Potty Training! - Hugo,MN

I would try backing off for a little while. There is still plenty of time before fall. Drop the subject entirely and wait a month until you try again. It is so much harder to try to potty train when they are fighting it!

We kinda of messed around with potty training for a year too, and it got to be a battle so we the potty chair out of the bathroom for a couple weeks. Then we did the one day potty training method and it's been a breeze ever since. In the one day potty training, first we trained dd's favorite dolly to potty, watched the videos and read the books... then lunch and nap. In the afternoon its her turn. My dd has been completely pee trained for 6+ months, but was still scared sometimes to go poop on the potty and would ask for a diaper but she has conquered that too now.

We also kept a potty chart in the beginning, dd loves stickers! Once she filled a couple in we stopped.

Good Luck

Hi M.,

Ahhh, potty training -- can be so frustrating, eh? I think, given the situation you've described, I'd put the potty chair away in the closet for a couple months. I would bring it out again this summer -- then not really make it this wishy-washy into -- rather just buckle down and train. Take a weekend (or a week, but it probably wont take that long), strip her to underwear -- keep her on solid surface floors, explain that she is to go on the potty now and that wet underwear are "no fun" -- say this over and over again all weekend -- everytime she wets, have her remove her underwear and sit on the potty (even if she does not go -- just sit on it for a few seconds). Then, she can go get a new pair of undies and put them on. Doing this, it took my son about 1 day to "get it" and by the end of the week, he really didn't even have any accidents any more (or at least, they were rare). Good luck!

hi M. maybe your little one is afraid now to use the potty cause someone forced her or to use it when maybe she diden't have to go . or dicouaged her in some way,I would check on that and talk to your litte one and see if anyone yelled at her or told her she had to when she dident have to go. or somthing , because my neice that is 6 now was almost potty trained and my sister took her for an vacation to my mom,s also and then my neice did not want to go on the potty again also , well we found out that it was our mom , aka g-ma that had forced her to go when she dident have to go , my sister talk to my neice and found out . it took another six months to covince my neice that it wasen't scary to go on the potty . chris n

I do agree with the previous post that maybe you should back off for a little while. My son was to the point where he would go often but he still went in his pants once or twice a day. About a month ago I was given the advice to just put underwear on him and it worked in 2 days he was going on the potty every time. He has only had a couple of accidents since then. My son will be 3 in June! Hope this helps!

Let it go for awhile...obviously something freaked her out. She is very young. You know, my kids are 27 and 29 and I couldn't tell you when they potty trained, but they did. Perhaps you want her trained more than she wants to be trained...let it be her idea and you'll be amazed at how quickly she'll want to do it. I work with at risk high school students who have been bribed, prodded, tough loved into doing things all of their life...at 17, 18 and 19 they still want rewards!!!! Leave the potty out...put her in diapers and chill out...if disposable diapers are too expensive, buy some cloth diapers and be gentle on the environment while you're at it. They make excellent paint rags later in life!

Good luck!

I am a day care provider and see this happen all the time. They do well at first then have a relapse. I really don't think it had anything to do with grandmas potty nor grandma pressures. Personally I'd just not push the issue for a while. Keep the potty chair in the bathroom and talk about going potty when you go, but don't make her sit on it unless she wants to.....
If the preschool insists they be potty trained before they can come then maybe you might need to hold off on sending her for a few months.

JMOP,
Renee

You can't control this so my advice is to tell her that you can see something is upsetting her so ask her if you should just put it away for a little while (the first step in giving her control). Tell her that when she feels like being a big girl and trying again, to tell you. If you can, get her around friends who are using it and have little potty parties or cheer when they do it. Let her see how much fun it is. Let her see you going and how much you like going. Then in a couple weeks try again. And when she chooses to sit on it again, make a big deal. But perhaps you can talk with grandma about what techniques she used and explain that that didn't work for your daughter. So tell her you are backing off for a couple weeks and will try again.

She won't go to college in diapers! And once she has control of it again, she might just give up the fight and go.

We've just had a similar situation. My daughter is only 18 months old, and I wasn't sure if that was too early or not, but she started pulling at her diaper a lot, so I got a potty chair, and she went on it every time she sat down (about 5-6 times a day). That is, until I let her stand next to the big toilet once after I had emptied her potty chair into it and flushed. Now she seems scared to sit on her potty again. Since she's still so young, I think I'll just put the potty away for a bit and see how things go again in a month or so.

Since you have preschool to worry about, I like the posts that said to talk to her about what seems to be scaring her, and if she can't express that to you, maybe take a break for a couple weeks. That's what I would do.

My advice would be to completely & totally give up the potty training idea. Just put everything away. Parents are in such a rush to get their children potty trained these days. Let your daughter tell you when she's ready! First of all - get rid of the disposable diapers and pull-ups if you are using them. Then, either get some heavy potty training underwear for her, or cloth diapers. I guarantee you that she will not like how the wetness feels against her skin and want to be trained - and thus she will indicate to you that she is ready.

Can I ask you why on earth you introduced potty training to her a year ago?

Has she visited her pre-school? If he has and likes it, you can start talking about that in July or so - that she needs to stay dry while she's at school. Don't push her for potty training, and don't push her to be fully trained the whole day. Just work on wearing underwear during the times she would be at school.

This worked really well for us - both of my kids took longer to train and no amount of pushing would help. It just made them more resistant. But when there was something they wanted (like going to school!) they felt enough incentive to do the work.

Hi

I agree with what others have said about putting it on hold or even a relpase, but in the meantime, maybe try and find out what happened.

First, maybe ask Grandma what may have happened. If she sat on the big potty (toilet) she may have gotten scared. Falling in just enough to feel the cold water, the sound of the toilet flushing, if the toilet is higher (my grandma had a handicap toilet).

Second, if it is possible, take your daughter back to grandmas and visit the bathroom and ask your daughter to describe grandma's potty. If it is not possible then ask her how she feels when she sat on grandmas potty and how did she feel sitting on the potty at home.

If you can find out what the culprit is, you can build on that. For example, if the flushing scared her, you may want to flush the toilet yourself (with her at a confortable distance) and make it fun (when the toilet is flushed) by saying the toilet is singing, laughing etc.. And when she gets more comfortable, have her try to flush it. Another note, if is the flushing noise, be aware of the ones that automatically flush.

Good Luck!