Hi Ashey,
I'll be in the same situation as you are very soon. I have 3 kids: a 9 yr old girl, a 6 yr old boy and a 2 yr old girl. They say boys take longer and are harder, but that was not really true for my older kids. Both had no interest even though they could do it. If they don't care, it is not worth it to try. I realized after the first 2 that I can encourage them, but I can't make them do it. They have to DECIDE that they WANT to do it. If they don't, you'll be cleaning a lot of poopy underwear. I got lots of pressure from my Mom to get my kids potty trained by age 2 or 3. Easier said than done. Be very careful with punishment. Never punish them for accidents. They already feel badly about it and punishing them or yelling at them or shaming them will make it very hard for them to want to try again. If you find that you are cleaning more up than not after a couple of months, and it doesn't improve, then that is a clue to back off the potty training and wait until they tell you that they want to.
For my oldest, I tried the week of her 3rd BD. I had to put her back into diapers after 4 days because she refused to have a BM on the potty. Then, when she was 3 yrs and 4 months old, I asked her to give up her diapers, and to my surprise, she agreed. After 3 week of trying and with some success, but there was little improvement, we stayed home for 2 weeks. She got to play and watch TV. We just didn't go outside either because the weather was bad. She would ask when she could go to the mall or Mother's day out, and I'd tell her when she was potty trained. One nice day after almost 2 weeks home, I took her to the front yard to water the flowers. Her first taste of freedom. I asked her to go potty first, but she didn't. Five minutes outside she went poop in her pants. We went inside immediately. She was so bored after being cooped up at home for 2 weeks that she realized after that it was easier for her to go on the potty than not. This is what worked for her. When we finally ventured out to the store one day, we went to the potty first so she could see where it was and how far it was. I told her she had to go on the potty because I didn't bring any diapers for her. I told her if she told me we could stay at the store. I knew she could do it since she had been going so well. She did great and told me right away. From then on it was easier and easier. I know that not everyone can stay home, but if you can, it helped me.
With my son, I couldn't stay home. I tried everything. I tried bribery with candy and getting him his favorite underwear, which he used like diapers. I got him a toy as a reward if he went #2 on the potty 5 times in a row. The more I pushed the more he resisted. Also, my older daughter thought she was helping, but I found that she was undoing his poopy diapers that allowed him to smear the poop all over himself and all over his walls in his room. Yuck! It was horrible. I grounded my daughter from TV for a week and instructed her to tell me if he has a poopy diaper instead of opening them! However, I reluctantly put my son back in his diapers because he was using his underwear like diapers more than he should, and I was tired of throwing away or cleaning underwear. I told him that I couldn't make him go, so when he's ready, to let me know. He was 3 yrs and 9 months old when he finally decided he wanted to do it. I thought Pre- school would help with peer pressure, but he didn't care still. He began to care about what his teacher thought. He asked me for his underwear because he didn't want his teacher to see him in a diaper at school. Then after a month of some success, I had given him tokens for going potty and we went to Target so he could buy summer toys for the pool with his tokens. It finally clicked that he would be rewarded for continued use of the potty. He is a heavy sleeper so he still wears Pullups at night. Otherwise, you will be waking up every night to take him to the potty and you'll get tired of that after a week. It is very common for kids, especially boys, to be potty trained during the day and not at night. My daughter just woke up on her own and went potty in the night. She also woke up dry more often until she was dry all the time. My son wants be dry, but he can't consistently yet. I read that it can be this way for up to 8 yrs old. The rule is that he has to change into underwear as soon as he wakes up though.
So with my 3rd one. I am not even going to try. I'm going to wait for her to tell me she wants underwear. I let her go with me to the potty to see what it is. I can wait for when she is ready. If anyone gives me grief about it, I'll just ignore them. Each child is different and at their own pace so you can encourage them, but don't push it if they are not ready. You'll just get anxious and they will get anxious. No one ever is in diapers in college! It will happen. Good luck to us all!