when done at home for a few consecutive days and messes are not a problem. I had my children call "Elmo" when they went on the potty. It was actually my sister who does a great Elmo impersonation. Really hype up the idea that she will get to talk with her favorite character. Make sure you have someone who will be avaliable throughout you 3 day training...the phone call must be immediately. Just continue every few hours to say, "It is poopie time. It is OK if you don't go. We are just going to sit on the potty and see if it happens. If it does, we can call Elmo and tell him all about it." You should even leav her aloone to have some privacy...then she is not controlling you and you are not controlling her. You are at a battle of the wills and she is winning. Be indifferent as to whether she hold it or not. She may make herself sick, but it is not the end of the world. What is worse is to have a power struggle. Kids know the 3 things parents can not make them do...swallow food, go to the bathroom and sleep. These are the tings they will always hold their ground on if they are feeling like they need a say in life. Take their power away by being indifferent as to whether they do those things, but insist that they sit at the table for dinner, stay in bed at bed time, and sit on the potty every few hours. Good luck. I remember those days well and the frustration that goes alone with truly not being able to get them to do what you want, but remember she has only been in the world for less than 3 years. She has much to learn and you have the beautiful job of teaching her!
God Bless,
L.
wait till she's ready; my girl was almost 3.5, and p.t. went very quickly then
dont get frustrated let her use the pull up til she is ready and just keep trying she will get it..
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M.,
Hi, my daughter was the same way!! She was in daycare and would pee on the potty but as soon as she got home she would put a pull up on and poop. Some days she would be constipated from holding it all day long. I talked with her doctor and she said do not worry, that when she is ready she will do it. The doctor was right just one day out of the blue she pooped on the potty when she came home!!! I had talked with the people at her daycare and made them aware so they knew. There were days at daycare that she would cry that her tummy hurt because she wouldn't go on the potty. Hopefully your day out of the blue will come soon!! Good luck :)Hang in there.
S.
When my daughter started really going potty, she peed in the potty all the time but would poop in her undies. She would hide in the bathroom or her bedroom to poop. She also tried to hold it for a while, but never got sick. It took her at least a month to start pooping in the potty on her own. When she did finally I made a big deal out of it, and she has done so ever since. I've heard that it takes a child longer to learn to poop in the potty than to pee. If she is still going pee in the potty with the Pull-ups on, I would continue with that. It makes an easier time cleaning the poop. She will catch on, it just takes a while.
