Potty Training - Chandler,OK

Sounds wrong! she's a little girl. all you have to do is sit her down on the potty for a certain amount of minutes such as 20-30 or longer if you want. she will eventually tee-tee if she's on there enough. children don't like pottys so they will eventually start using it faster the more you put them on it so that they don't have to sit as long. if she doesn't tee tee after 10-15 minutes then just start putting her on it after meals.

Do you mean it's "wrong" in a sexual way? In my opinion, there is nothing sexual or vulgar about doing that. I have never done that with my kids, but it's probably something she had heard of that worked for other people. Kind of like when some people have to have a faucet running to go to the bathroom. Just something different she tried that worked for her. So don't think vulgar thoughts, this is not much different than bathing if you think about it. Good luck with the potty training!

when it comes to potty training, i say do whatever it takes. if it worked for her on 3 out of 3 kids, i'd go for it.

V.,
Hello. I say go with your gut, if it doesn't seem right to you or for your child, I wouldn't do it. There are lots of tricks and tips out there for all sorts of things, but that doesn't make them all right for you and your child. I tried doing a potty dance the first time my daughter used the potty (had heard that from several sources), she thought it was funny 1 time, after that she said no, no - she didn't like me making such a big deal out of it. Which in the end I was glad I didn't start those silly things because using the potty is a natural thing and should be praised somewhat in the beginning, but not everyone will do the same thing for your child (when grandparents are there or at pre-school, etc). I know personally my daughter prefers privacy and has from the beginning, when she has to poop, she asks me to stand outside the door, which I'm fine with, I like my privacy too. And if we're out in public, I just turn my back to her in the stall and look up and she's okay with that. I agree sometimes you have to do what works, but you also have to do what your comfortable with too. Best of luck.
~ J.

Your friend didn't say pour hot water or boiling water on them. I've never heard this before, but getting in water does make you have to go. So if your daughter is sitting on the potty, but no releasing any pee. I could see the warm water causing her to release and get the feeling of peeing in the potty. Some people turn the sink on, as hte sound of running water sometimes makes people need to go too. Obviously the kid has to be cooperative, you are not going to hold them down and do this, but if the kid is willing I don't see why it is "wrong".

If you wrote "hot scolding water" then there would be a problem. I see nothing wrong with this at all. The warm water triggers the senses to need to pee. It also helps relax the area if one is constipated. Something to try before pouring the water since you aren't comfortable with that is turning on the faucet with a slow flow. This is what we do when we have to do urinalysis to help with stage fright. It's never fun to pee in front of someone else. Granted that isn't your child's problem but it might help.

It should be okay long as its not too hot

The warm water sounds wrong to me also. Just continue to let her sit on a potty seat at same time you go also. Make a game of it to see who can pee-pee first. Another thing that might help is to take her in the bathroom to sit down on the potty and then say you are going to wash your hands. Hearing the water gently trickling sometimes makes you need to go also. The main thing is to relax while sitting and not being anxious about it. Make it as fun as you can (with no warm water tricks).

I used the warm water trick to potty train my ds. It worked great!! I am in the process of doing the same with my dd, and she is progressing wonderfully with it.

I don't know about that theory, but, I had my Son & his wife take my grandaughter to the Potty every 30 minutes religiously, no matter if she went or not. I am very Happy to say that she is now Potty Trained in less than a week and is so PROUD of herself, she is 28 months old!!! Good Luck!

Sounds weird to me too. Plus the whole idea of the warm water is to relax you to make you go even when you aren't trying to (think about the slumber party trick of putting a sleeping kid's hand in a bowl of warm water to get them to wet the bed), but the whole idea of potty training is to get them to be able to control when they go. Anyway, just my two cents.

Hi V.....yeah.....not so much on the toddler water boarding. Try to be patient. SHe is going to learn when she learns. Just keep at it, let her know gently that this is what you expect. Tie it into a rewards system if that works for you (it never did for us). And be light about it. No pressure, just encoragement. If they feel pushed or like it is a big deal, they will not do it. Make it routine (we used a timer for months to get peeing down....every 30 minutes when we were home...it wasn't me asking her to pee, it was the timer, this was so effective for us) THe pooping took longer. SHe just didn't want to do it, until one day, she did. We discussd it constantly (lovely...I know) and I showed her that I pooped in the toilet (like you have a choice, I wouldn't know how to potty without company, dog or child) Let her flush ONLY when she pottied and get the everything poops book, the Potty book by Karen Kats is great, Elmo's potty time DVD and other poop inspired things. Her stuffed Hippo Had a play toilet and started 'pooping' on it a week before she did. I just made it normal, and she finally responded.

We also have a toilet seat (from Lowe's or One Step Ahead) that fits our toilet, as in bolted on. It has a lid for big people, and one for little people that nesttles into the big lid, looks like a regual lid. Turns out My little darling hated the wobbly seat that she had picked out. That helped immensly.

I know it is frustrating, I remember it well, especially when she backslides, which happens occasionally. Just try not to let her see your frustration, do your best not to get angry when she has an accident (this was so hard) and make it all matter of fact. Celebrate the poop...seriously. It was like Mardi Gras in the bathroom everytime she pooped. She still hollers "I POOOOOPED!!!" when she does, I come and dutifuly inspect it, commenting when it seems appropriate or when she is particulary proud of shape, size or color (God help me, I did NOT want to know this much about defication) and praise her generously. That worked better than any screaming, pleading, crying or punishing (I tried those too). One day she just got it. ANd it was worth the work...it will be for you too. Please dont' give her anymore to take to her future therapist that she will have on her own!

Good Luck Mommy, you are ready to be a Patient Poop Fan. Yeah!!! You might as well learn the art of faking joy now...it will come in handy for future art projects, clothing selections and (gulp) boyfriends.....

i think it is perfectly normal. Even for adults. Sometimes when you have surgery you have a hard time going. The nurses poured warm water over me and it worked.

Sounds like a good way to stimulate urination in a comfortable way to me.
B. S. RN.CCM

It sounds odd to me, but not necessarily "wrong". Hey, if it works...

I personally wouldn't do it. She will do it when she is ready. I know its stressful having a 3 year old in diapers, both my boys were that way. Thank goodness my daughter potty trained herself at 2.

Our daughter will be turning 3 this weekend. She potty trained herself.

When she was about a year and a half we bought her first potty. It was an awesome little "toilet" (potty) just her size. She used it a few times, but seemed to not be ready. We did try everything from having her favorite snack on standby to a new toy. Nothing seemed to work. We were very patient and my mom (they give the best advice) told us that when she's ready, she'll let us know.

The beginning of the summer, she just started going on her own..and she didn't want the potty chair, she wanted to use the toilet. We put a stool by each toilet and we assist her b/c she's still needs guidance.

Children are all different and I think when your daughter is ready, she'll let you know. Good Luck!!

It's what my midwives taught me to do when I was having trouble going after I delivered my daughter. But it does seem a little weird to do it to someone else, especially a little one.

The Happiest TOddler on the Block says just sit together with child on little potty, and read. They'll pee at some point and you can praise some, but not a lot (performance anxiety, control issues).