Potty Training My 3 Yrs Old Son

My daughter was the same way, she wanted to control the situation. Only for her instead of having wet accidents, she was holding it for a very long long time. I would start worrying excessively after six hours, eventually she got a urinary infection and the pediatrician said to let her take the lead on this. Clearly the dryness was a sign that she was biologically ready but holding it was a sign that she wasn't psychologically ready. We put her back into diapers and one day (8 months later) she said she wanted to wear princess underwear (like all the other preschoolers) we told her underwear was for big girls who went pee pee in the potty, she said she wanted to and never went back to diapers. If you can wait, I recommend wait for him to tell you he wants to go in potty. We loved having NO struggles. Good luck.

first of all,pull ups are like diapers. next.when I potty trained my son,he was in no underware or pants. I let him run around at home with no underware and no pants and had the training potty out. if he has no underware on then he will have to go on the potty. take him to buy a training potty and tell him there is no more pull ups. remember,you are the parent,he is not. put you foot down and stick to your guns.when my son had to poop and wanted a diaper,i told him no and he got mad. i told him if he pooped then he could have a pillow pet. the first day he missed and it went on the rug. the next day,i told him no diaper and when he had to poop. he went on the potty and did a poop so we went to the mall and bought him a pillow pet. ever since that day he has always gone poop on the potty. you will need to make him go to the bathroom after he drinks lots of water or juice. stay on top of him and it will work out.

The new school is asking for underwear, but are they requiring it? If not, it sounds like you and he will be a lot more successful with potty training if it's on HIS schedule, and he initiates it. It's a battle of wills right now, and you most likely won't win this one. He's still young, so if you can, let him wear pullups if that's what he wants. Pretty soon, he'll be asking to wear underwear- which will make potty training so fast and easy!

Talk to the school, tell them the problems you are having, some Montessori educators will understand & some won't, if they don't then perhaps you need to rethink your sending him to this particular one.

The feeling of pullups vs. underwear is huge I would think, if the child does well in his pullups & that is his comfort zone @ school then I would think that would be welcomed instead of wet pants!

At home I would continue the underwear, each time reiterating that this is his, 'big boy' pants & he needs to get used to them for school, eventually he will get it, it's only the 4th day, when he sees that the other boyz are wearing underwear it just might be the catalyst you need.

Good luck to you both & remember that though he is only three, he is a person in his own right & knows what he does & doesn't like next to his skin...

I'm wondering if it's in part due to the change of schedule/school and part of it may be reacting to the change.

For my DD, she has options. Does she want to use the potty or the seat insert? Does she want me to read her a book or listen to her little musical thing that came with her Backyardigans book? What underpants does she want to wear that day? I would also do things like say, "Dinner in 10 minutes! EVERYBODY needs to use the potty and wash their hands!" I put DD on the potty first thing in the AM and before baths and bed.

Hang in there. My DD didn't start not having so many accidents til just recently and she's almost 3.5.

Does he know the new school has an underpants rule and do you think he's protesting or worried about going to school?