Potty Training - Midlothian, IL

Give her time she will do it at her own pace. My younger son's (8 and almost 4)both took 3.5 years and both decided to stop the pull ups and go into big boy undies on their own and it only took them one day after that to completely be out of pull ups day and night. My older two boys (18 and 20) I forced at 2 to get out of diapers and I strugled with them. Both also had accidents all the way until they were about 5 and tended to bedwet until about 4. So just have the big girl undies in her drawer and when she is ready shell do it on her own and you will save yourself all the hassel.

hi i am in the same situation as you are currently. this is my second daughter and i know i just need to do the underwear and she will get it. pull ups are just like diapers and only prolongs the process. life totally gets in the way when you have another child but, we can do this! i did only underwear with my oldest and gave her a chocolate raisin each time she made it to the potty and it only took about a week. (we pretty much stayed home that week) good luck.

I say what is the hurry! We waited til our 1st was over 3..has never had an accident, even in the night. Our 2nd just turned 3 and we are just now starting to push it. It is nice when they are older b/c you can talk to them about it and they understand the consequences..positive and negative! We go right to underwear...pull up or diaper at night or nap. Good luck...I say wait...she will be trained before kindergarten!

I have similar advice, based on our experience with dd who started using potty on 2nd birthday, but wasn't ready. Once we realized she "got it" but wasn't emotionally ready, we frequently and gently reminded her that when she was ready to tell us when she wanted to go for a whole day, she could wear her underwear. One day a few months after she turned 3, she said she wanted to wear her underwear and has been potty trained (day time) since then. Six months later, after a few weeks of a morning dry diaper, she said she wanted to wear undies at night too. good luck!

Once you start you CAN NOOOOOOOOOT LOOK BACK!!!!!!!! O.k., so you have a bit to re-do, but don't even thing about diapers or pullups anymore. Commit to staying home with her for a solid week (or a little longer if need be) and go nekkie bottom the whole time (crank up that heat!). Then start introducing undies (NOT pullups!). She needs to get to the point where she prefers being dry/going to the potty. She'll be a little confused after going back to pullups so don't expect it to go as easily as the first time. Be patient! She will get it. If two weeks have gone by and you don't see progress, then and only then consider trying again at a later date.

p.s. If you are concerned for her warmth during nekkie bottom time, make some "babylegs" out of knee high socks with the feet cut off. They will keep her legs warm and will still allow for you to practice pt'ing. After she's potty trained again, you can use them under dresses on cool spring nights!

You've already realised your mistake of putting her back in plastic. Don't compound it by repeating yourself. Hang in there. Stick with it. Give her a treat or a little something special when she goes potty. Let her know with hugs and kisses that pottying in the clothes is baby stuff not your big girl that you're sooo proud of. She may be mimicking her brother because he gets attention with you changing his diapers. Let her help you and tell her how yucky it is. Thank goodness mommys' big girl doesn't do that anymore and kiss her again.

Is there someone to reinforce your the training while your at work. Please review with the care giver on your approach.
Your daughter may not mind wet clothes, perhaps the extra time taken to clean up may intefere with a planned fun event. Cancel and plan the next day. OR a very specially loved outfit just can't be worn with a diaper, and until
diapers are positively not used she cannot wear that outfit.
Make only big girl plans, big girl that tells Mommy 90% of the time.(Nobody's perfect). Stop worrying until she's 3+.

Best advice I can give you...
wait til she is 3 to push the issue. Let her do the naked thing at home without pushing her. Let her have the pull ups for a few more months. If your stressed and she is resistant its not going to work. My 4 yo was not interested until she was almost 3 and then it happened like magic! When she is ready, you will know, just keep doing what works at home!

I am basically going through a very similar deal with my own daughter, who will be three in March. We had her doing very well (only about one accident during the day and starting to even train at night too!) before the holiday break. We've been very frustrated these last few days as it seems she's not even trying anymore. Nearly every time she just goes in the pull-ups instead of on the potty.

I'm quite sure the holidays have disrupted things and plan to start working slowly on her on Monday. I've got some time though, as she doesn't start preschool until the fall, so if she doesn't get it on her own before then, I plan to do the same thing we did with my son, who trained late. I used techniques from the book Potty Train Your Child in Just One Day: Proven Secrets of the Potty Pro [http://www.amazon.com/Potty-Train-Your-Child-Just/dp/B001.... We didn't actually need to do the full-blown party, with relatives and all, but we did follow the whole "day dedicated to potty training" idea, with the doll and all. We followed it up with a sticker chart for several weeks until he was comepletely accident free for a whole week. Then he got a big reward and we were done.

Good luck!

Who is watching the children while you work? Ask them what they are able to put up with. I have worked in daycares and the children are regularly raced to the bathroom while they are potty training so if they (I am assuming it s a daycare situation) if they can put up with the wet underwear you might just do that. And can you stand washing a lot of underwear. Since we know that everyone is using toilets eventually, you might destress yourself if there is any other situation for daycare, by just getting the diapers while you are gone and practising with her during your time with her. Do not feel like that is throwing in the towel. You are successful already, but we have our needs, too. And I think you'd rather have the time snuggling these darlings then washinging underwear every night. Then perhaps in a couple of months it will change. They are so little now. Enjoy them. All of this works out.

Have you tried just big girl panties with no pants? Keep reminding her every 15 minutes that you don't go in the panties. Keep the potty chair nearby. If she goes in the potty give her a chocolate chip. If she wets her panties, then tell her calmly that she made a mess and now she has to clean it up. Make her clean the mess as best she can and change her panties. Tell her that it is a no no to go in her big girl panties.

If she goes fine when naked, then she just doesn't understand that you can't go in your panties. She thinks that as long as she has something on, then she can just go.

Our little one goes through phases where she notices when she goes and then she won't for a day. But we're moving forward. I also have a 6 month old so I can totally sympathize with your daily juggle :)

What has been working for us is this:
We had her run around kind of nakey-butt for a few days and put her on the potty at specific times during the day. Right away in the morning, after breakfast, after lunch, before dinner, and right before bed, taking mental notes when she would actually go. Initially we had a few misses but I tried to keep her in an easy-to-clean-up area to play.

Now I know that she'll have a big pee right at getting up (I've also noticed that when she gets up in the middle of the night and talks to herself she's actually peeing in her diaper - so she doesn't really pee in her sleep) another pee at around 9am, one after lunch and one after her afternoon nap. So I'll put her in undies or in a cloth dipe if I'm really busy, but just give her opportunities to use the potty at regular intervals. We talk about being "dry" a lot and she helps wipe up any accidents.

You'll be able to pick up on her pee patterns pretty quick. Then just give her opportunities to be successful on the potty and reward them! So it might seem like "mommy training" for a little bit, but she'll be able to draw the connection between peepee and pee goes IN the potty. And I don't know about you but we can tell when there's a poopy coming (lots of faces and standing really still) so we pop her on the pot for that too.

Sometimes the patterns are weird, for awhile she'd go potty a little and then go again 10 minutes later and again 10 min after that. That can try the patience. It's worked for us to have her sit on the little potty and scoot around or just plop on a 20 min cartoon while she sits there to wait it out. That way I have time with the baby.

It might take a little while to figure out what will work for you and what will motivate her (treats, stickers, a show) to stay on the potty. But in the mean time best of luck. Having those two little ones is a handful but is such a blessing as well.
-Krys