Potty Training - Weatherford,OK

Hi D.,
What I did with my son when he was two, we used the potty timer. I bought a regular kitchen timer and set it for every thirty minutes. When he would hear the ringer he would go to the potty. After a couple of day we would set the timer for forty-five minutes and after a while he didn't need the time to remind him to go. I hope this helps. :)

If she's not having problems at daycare, it's a choice issue not an inability issue. Try reading info at www.rosemond.com on potty refusal/potty training. It's made a huge difference for us!

Good luck.

Read the book Toilet Training in Less Than a Day by Azrin and Foxx.

Please put her on the "regular" potty. It is so confusing to some children why they have a small potty here, a musical potty at home and when they go somewhere else, it is a big loud splashing potty (if you ever have to use one at a department store). Why train her twice? Some children are "scared' that when they go potty, part of THEM is leaving their little body. Make sure she knows it is "waste" and it is natural, and that it is the leftover food she eats after all the vitamins and yummy stuff is left inside her to help her grow big and strong. Practice with her by allowing her to go with you to the potty. Make a big deal about sitting there, taking your time, going potty, wiping properly ( always front parts to the bum parts--ALWAYS!!), and wave good bye when you flush. Tell her you feel better now that the yucky stuff is out and gone. Celebrate her success, but don't punish her for accidents. Take her frequently and consistently upon waking in a.m. or after naps, every time before you leave the house, and before church. Routine matters to a little person trying to train their bladders. Good luck. Her bladder will soon catch up and recuperate after the chemo. Make sure she isn't allowing too long before being somewhere she can try to go. Have to wait too long, then the bladder can spasm, and she can leak.

Hi, It sounds like your daughter is going through a lot for her young mind to think through. Cemo is a hard thing on the body for an adult let alone a baby which is what she is. Be patient and loving, when you get frustrated, it comes out in your energy toward her and she can feel it. That will make it more confusing. Little people are very in tune with our emotions sometimes even more than we are ourselves. She will get the potty training thing it will come and don't sheet the small stuff.

I have six childeren from the ages of 29- 6 yrs. There are milestones that are great and small.Yet they all seem great when you are going through them.

Hi D.~
Sounds as though some of it may be her treatment, you may have hit that one exactly.
And you say you have tried everything. This including, M&M's for rewards?
For lack of better wording~ 1 M&M for #1 & 2 M&M's for #2?
We did this with sugar free M&M's because my little girl really hadn't hit the candy stage yet. Which was around the 2 yr mark. And even when she did get much better at it, we did still have some major accidents.
Just be patient~ as this is a hard time on us Mommies too. :)

My daughter is also 3 and she had a really hard time training. Partly because she has a speech delay and also because she is so stubborn. The thing that I found worked the best was a dvd that I bought for her. She absolutely loves the music and it encourages her so much. I know it may seem unnecessary because she is 3 years old, but try it. I felt the same way.

I really hope this helps. Take care!

Hello D.,

If she is using it at daycare, it might be because all of the other kids are doing it. When my son was potty training, I went to the dollar store and purchased a bunch of little cheap toys. I put the toys in a clear tub on top of the fridge. He knew they were there. When he would potty, we would go over and take the little tub down. He got to pick a prize. This really got him excited about using the potty. It worked for me, hope it helps.

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter having to go through chemo. If she is fine at day care but not at home, it's not the she doesn't know how but is probably just wanting more undivided time with you and when you change her, she get's that. try sitter her on the tolit and reading to her or singing and making that her undivided time. what worked with my son is i took off a week of work, didn't give him a diper but just underware, kept him in the kitchen, easier to clean up there, and every hour on the hour took him to the tolit. I did do pull ups at night but only for a few mnth. it took 3 days and on the 3rd day we were at a resturant in line and he told me he had to go, along with everyone else. My prayer are with you. As far as her being on chemo, please check out DiscoverLimu.com to keep her immune system up.

It might be helpful to discuss this with her doctors. Some chemo drugs have odd side effects. A child psychologist who deals with ill children might have some suggestions too. I think that issue is common in young kids who are ill. They feel so out of control with everything else that they cling to the only thing no one else can make them do...POTTY!

Hi,

I would try to bribe...
It gets kinda costly but if you tell her I'll give you a quarter for going pee pee and 2 quarters for going poop..
It worked for me.. But one thing you have to think about is if she is going thru all of that, her comfort zone is at home and she dosent want to change. Good luck.

Hi D., as a grandmother of 9, and reading of your child's chemo treatments, I believe her little cup is full. I would not push her to potty train at the moment. That's not to say that you can't encourage her to try, but the less of an issue you make out of it, the sooner she'll come around.

Try encouraging her to go when you go. If she's fretful about it, just try another time. Talk to your doctor also. But most of all just reassure her how much you love her and are proud of her accomplishments however small they may be.

Good luck and God bless you and your child. I pray for a quick healing in her little body.

Don't rush the situation. She is going through a lot and potty training should be the least of your worries at this point. She is probably a little frustrated at this point. Just buy pull-ups (big girl panties) for night and day and be patient. It will all come together. Keep the potty chair handy and it will all be better. It is great that she is doing good at daycare. This is in front of her peers. She may be wanting more of your attention when she gets home. Just be patient. Her day will come.

Hi D.,

I have a two and a half year old daughter and she has been completely potty trained for about 10 months now. She is our first child and I hear the first is always the easiest. My husband and I both work full time and didn't have a lot of time to train her during the week. We rented "Elmo's potty time" and as soon as she watched it, she wanted to use the potty. We rushed out and got the portable potty and she didn't want to use it. She wanted to sit on the big potty (with the little potty seat). That video really sparked her interest in using the potty. I know you have tried everything but maybe this would work. Good luck :-)
R.

I dont have any advice, but I completely understand. My son is 3yrs 4mths and he refuses to potty too. I know boys are usually slower than girls. With my older boy, I had to bribe him with M&Ms. If he tinkled in the potty, he would get a few (5 or6). I kept the candy out of his reach in the bathroom (in tupperware). He was 3 1/2 before he was potty trained too.
I dont want to have to bribe my 3yr old, but I might have to.
Good luck to training your daughter, and remember you're not alone.

Im so sorry to hear that your daughter is going thru chemo!!! my heart goes out to you. I would wait till she is done with her chemo. one hurdle at a time. Have you ask her pedi dr for advice od the chemo dr?? Good luck

I have failed with the whole potty training deal. My daughter is 4 years old & teetees in the potty but REFUSES to poop in the potty. She will ask for a pullup, do the deed & ask to be changed. We have done everything from refusing to give her a pullup (which is not a good idea because she will just hold it, get constipated & we end up giving her a suppository a few days later)to trying to bribe her with candy, toys, movies to telling her it makes us sad which then just makes her sad.
It made me angry. I felt like I was not a good mom. I would argue with my daughter (you NEVER win an arguement with a 4yr old) I talked to her pediatrician about it. She told me to relax. She will go when she is ready & there is nothing I can do about it. If she wants a pullup forever then she will just poop in a pullup. In the whole scheme of thing- it's not a big deal.
So, my advice would be just don't pressure her- it's too stressful for all of you. There are more things in life to be concerned about. I know it's VERY irritating but she'll decide to go one day.

I would encourage her to keep trying to get her to use the potty, but not push her too hard. My daughter had the same problem, and was not fully potty trained until after 3 1/2. What seemed to work for us was a chart on the refrigerator with stars for when she stayed dry. Earning a star for going to the potty didn't work, but checking her throughout the day and giving her a star for being dry did. She earned a quarter for each star. After a few trips to the store without any money, she was motivated to be potty trained with this system within a week.

this is hard but it would work and that is every two hours just go sit her on the potty and she will get the idea that she needs to go potty at home too.

If you ever need a babysitter during the week I am available M-f from 4pm-9pm let me know I would be happy to talk to you more!!!

R.