Potty Training a Success... but How to Add Panties to It.

Your daughter is very young, but hey if she can do it, put the panties on her and leave them on her. Explain to her panties and diapers are not the same thing. Let her put her favorite panties on (example: princess) and say to her we want princess to stay dry. My son is a twin and is turning four in May. He refuses to try. Recently, I got fed up and I finally took his pull-up off and let him run around the house bare bottom. He then realized his safety net is GONE :-0 and suddenly he started using the potty. Amazing how that works. As soon as I knew he could do this, I put the big boy underwear on him. He was good for two weeks and then started to peepee in his underwear again. (I'm giving him some slack this week he had the flu) but as he is feeling better we are having talks again about going to the restroom again. There is no going back to pull-ups at this point.

i would start now... I would imagine, since she seems to have the concept down, that after only a couple days of accidents she'll get the point that she's not wearing pull-ups. I understand that you're nervous about taking steps backwards but she's going to need to learn to wear panties eventually so you may as well start now. Like I said she will not like the feeling of the wet panties on her so she will either start to realize the difference between panties and pull-ups or she'll just think that her pull-ups don't work anymore.... either way she will catch on... and if your family can't understand that a potty training 2 year old is going to have accidents then they need to learn!

Does she know the difference between wet and dry? That's what worked with our daughter. I'd put the undies on her and tell her that Dora needs to stay dry and take them off for potty time. I'd check her throughout the day and say "YAY! You are all dry!" When she'd wet, I'd say "Uh oh, these are wet." She had a few accidents, but all is well now.
If it were my dad or father in law coming, I wouldn't let their issues get in the way of your daughter's success. If she doesn't get the hang of undies, then don't do it just yet. She is a tiny girl. There's nothing to hide and this is the technique that is working for her. No embarrassment or shame about it. :o)

Good luck!!!!!!!!

Have you tried showing her that Mommy wears big girl panties and let her watch you go to the bathroom so that she can see the correct way to do it?

Sorry if this sounds blunt, but Grandpa needs to get over it. I don't know how vocal he is about such things, but it may come to the point of you having to tell him point blank to back off. He is not her parent, you are. If this is how potty training is working for you and her, then this is how it needs to be done. If she's not quite 2, then it's perfectly understandable that she might not understand the difference between a diaper and panties yet. She'll get it eventually.
I used cloth diapers with my daughter (I don't use disposable ANYTHING if I can avoid it). When she started trying to pull off wet diapers, I put her in terry cloth training pants and started taking her to the potty. But she had difficulty telling the difference between the terry cloth and a diaper. I bought her several pairs of pretty panties (the ones with teh ruffles on the butt, and ones with her favorite Disney characters on them), and told her these were big girl panties like mine, and that when she wore them, she had to use the potty like me. It worked.

Hi M. C.,

To answer your question, show her that you are a big girl and that you wear big girl panties. And when you go to the potty bring her with you and show her that you pull your big girl panties down and potty on the potty. Make it fun and she will think it is a game.

M. D.