My son is 27 months old. He has been showing intrest in using the potty. He will follow us into the bathroom and watch us go potty. He also lets us know when his diaper is wet, and he will take his diaper off. Our doctor told us a few months ago, to buy a potty chair and set it in the living room, so he can practice getting on and off the potty. He has been doing that for a few months. Last Friday I decided to start potty training, and I would set a timer and when the timer would go off I would take him to the potty (every 10-15 mins) we did this all day long (except at naptime he wore a diaper)he did go pee pee almost every time he went on the potty, and he wore big boy underware the whole day. I have 2 problems, first he will not go on the potty unless he is told, he doesn't tell me he has to go potty, so when he is in the middle of playing he doesn't stop what he's doing to go potty, and will pee in his underwear. My second problem is when dad comes home our son wants to play,and fights me going on the potty (he wants no part of the potty when dad is home) when it's just me and him he goes on and off the potty fine. So I am needing some advice on what to do. We endend up potty training for 2 days and then he stopped because daddy was home. I have done the you get a prize if he go pee on the potty and he seems to like this, but when dad is home he wants no part of the potty at all. So my question is does this mean he is not ready to be potty trained? should I stop and try again in a few weeks? What else can I do to help him go on the potty without me telling him? I hope some mommies that have gone through this can help me out.
You might want to make a game with him. Get a box of cherrios and each time he has to go to the restroom have him try to sink a cherrio.
Ask Dad to take him to the potty with him. After all he is the perfect one to set the example and boys do tend to want to emulate their fathers. This is how a few of my good friends and my sisters trained their boys. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Daddy needs to be taking him every hour or so when he is home. They can do it together. It is really good for dads to show their sons how to do this! Better, than us moms showing them how. Be patient. It is really a learning thing and he may or may not be ready for the responsibility of it. Don't give up, but if it gets too frustrating, you may have to put it on the back burner for a while. He will eventually potty train, they all do.
Your son is doing Great for his age. He will eventually dislike the wet pants and ask you to take him. But,I think your expectation are too high to want him to go all by himself. Really that is good. You want to make sure he tells you when he goes so you can make sure he and the potty are clean. Going one day and not the next is completely normal for his age. So far he knows how and where to go. It will take time for him to learn how long he can hold it. And face it, no one wants to be consumed with "work" 24x7. Everyone needs a break. Let him pick the breaks and my suggestion is for you and Dad to ask him if he needs to go everytime you go. Just don't make the mistake of letting Dad tell him he can go anywhere (outside if you have land) just because he is a boy!! You will never get him back in the bathroom!
Sounds like you and daddy need to decide how to go about this together. If he travels and is away for days then maybe he can make a big deal out of a "Potty chart" that shows how often your son went while daddy was gone. Another thing you can do is get some books from Hastings or another book store your son would like read to him about going to potty.
He is at a good age to start. Boys aren't usually ready earlier. Be patient, he won't start college in a diaper...LOL.
I think you are doing okay, just be patient. My 2yr. 10 month old is being stubborn and won't go. So out come the mini M & M's and the jelly beans. One for pee and 2 for pooh. He really likes this and is more cooperative but still not quite there menatlly.
Potty Training is a LONG process - like weeks and even months, not days. Going in the potty when you take him is a HUGE success. Celebrate everytime, lots of praise! But he will have tons of accidents before this is learned. It takes a LONG time to recognize the feeling of a full bladder and needing to stop what you are doing and go to the potty. It will actually be a success when you son announces "Hey I'm pottying" as it runs down his legs - he is so use to being able to go in his diaper anytime he wants that even recognizing what he is doing is a success.
I do think you are taking him too often, every half hour or even hour is probably often enough. And yes sometimes you will take him, he won't go, and then he will wet his pants 5 min later. . . Like I said it is a LONG process.
Stay positive and don't get frustrated with him. Will dad get involved in any of the celebrations? stickers, or m&Ms or just a crazy, happy dance when he uses the potty? It woudl help if dad was excited too.
Good Luck!
He just needs to learn the feeling that he needs to go. I would keep taking him to the potty at regular times. When daddy is home, have daddy take him to the potty, since he wants to play with daddy anyways! They could read a book or play with a toy while he sits on the potty.
It may take him a while to understand how to feel when he needs to go potty. Just keep taking him and talking to him about it. He'll get it!
When Dad is home, he needs to take him to the potty. You can set the timer and tell him when to take him, but if your son wants to play with Daddy, Daddy needs to do the potty training and make it part of their time together. This way, you are not taking him away from his Daddy time.
It 27 months, you are probably going to have to ask him and take him for a long time. It could be several months before he starts asking to go EVERY time he needs to. There will be messes, my son did really well with a potty chart. We put stickers on it and when it was full he got to pick something out at the store. We filled 2 charts before we went 2 days in a row with no accidents.
We used diapers at bedtime for about 2 months (until we ran out) and then we had to bed wetting incidents after that. Don't go back to the diapers, just keep going and get Dad to help! He'll get it.
I guess I am the odd ball here. Potty training at our house didn't take long. DAYS would be it...but that's because I waited until they were ready. THEY told me they had to go. With DD it happened when she was just barely 2, but with DS, it was 4. I bought underwear, and that was it. No night accidents, no day accidents. EASY AS PIE! LOL
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Hey T.,
Your son is ready. Your hubby should handle the evening potty breaks as kids are easily distracted by toys, tv, or playmates. And as for if potty training takes days or months, it depends on the child. We all do things at our own pace. Time it takes to potty train is not an indictator on anything else. Adjust the training to what suits you and your child. If dad doesn't want the evening shift, then potty during day, diapers at night, etc. Rewards of m&m's or stickers. Consequences of accidents can be helping to clean up the mess, but NO shameing. You can keep going or retry in a month. Again, whatever suits your life and doesn't frustrate your little one. If he becomes overly frustrated then delay the training. Take from or leave out some of the suggestions. Whatever you do, just remember all children are different. And what works for this one, might not work for the next. So do not compare your son to others. As long as he meets his developmental milestones on time(which is a range), then all is well. But from the info you gave, he is ready and daddy just needs to take over once home. You could use the break too!
Best Wishes,
-MB
It sounds to me as though he just wants uninterrupted time with Dad, who isn't around all day. Isn't that reasonable, especially for a boy who's been so good? Can't you just put him in pull-ups for a little while when Dad's home?
I usually don't respond to these questions, because I didn't train either of my children, but just talked to them and let them transition when they were ready, and there were no problems. I don't assume it's that way for every child, but it really sounds as if your son is doing well and just wants some Dad time.
You might have Dad take him to the potty in the evenings. This will get Dad more familiar with the process and make him feel a part.
