Potty Training - Rowlett,TX

four months is WAY too long to push that! when potty training is that difficult, the child is just not ready, and it's time to back off... the harder you push, the more "defiant" she's going to become, it's becoming a game of control, not learning to potty, and you will lose the control game, you cannot force her to potty. i would seriously back off completely for about 2 months, THEN make a go at it for a couple of days. see how she reacts, and go from there. good luck! i have three children, and i'm all about picking my battles, potty training is not a battle i'll fight.

she's likely not ready period! give it up for a bit and try later. sell blood for pull ups if you have too. ;)

if you want to back off but not put her in diapers you can buy the thick cotton underwear and the plastic liners. i found them at target. they work really well, almost as good as a diaper. you just still have to wash it but i know that when i backed off and wasn't as stressed about potty training it releaved the stress on my daughter too. my daughter didn't like the plastic liner at all so that maybe a motivation to help her want to potty train.

is there something that really motivates her? we bought a diego movie that my daughter could only watch when she was clean and dry all day long. we also have a sticker chart that we printed off of the chuckecheeses website that she gets to go to chuckecheeses if she stays clean and dry for 14 days.
you might try turning the tv off and she can only watch for 15 or 20 minutes if she pees in the potty.
my three year old is sorta potty trained. she will not have accidents but she will not tell me she needs to go. i have to put her on the potty. we tried the 3 day potty training thing too and it just didn't work for us. i've tried to get her to tell me but it's just not happenning. so for now i am just being her potty clock.
good luck!

Maybe she is just not ready. I wouldn't push her. She will let you know when she is ready. I wouldn't stress over it, believe she will not be in diapers for the rest of her life, maybe you should just give it a break for a couple of months and try it again at the end of the summer.

Good Luck
M.

I can understand the diaper issue...I stopped buying pull ups for overnight cold turkey because I was tired of spending the money on them. We didn't make a big deal about accidents, we just cleaned up and went back to bed...fortunately he I think he hated waking up and cleaning up more than I did and he managed to train himself in that regard.

I know with my son we went through the same kind of behavior (he was a little younger though) and I was getting increasingly frustrated. I felt like he was ready, just testing me or something. I was told by a friend to back off for a week or two and then go back to training after a break...it was the best advice I could get. Since we weren't "training" the accidents didn't bother me quite so bad. I didn't want to go back to diapers (we made such a big deal about big boy undies I think he would have fought me tooth and nail on it!), so I just let him wear undies around the house and he had to take off the pee pee ones by himself. My husband's grandmother bought some plastic covers at a garage sale...I made him wear those when we were out and about. He HATED those things. I explained that until all the pee pee went in the potty we had to wear those to stay clean. When we started potty training again, I was more calm and he was more determined to get away from the "yucky hard undies". Good luck!

It's okay, stay calm. We understand and have been there.

Every child develops at a different stage. Girls have a tendency to use the inability to go potty for attention more than boys. They are so smart.

I did this with my son from the advice of a successful potty trainer, not sure it will work for girls or not, but a thought to help.

The advice was: let them run around buck naked in the back yard. They will get used to feeling their bodies alert them they have to pee and react at that time, also giving them the power, knowledge to know how to react w/o soiling the house.

It worked like a charm for us - my neighbor has same age child and didn't do it. When my son was going potty, her was still pooping in his cowboy boots. No thank you!
Also use the thick potty training cotton pants and be prepared to throw a few away. Sorry - the poopy ones don't get saved.

Let her control it more herself. Always set the timer to remind yourself to guide her to the potty every hour or two. If she says no I don't have to, encourage but don't force. If she has an accident, that is her error. She won't like it after awhile.

Don't scold, don't degrade no matter how disgusting or upsetting it will be. Negative attention is as good as good attention.

I agree, no more diapers. Bed time still use pull ups though - still too young for nothing. 50% of kids wet one time or another even after 6 months of dry.

Hang in there. You will survive this. Stay positive and you will feel better.

Remember, when she does go potty correctly or stays dry, make a really big deal out of it with verbal and physical praise. :)

Hugs to you both, C.

My daughter was 3 and about 4 months when she was finally potty trained. It seems like you probably have a lot more experience than me. I will just say that my child was very stubborn and rewards didn't work. We finally just made her start cleaning up her own messes. We of course would go behind her and make sure it was cleaned appropriately. It was clean up a mess and get straight in the tub every time she had a potty accident. She eventually got tired of it. Hope this helps!